TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 How do I find out my level of general desirability with women? Are there any safe ways to determine this, without humiliating myself and asking out every girl I see? Also, try and make a serious response, or don't bother.
jamal Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You could benchmark yourself against certain peers who you know are smooth with the ladies. In high school I analyzed some of those guys who had girls throw themselves at them and compiled a list of their attributes and then determined if I measured up. I looked at these guys fashion sense, looks, swagger, e.t.c and that alone told me where I stood. Being a BFF with females would be a big help. You can just ask them to be brutally honest and they will give you some very useful criticism or while hanging out with them you will here them describe a guy they have a crush on. You could learn a great deal from this. I had female friends who always complained about how their boyfriends would really hurt them yet they still liked them. So I learned that treating women like crap will endear them to you (at least in the short run). P.S. This advice only refers to desirability in the short term. Long term is a whole different ball game and no pick up artist can school you on that other half of the game.
Author TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Yeah thx for the response, yeah I know no one can really give me advice on the latter portion of a relationship.
Arbitrariness Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 How do I find out my level of general desirability with women? Are there any safe ways to determine this, without humiliating myself and asking out every girl I see? Also, try and make a serious response, or don't bother. Confidentiality concerns aside, you could post a picture of yourself and have females on LS tear you apart.
SadandConfusedWA Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Post your pic on hotornot.com then subtract couple of points because scores are inflated.
Author TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 (edited) Confidentiality concerns aside, you could post a picture of yourself and have females on LS tear you apart. Good suggestion, I've already done that and the consensus was that I was attractive. But, the pic was blurry and not the best quality, and also how do you know others on this forum aren't just being nice? Additionally, someone in RL...found that photo (I only had my shirt of but still embarrassing). Appreciate the suggestion, though. Edited June 14, 2010 by TwilightSky
Sivok Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Easy. The #1 way to increase your 'desirability' is not caring what your desirability is. Be confident and don't let looks affect you at all. Just go out and talk to women - even just casually. Once you built up that natural comfort with speaking to them, your confidence builds, which improves your 'desirability', and you get numbers. Take care of yourself yeah, but don't overly dwell on looks
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Good suggestion, I've already done that and the consensus was that I was attractive. But, the pic was blurry and not the best quality, and also how do you know others on this forum aren't just being nice? Additionally, someone in RL...found that photo (I only had my shirt of but still embarrassing). Appreciate the suggestion, though. Desirability, for guys anyways, does not have to do entirely with looks. In fact I'd say physical attributes are a relatively small part of the equation as long as you are not obese or grotesquely unattractive. Looks, combined with how you carry yourself, your confidence, your social skills, sense of humour, general personality, and sadly sometimes your income, determine your desirability.
AD1980 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Have you ever been complemented on your looks by women? Ever have people try to set you up? Do women you make eye contact with ever hold eye contact ad smile? Ive had none of these things plus i have acess to a mirror so im around negative 6 in desirability.
Author TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Yes, I've had women compliment me on my looks, some attractive ones (strangers) will try and hold eye contact/smiles. It is hard for me to know the intentions of the general woman, because I'm so nervous around attractive girls I don't know (or even ones I do).
Author TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 I've been in bars rarely, and I don't take those situations in account.
Author TwilightSky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 (edited) Post your pic on hotornot.com then subtract couple of points because scores are inflated. Especially for the scantily clad women, I've heard. There are some other variables I've been made aware of that make it inaccurate for guys as well, but I don't have the time to explain. EDIT: Sorry mods, I just realized I could've edited my last post, rather than DPing. Edited June 14, 2010 by TwilightSky
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