Div Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I'm 4 weeks post breakup with my girlfriend of 2.5 years now. Today while I was out with a friend it was slipped out that while we were together she was hooking up with multiple guys in clubs and possibly arranging meetups with other guys to hookup. This has really hurt me because I really trusted my ex-gf while we were going out and I feel so stupid and blind that I never picked up on any of it. I'm so hurt and angry I want to tell her how much of a sl*t I think she is and I hope someone breaks her heart the way she broke mine. I dont know what to do I can't think and can never trust a woman again
Bryanp Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 This really sucks. I would let her know that you know and tell her what a disgusting and morally bankrupt person she is. Make sure to tell her that you will inform all of your mutual friends what kind of person she is. This way she will not think that she totally got away with cheating on you without consequences from her actions. Unfortunately for you is that now you will need to be tested for STD's. Who knows what she might have picked up and given to you. Good luck.
ADF Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Don't start punishing other women for what you're GF did. She was a liar and a cheater, but that has nothing to do with her gender.
ADF Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 This really sucks. I would let her know that you know and tell her what a disgusting and morally bankrupt person she is. Make sure to tell her that you will inform all of your mutual friends what kind of person she is. This way she will not think that she totally got away with cheating on you without consequences from her actions. Unfortunately for you is that now you will need to be tested for STD's. Who knows what she might have picked up and given to you. Good luck. Forgive me, but this is exactly what he shouldn't do. If he tells her off, she'll just laugh at him. What does she care? And her friends wll just look at him as a pathetic loser who is angry about getting dumped. However, getting tested for STDs is a good idea.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I'd take the middle position. Don't phone her, and don't tell HER friends. However, don't have any qualms about telling YOUR friends and family members, and mutual friends. What you're hoping to accomplish by going off on her and telling her friends will be accomplished much more effectively -- in terms of how it'll make her perceive you -- by having her find out through OTHER PEOPLE what you know and what you've been telling people. Then she might phone YOU to get pissed off for telling people, and you can simply remain calm about it: "oh I'm sorry, was I not supposed to tell anybody?" Much smoother, IMHO. She obviously had little to not respect for you during the relationship, and she'll have even less for you if you phone her and go off on her. The purpose of anything you do in moving forward with this -- if anything -- is to regain a bit of that respect. And, more importantly, to regain your own self-esteem. If SHE'S the one who loses control and gets upset, while you remain calm and demonstrate a casual "fyck you b!tch, I don't need you" attitude, that'll serve you way better in terms of self-esteem. But yes, definitely get tested for STDs. And remember that the majority of women aren't like her.
Author Div Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Thanks guys. I took your advice and have NOT contacted her to tell her how angry I am even though this is what I really want to do. Trust me, I will make her lies and deceit known. Hopefully I will come out of this looking a lot more respectful than her. But part of me wants her to feel that deep sense of guilt.
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