Eclypse Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I began dating my girlfriend about 2 months ago. I was her first ever kiss, and she was my 3rd or 4th (only ever been drunk ones at parties, I've never been in a relationship before). So essentially we are each others firsts for everything. She's 21, so a bit of a late bloomer I guess. She's really shy. I'm 19 and also rather introverted, but we fit together really well (in my opinion). 2 weeks ago we were in my room and we were getting "frisky" (no sex yet) and I guess I was overwhelmed by what was happening as I'd never done anything like this with a girl before and I blurted out "I love you." She responded accordingly, but ever since then I've been worried if I said it too soon and hope it doesnt jeopardise the relationship. I said it a few times since then, and she always says she loves me too. But she's never initiated it. She's never given me any cause to worry so far though, she says I'm the most amazing person she's ever met and how she hasn't felt this happy when with me in a long time. We were in my room again a few nights ago and she said she didn't feel ready for sex yet, so we didn't do it (but we did pretty much everything else imagineable ) I'm wondering if the relationship is moving too fast. How long do people usually wait before having sex? She said she wants to do it next time we're together. I personally am very interested in it (but I am still a teenage male). I really do feel strongly for this girl, and I would definetely not use her and leave her. We've known each other for years and our parents are fairly good friends.
JohnM Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Don't worry about saying it too early. If it felt right then just let it be, just don't attach too much importance to the feelings behind the word. Use it sparingly or it loses its meaning. Some people don't need to say I love you for it to be the case, they just love. Words needent always be the way its expressed. I hardly ever initiate the I love you exchange and so when i do it means more. You're taking the sex thing right, you know each other quite well by now so you will have built up a great trust in one another. Maybe give it another month or so since you have started other sexual acts already and then just take it to the next stage of full sex when you both feel good about it and it'll go fine. It sounds like you are moving at a good pace, to have waited for at least 2 months is a good sign you are not rushing things. As long as you both feel ready any time is a good time for any milestone. Each couple is different. But I suggest you try not to burn out on each other too quickly, keep things fresh so that the flame stays strong during the initial stages. Thats my suggestion.
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