blue bird Posted January 30, 2004 Posted January 30, 2004 Hi, im a female who has just begun a new job where most of my fellow employees are very much on the good looking side. Only problem is that i am really shy before getting to know people and whenever they talk to me i get all embarressed. I hate this-getting embarressed to talk to people! Any ideas on how to overcome this??
Reckless Posted January 30, 2004 Posted January 30, 2004 Picture them straining on the toilet when you are speaking to them. Just close your eyes and form the picture in your mind, when you look at them they'll seem a lot less intimidating and a lot more human. Second to that, just give yourself time to get to know them, you'll see that they make mistakes, annoy you, please you or bore you just like their less attractive colleagues. I used to work with this young guy a few years back. He had the most piercing blue eyes I had ever seen. You just couldn't look him in the face he was so beautiful but as time went on we got to know each other and eventually I kind of forgot he was so nice looking until I saw some newbie stammering and stuttering and not meeting his eye.... Just give yourself time and remember the 'toilet trick'..... Good luck R.
blue bird Posted January 30, 2004 Posted January 30, 2004 Thanks for that tip, i'll definantly keep it in mind. I know it only seems like a small minor problem compared to some of the others on this site, but it can be a real hassle when you are intimidated by your colleagues and it seems like you're the only one who is. Thanks again.
jenny Posted January 30, 2004 Posted January 30, 2004 actually, i have this a bit too, which is a reversal for me. i like the tip, and will try it. i've also found that making gentle fun of them works too; the one thing most attratcive people are not used to is the complete lack of awe when approaching them.
longlegzs80 Posted February 1, 2004 Posted February 1, 2004 I find with myself that I am the same way. I blush, start studdering, just get all flustered, can't get my mind on focus. It is horrible. I don't work with any men that I am attracted too, but when I see a good looking customer, I am kinda shy too where I find it hard to talk to them. Especially if they try and talk to me. So, I understand. I think it has to do with a confidence thing. Being confident in yourself then it will give you the power of being able to talk to anyone. I think it is the confidence thing. Well, good luck.
doniker Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 Originally posted by Reckless Picture them straining on the toilet when you are speaking to them. Good luck straining on the toilet is no good....can give you hemmeriods.
rockstarmusician Posted February 5, 2004 Posted February 5, 2004 I've gotta tell you about this guy that I know. He is probably the most CUTEST guys you'd ever meet! We're really good friends (and he has no idea that I like him) and everytime I try to say something (and I'm thinking, "Man! He's adorable!!!") I always get flustered.
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