raspy Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 (edited) I think I've just realised I've been a desperate boyfriend for the past 4 months. Wanting to hang out a lot, feeling down if haven't gotten a text for 24 hrs, always going over there as soon as asked, wanting to stay at the house for ages. I think this has been putting him off! How can I change this before it's too late? Want can I do to make myself attractive once again? How can i be the prize again that made him interested in me at the start? Edited June 13, 2010 by raspy
JohnM Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 You just need to cut back on your general needyness. Just cool down. Can you handle only seeing him twice a week for instance? Maybe only text once a day (like one text convo). I suggest you cut back to fewer instances of meeting up and see how it effects things. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Too much time spent together can ruin the freshness and things become stale if things become suffocating and neither person has their own space or time. A break of even a day or two is quite nice.
Itzonator Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I think I've just realised I've been a desperate boyfriend for the past 4 months. Wanting to hang out a lot, feeling down if haven't gotten a text for 24 hrs, always going over there as soon as asked, wanting to stay at the house for ages. I think this has been putting him off! How can I change this before it's too late? Want can I do to make myself attractive once again? How can i be the prize again that made him interested in me at the start? Stop acting weird & self-conscious, and it will be fine.
MisUnderstanding Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I think I've just realised I've been a desperate boyfriend for the past 4 months. Wanting to hang out a lot, feeling down if haven't gotten a text for 24 hrs, always going over there as soon as asked, wanting to stay at the house for ages. I think this has been putting him off! How can I change this before it's too late? Want can I do to make myself attractive once again? How can i be the prize again that made him interested in me at the start? You can try scheduling dates in advance, then you will have something to look forward. And find something to do in the meanwhile, read, watch tv, go out with friends. As for texts, tell yourself that he is not obligated to respond.
deux ex machina Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You have all the time in the world if this is to go the distance. Could it be you are feeling insecure/anxious about where things stand (self-generated, or for some objective reason)? Pace yourself.
mortensorchid Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Stop being so needy and anxious, people say, but how do you do that? Find other things to do with your time. Doesn't have to be anything outlandish but whatever it is will take the focus off you and onto other things. Then you won't be so needy and anxious.
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