NoLove Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Ok I'm 15 and I met this girl online. I always thought online relationshipswere for weirdos so I was trolling this chat site. I met this girl and she added my msn we talked for 3 months. The whole time I said I was 19 and sent her some fake pic. She did the same. I would talk to her for a bit everyday and we had a ton in common but I never thought it would go anywhere. Then one day she told me she knew I was lying and she told me she was really 16and sent me a real picture she also said she liked me a lot and wanted to keep talking as friends only tell the truth. So I sent her a pic and we kept talking only this time on webcams and on the phone. Itkinda slowly evolved into a more then friends thing. I really like her a lot and its been 7 months of us texting non stop and I think I love her. But isn't that kind of weird? She says she always wanted to come to my city and her friends and her are going oadtrip when she turns 18 and maybe we can meet. But I feel sooo weird about it. She also said its fine if I do physical stuff with other girls but I can't have an emotional relationship with anyone else because I should get that from her. What do you think about this?
Citizen Erased Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You are way too young to be in an LDR. It seems rather pointless to have your emotions stay with one person far away but get the physical side from someone else. It just simply doesn't work that way.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Ok I'm 15 and I met this girl online. I always thought online relationshipswere for weirdos so I was trolling this chat site. I met this girl and she added my msn we talked for 3 months. The whole time I said I was 19 and sent her some fake pic. She did the same. I would talk to her for a bit everyday and we had a ton in common but I never thought it would go anywhere. Then one day she told me she knew I was lying and she told me she was really 16and sent me a real picture she also said she liked me a lot and wanted to keep talking as friends only tell the truth. So I sent her a pic and we kept talking only this time on webcams and on the phone. Itkinda slowly evolved into a more then friends thing. I really like her a lot and its been 7 months of us texting non stop and I think I love her. But isn't that kind of weird? She says she always wanted to come to my city and her friends and her are going oadtrip when she turns 18 and maybe we can meet. But I feel sooo weird about it. She also said its fine if I do physical stuff with other girls but I can't have an emotional relationship with anyone else because I should get that from her. What do you think about this? 1st off I think you should be VERY careful the internet is a great place but full of dangers Ive actually herd of pedophiles saying they were some one and ending up to be some one completely different! That said if your going to continue contact with this girl please let a adult in your life know about the situation and then tell her you have done that as well if shes genuine she wont care if not then just as well. DON'T keep it a secret what ever you do ok? Next thing I want to say is be careful about getting that attached to some one on line. If its meant to be it will in the future but don't put all your eggs in one basket now especially at 15. Cause it can be very different once you meet them in real life vs chat phone or even webcam believe me I once talked to some one for quite a while before meeting them only to discover there was really nothing but a friendship there. I don't mean to sound paranoid or be a kill joy but I just wouldn't want to see you get hurt. Your not in love your in love with the idea of it all if that makes any sense? At the end of the day just be careful keep in contact with her but take it slow be friends for now unitl the day you two can actually meet and then take it from there thats my best advice.
impz Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You are way too young to be in an LDR. It seems rather pointless to have your emotions stay with one person far away but get the physical side from someone else. It just simply doesn't work that way. Totally agreed. LDR requires a certain sense of maturity and responsibility (like all relationships but more), and also a lot of patience. 1. Can you afford to live and care for another person? 2. Do you have the maturity to deal with it? 3. Do you even know how to live in a foreign country by yourself? I am not discouraging you but you are too young for this. Give it up, lad. Just be a friend and keep this friendship until you are ready to work.
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