Scottdmw Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I'll just throw in there from the guy's perspective it is absolutely impossible to do the right thing in this situation, that is when deciding how long to wait to call. I've gone over it and gone back and forth many many times. I solicited advice on love shack, read articles, asked my friends. Everyone gives different answers but always with extreme degrees of passion. There are the women who say if you don't call back within 48 hours they immediately lose interest and will never, ever talk to you again. Then there are the women that say you absolutely must wait three days without any contact or they will hate you forever for being clingy. I think you're going to have to be a little more accepting. There is no right answer here. And, there is so much crap out in the society floating around that what a guy does has very little to do with what he naturally wants to do, and much more to do with whatever the last person he talked to told him he should do, or what worked or didn't work for him the last time. Scott
phineas Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) I believe the window is SMALL and from a guys perspective I always recomend calling THE DAY AFTER or at latest with in 48 hours of getting the contact info. Contact info goes STALE fast. YOU have to STRIKE while the iron is hot if you are a man. If he doesn't call soon YOU will probably lose interest so if he ever does call it will be his loss. I agree & practice this. In fact I usually ask the woman when a good time to call is & call her then. I hate phone tag. It's not acting desperate or needy, it's showing interest & letting her know I deffinetly want to take her out. It also lets me guage if she is really interested or not early on. The "rules" are for players & only work on women who are attracted to jerks so I don't bother following them. it helps weed out the unstable ones. I just read you met him on friday. he may have a busy weekend. it's tuesday. did he call? Edited June 15, 2010 by phineas
Author LoveLace Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 I agree & practice this. In fact I usually ask the woman when a good time to call is & call her then. I hate phone tag. It's not acting desperate or needy, it's showing interest & letting her know I deffinetly want to take her out. It also lets me guage if she is really interested or not early on. The "rules" are for players & only work on women who are attracted to jerks so I don't bother following them. it helps weed out the unstable ones. I just read you met him on friday. he may have a busy weekend. it's tuesday. did he call? No. It's Tuesday afternoon, I am off work a few hours earlier than most people are off work so there's always a chance he calls later...but I'm not counting on it. This is the point where I'm starting to care less anyway...not because I'm a bad person, or tell mysel to care less, but because the chemistry isn't as fresh in my head. That doesn't mean I won't talk or go out with him if he called eventually, but I'd have to ask in a joking manner, what the heck took you so long? (assuming it's more than a week after the meeting). If it's several weeks later, well, I probably wouldn't be so quick to answer the phone because that tells me he had another girl in the mean time or something...all signs point to possible player in this case. Because if you like me that much and you are really single, there is no reason to wait longer than a week or so..even if he is just the most insecure dude around, I don't want that anyway... Yeah Paddington no doubt that he really liked me...but we all know, that doesn't mean they will call. I think I've met guys before that I really liked at the time I met them, but for some reason I just didn't have interest in calling them later. At least now i know that if I can feel some real chemistry with someone, it can happen again. I just hope that it does.
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