AppleGirl Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I need advice from you guys.... Me, divorced, mid 30's, my bf also mid 30's. He is STILL not divorced yet even though we have been together for 2 years. Things between us have been a combination of good/bad. GOOD=The sex is fantastic and he can always make me laugh. Our sense of humour is almost identical. He is also very intelligent and can talk about anything. BAD=He is still not divorced. He also now doesn't want to have any more kids after we have already paid $8000 for me to have a tubal reversal(which i had done when I was married). We argue a lot about money, kids, life. He is very negative. I feel like I always have to be the cheerleader in our relationship. He just floats through life with no real plan , he just takes life as it's handed to him. It drives me nuts. With all this going on, something has happened in the past month that has made my head spin. I recently bought a recreation property and while I was there last month, I met my new next door neighbour....and I'm not sure what has happened to me. I felt like I was sucker punched by, err,lust? Sucker punched by "something" anyway. Absolutely bowled over. He came over to introduce himself, I looked into his eyes as I shook his hand and he smiled at me and WHAM. We actually sat there and talked to one another for several hours, just talking and smiling at one another like 2 idiots. He's single, btw,also in his 30's. Ever since that meeting, I have seen him several times and we both seem to find excuses to come and talk to one another multiple times a day. This past weekend, my bf and I were at my property and I honestly probably spent more time talking to my neighbour than my bf. My bf even commented on it, saying that my neighbour "just sits there with a big grin on his face when he talks to you". I feel incredibly guilty. I'm not sure what to do as I JUST bought this property and it is so beautiful and perfect...minus this little problem. I feel confused about why I feel this way. Aren't I supposed to love my bf? And if so, then why do I want....I'm not even sure what it is I want from this neighbour of mine. Is it sex, love, a relationship? I just know that I REALLY like being around him, spend a lot of time thinking about him and that we stare into each other's eyes a lot when we talk. Help? Answers? Advice? Comments?
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