Thebob Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 So I went on a date with this female whose 23, I am 21 last wednesday. We kicked it off well and we followed up the next meet by going out to the bars with her friends and my friends that following friday. We ended up hooking up, holding hands and were together all night. Next day she was being distant and shallow. Then I see her that night and she tells me that its not going to work. She pretty much told me that its cause of my age and she only dates older men. So I told her, well where has that gotten you so far with your past 3? you have been single for 2.5 years so age shouldn't matter obviously and maybe you should try a different age group. She was like I'll think about it and Ill let you know tomorrow ( which is today obviously ). I haven't gotten a response and I am really curious to know why all of a sudden she has had a change of heart. All her friends told me that she likes me and was super excited about the date we went on. I just don't understand how the dis-interest could just happen like that? When I mean hook up we just made out and held hands and stuff, nothing intercourse like. Then she also told me that I know what I want and I'm not sure if you do, I have a path that I want to follow. And she was making all these false assumptions about me that I have no idea where they were coming from. Freaking women, I'm about to give up on all of them. Thebob Thebob
Cracker Jack Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Nah, man. Never give up on women. Don't allow this one to ruin your future experiences. And yeah, I hate the inconsistency, also. The sudden change of heart does seem odd, but it isn't your fault.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Sounds like this girl was just playing the field and you sparked her interest briefly. She got what she wanted and now she is moving on her way to the next guy. I know it sucks for you, especially when you feel like everything is going so well. Life sucks sometimes. It takes time and let downs to find a good women. Try to view this girl as a lesson learned that some women can be fickle. You'll find a good one someday! (that's what I tell myself)
Bangle Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Just move on to someone else, that's what I do. Women are like shoes, they are nice and they are expensive, but they are replaceable.
Author Thebob Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 Like I never been in a serious relationship for more than 2.5 months with a girl, maybe 3. And this year I have met 4 great girls and 3 of them wanted to date but distance screwed us over. It's like the ones that are far away want to date, but the closer ones don't. It's not like I can't mingle and meet women, it's just that "Someday it will happen line" drives me crazy cause I want that someday to happen now. Thebob
popey Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I don't know if going on 2 dates which involved kissing and hand holding, followed by her choosing to move on constitutes a "sudden change". Maybe she just gave it a shot, and for her it wasn't a connection. I know it sucks to be on the other side of that, but that's the dissappointing reality of dating. Its far from unique to women, and its just going to happen sometimes unfortunately. If its happening to you all the time, then you may have a good question as to why. But occassionally, it happens to everyone.
Bangle Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Like I never been in a serious relationship for more than 2.5 months with a girl, maybe 3. And this year I have met 4 great girls and 3 of them wanted to date but distance screwed us over. It's like the ones that are far away want to date, but the closer ones don't. It's not like I can't mingle and meet women, it's just that "Someday it will happen line" drives me crazy cause I want that someday to happen now. Thebob My longest relation was 6 months and that was a year ago and I havent had sex since then and I havent met a woman for the same amount of time. It's depressing, but keep on trying, I have allmost given up.
ADF Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 This woman isn't telling you everything. I don't know what the whole truth is, but I am sure you haven't heard it. People who suddenly break off relationships--even brief ones--are almost never completely honest about why they are doing it. And is isn't because they don't want to hurt your feelings, either. It is because lying is just easier for them than telling the truth. Forget this dumbbell.
Author Thebob Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 true true ADF. She just told me that she was talking to her ex of 4 years that lives 4 hours away because his grandma died. I think she probably has strong feelings for him and is trying to work things out with him, but who knows. Girls are nuts in my opinion (no offense) but why even try a date if I have to do a perfect impression in order for her to stick around or qualify myself better than the other guy she is seeing. It's not cool. Thebob
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