portical96 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 If she isnt a flirt with them, isnt dating or sleeping with them, and they all seem to treat her very well and you are a interested man that doesnt really know her yet, what are your thoughts? lets say the man friends dont interfere with you or your interest for her, or perhaps support it.
Cracker Jack Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I'd think she was just someone who gets along with men a lot more than she gets along with women. I know some women that are really like that.
ADF Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 My guess would be that they sought her out, and not the other way around.
sweetjasmine Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I don't really trust people who don't get along with an entire gender. All the ones I've met have had some peculiar issues.
Confusedalways Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I don't really trust people who don't get along with an entire gender. All the ones I've met have had some peculiar issues. Exactly my sentiments!
tigressA Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I don't really trust people who don't get along with an entire gender. All the ones I've met have had some peculiar issues. This is how I see it.
Jersey Shortie Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 No girl has all male friends and doesn't engage in at least some Bud Lite version of flirting. She gets something from having relationships with "all" men only. Guys, never trust a woman that doesn't at least have a few relationships with other females.
skydiveaddict Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Guys, never trust a woman that doesn't at least have a few relationships with other females. ........agreed..............
Sivok Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Well from experience, one of my exes fit this situation. She was a bit of a tomboy and told me she hated other girls. From my observations, she was very insecure and couldn't deal with competition/jealousy, and she loved the attention that guys give her. If there was even one other girl in the room, she would clamp up and not say a word the entire night. She also straight up told me 'when I see another girl may be interested in you, I feel like just rolling up in a corner and letting her have you.' Also, because she loved this male attention, she had friendships with many males that were interested in her including an ex; who clearly stated his remaining interest in her, and who also tried to sabotage our relationship. The fact that one of my best friends is a woman also drove her mad. Hypocrisy much? Oh, and she ended up cheating on me with one of her 'platonic friends' Honestly, if I date another girl who tells me she only has guy friends, that's an instant deal breaker for me. They carry wayyy too much baggage.
Eoweniel Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Uhm, I only have 2 real female friends, who I really feel are friends. Although I will admit I don't get along with them anywhere near as much as I do with guys. Rest of my friends are all guys. And I never... reiterate, NEVER, flirt around with male friends. Many of them are taken, and those who aren't, I don't care for in a non-platonic way. It doesn't matter whether I am taken or not either, I treat all my friends like friends regardless. We just have a lot in common, as I am a major gamer/geek. I just don't get along with females because they're too whiney, attention-seeking, and jealous, and have tedious interests like shopping and shoes. Only shopping I do is shopping for games and similarities.
carhill Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 The impression I get is that they will be decidedly lacking in this male's attention.
Holding-On Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Are her interests more traditionally "male"? How do you know her? Is it possible that her female and male friends don't mix? For example that she plays video games or D&D with guys but actually goes to girl movies with girlfriends you don't know about. When I was in engineering school, the ratio in my field was very skewed. There were honestly 7 of us girls and the rest (more than 100) were guys. Even so I was friends with all the girls and we did hang out together and go ice skating and stuff like that. But I had a lot of guy friends. If I was studying, more often than not I was hanging out with a ton of men (and little old me). In my current field it is like that too. I am the only woman in my unit. Very often I attend some meeting and it is gentlemen and lady (singular). I have had girlfriends and I like women but all my girlfriends seem to move away. So all my penpals are women and my local friends are guys.
Holding-On Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 whoops, should have read the title after drinking my coffee. You were asking for male opinions. My bad.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Women who have almost entirely all male friends are attention whores. Not a doubt in my mind.
sally4sara Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 What I find funny about the way people judge this is the judgment of the reverse. Say it was a guy like this. Never slept with any of his female friends, no flirting, all his female friends warmly welcome whomever he brings around..... He'd be tagged gay. But a woman? no no no, she's gotta be the attention whoring poker night meat.
