Lucky555 Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Every time I feel like i am moving on and doing good this guy always ends up contacting me. I feel as though i had legitimate reasons to end things with him a month and half ago. One being him seeing his ex while he is "sweet talking me into continuing to date him". He thought it was perfectly ok. However, i knew better. He never apologized. People make mistakes I know but this was a big mistake on his part. Also, the fact he couldn't progress with me forward in the relationship when we were together for almost two months. We also didn't go on real dates. When things starting getting into becoming closer "emotionally" he immediately pulled back, claimed he didn't have time for me but was still exclusive with me. So basically i had a "partner that i never saw". He also told me it was hard for him to stay invested emotionally. That was it for me. So i was supposed to stay exclusive with someone who i didnt see for a month. Who never once called me, never said they missed me, and contacted me at their convenience?? WEIRDO I have been in no contact. he contacted me about three weeks ago with casual talk. I didn't understand why he was contacting me because there was no way I was going to keep contact with him acting like this. If the guy didn't want a relationship he should just back off. Yet he still lingers in my life. I can't stand it and it hurts to be mean to him because i have some left over feelings. As i see it if the guy can't accept me as i am now then he shouldn't be in my life at all. Is there a kind way to say "if your not into me me then please leave me alone?" This to me sounds like im being mean but its only fair to me. from the beginning of seeing this guy i did think something was off and just studied the situation to see if he actually wanted a relationship with me. However, i found it he seemed to want the physical benefits as opposed to the emotional and physical together.
alphamale Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Is there a kind way to say "if your not into me me then please leave me alone?" yea don't answer his calls or respond to txts or emails
Author Lucky555 Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 yea don't answer his calls or respond to txts or emails Ya good point. He had told me that right now he doesn't have time and in the future he thinks there would be a time for him and I. I think this is why he still contacts me. However I think if someone really wants to be with the person they would have time no matter what. I guess just avoiding him and everything would help. I know he will be mad which I don't understand. Because I have avoided him before and he made some remarks about me to a friend. I just don't understand why he has to be able to keep in contact. He doesn't want to committ himself so why can't he just go away?
D-Lish Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 If the guy didn't want a relationship he should just back off. Yet he still lingers in my life. I can't stand it and it hurts to be mean to him because i have some left over feelings. Is there a kind way to say "if your not into me me then please leave me alone?" This to me sounds like im being mean but its only fair to me. He wants a physical relationship, so he won't back off unless you say no. He can linger all he likes, the ball is in your court to allow him to do so or not. It's not being mean when you stand up for yourself. Don't think of it as being mean, think of it as being true to yourself. You have all the power here- because you can say no thank you. So say no thank you and walk away with your dignity intact. Don't ever consent to being used, and never think that saying no is equivalent to being mean, because it's not. He's not considering your feelings, why should you consider his? Say no and cut him out of your life.
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