leveman Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 (edited) ok so we had the whole breakup discussion about how shes confused about how she feels. really loves me etc but thinks she has more platonic feelings. so i accept that an initiate no contact at this point, we part saying we love each other. two days later i go round her house while shes out to pick up my stuff as prearranged during the breakup. theres a note there saying that if she could go back in time to when we were really happy she would pause everything. says i deserve to be with someone who really loves me etc. anyways being doing no contact for a week but theres stuff i feel i wanna get off my chest. would writing her a letter that reiterated no contact but letting me vent a bit be a good idea or not. or should i just wait it out. also only today did she change her facebook status to single even though i changed mine right after the breakup. should i read anything into this? thanks for the help oh i should add that i really want this lovely lady back in my life Edited June 13, 2010 by leveman
ADF Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 (edited) Everyone has mixed feelings after a break up. Everyone has moments when they desperately miss their ex and want to get back together. That is perfectly normal. But, more often than not, actually getting back together is a mistake. Second chances don't usually end with the happy couple living contentedly from that point on. Second chances usually begin a vicious break-up/make-up/break-up-again cycle that can drag on for years. It rarely ends well. Also, I don't think your GF is telling you the whole truth. I don't know what the whole truth is, but I'll bet you haven't heard it yet. Saying she's "confused" about how she really feels, that she thinks you deserve someone better, blah, blah, blah--these are GIANT red flags. Those are cliches, evasions. They're not real reasons. Those are the kinds of things people say when they don't want you to know what is really going on. I would be highly suspicious of her real motives for wanting out of the relationship if I were you. Edited June 13, 2010 by ADF
Author leveman Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 wow what a difference a day makes. so glad i didnt do anything yesterday. feel miles better today, even had a regular meal. maybe because it was exactly a week since the split and i was a bit shocked that she'd not been in touch. but today i realised ive done nothing wrong shes the one who changed and essentially messed me about for the last 2 mnths of the relationship while niavely supported her and stupidly hoped the happy amazing girl i felll in love with would come back. unfortunately she just isnt that person anymore. if she does ever change and get back to being somewhere near that person again, she will have to earn the right to be back in my life
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