Bogo123 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Women who have almost entirely all male friends are attention whores. Bingo. And I would definitely consider that a red flag when dating.
carhill Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Say it was a guy like this. He'd be a ball-less, nice guy, friendzone girlfriend with a penis. Equally red-flagged by women as a definite *avoid* for a relationship. BTDT for many years. Personal experience speaking here. Or, he's gay. Either way, not relationship material. The specifics of the gender dynamics are different, because male and female preference and psychology is different, but the relevant health is equal, IMO. Nearly all successful (in life and with women) men I know have few female 'friends', although they have many female 'acquaintances'. The difference is the emotional investment of friendship. These men invest their emotions in their spouses and in their *male* friendships. I finally got that message. Took stbx telling me straight-up (that it wasn't attractive) in MC and the psychologist exploring it with me. Live and learn.
sally4sara Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 He'd be a ball-less, nice guy, friendzone girlfriend with a penis. Equally red-flagged by women as a definite *avoid* for a relationship. BTDT for many years. Personal experience speaking here. Or, he's gay. Either way, not relationship material. The specifics of the gender dynamics are different, because male and female preference and psychology is different, but the relevant health is equal, IMO. Nearly all successful (in life and with women) men I know have few female 'friends', although they have many female 'acquaintances'. The difference is the emotional investment of friendship. These men invest their emotions in their spouses and in their *male* friendships. I finally got that message. Took stbx telling me straight-up (that it wasn't attractive) in MC and the psychologist exploring it with me. Live and learn. I get that Carhill, but he wouldn't be considered doing it for all their sexual attention or that they were all passing him around.
carhill Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 No, women *passed* me around as an emotional receptacle, a place to deposit their marital and relationship shyte. Even now, married women continue to try but MC taught me how to enforce better boundaries. Like I said, men and women have different 'uses' for such people. Again, *some* women. The key is to avoid them. The remarkable correlation I've found is that *gasp*, these are the same women who have few female friends. Revelation!
Gold Pile Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 initial impression is the guys are fruits or the lady puts out.
blueberries Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 IMO it's true whether it's male or female... female with all friends who are male is an attention whore. a male with all friends who are female is also an attention whore. that is a red flag and an immediate turn off for me.
jen_r Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 (edited) All my friends are guys. I have only 1 close girl friend. Few other girl friends I see time to time. My bf was okay with it at first, then it started to bother him. Then he met them all and saw how we acted around each other and he saw that there was nothing going on. I dont like girls, they're too catty and vindictive. And they usually don't get my sick jokes like my guy friends do lol. Annnd I'm deff not an attention whore. I'm actually pretty anti-social. Edited June 14, 2010 by jen_r
Eoweniel Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 All my friends are guys. I have only 1 close girl friend. Few other girl friends I see time to time. My bf was okay with it at first, then it started to bother him. Then he met them all and saw how we acted around each other and he saw that there was nothing going on. I dont like girls, they're too catty and vindictive. And they usually don't get my sick jokes like my guy friends do lol. Annnd I'm deff not an attention whore. I'm actually pretty anti-social. THIS. THIS THIS. Exactly. I'm anti-social as well and do not care for attention from anyone other than my BF. Like I said though, and the poster above me agrees I bet...girls are typically attention-seeking and catty and annoying, and even though I don't seek the attention it's just as annoying watching another female trying so hard. Plus, their humor usually sucks and girls don't seem to catch onto sarcasm or like some of the more twisted/crude jokes I make.
sagetalk Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I would start looking around the room for another girl.
that girl Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 girls are typically attention-seeking and catty and annoying... Plus, their humor usually sucks and girls don't seem to catch onto sarcasm or like some of the more twisted/crude jokes I make. You get that this is an incredibly catty generalization to make about women, right? Girls who don't have at least one good female friend tend to fall into two camps. 1- The chick who is very, very, very male in her interests/friendships. Maybe she had 4 older brothers, maybe she's an engineer, maybe she is a huge gamer. Whatever it is her interests and life just lead her to meet way more guys than girls. Odds are good she doesn't look like a girlie girl, not big on manicures or little black dresses, she's really one of the guys. If you ask her why all her friends are guys, she'll probably shrug and say it is just who she tends to click with. 2- The girl who is typically feminine, might like sports or sci-fi but doesn't seem like a huge tomboy. She'll be quick to point out that other girls are catty, boring, and not nearly as much fun as guys. What she doesn't mention is that she kind of likes being Smurfette and getting the perks of being the girl in a group of guys (rather than one of the guys).
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