XMizer Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) I've been going out with this girl for the past month. At first she really thought I was fun and funny but recently she's been making more demands. She wants more time herself, so now I only see her once a week. She also says I kiss her too much and she hates how I make fun of some of her friends, we actually got into a fight over that. If she finds these faults in me, it makes me question what I am to her. She already gave me oral sex but that's not enough to make me think she likes me. I've been depressed at some of things but I refuse to tell her it's because of my insecurity about our relationship. Sometimes when I ask her if she wants to come over to my house, she makes a nonchalant remark, "Whatever you want," so it makes me feel like she doesn't care about seeing me. If she actually likes me, I expect her to make it seem like she actually cares. She's going to cook dinner and stay over at my house tomorrow and I don't know it's because she feels sorry about me (because I'm depressed) or she actually likes me. So my question is simply, do you think she likes me? Edited June 12, 2010 by XMizer
Cracker Jack Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 How old are you guys? I assume both of you are grown since she's staying at your house. I'm guessing it could be one of those situations where she seemed interested going into the relationship, but, for whatever reason, lost excitement as soon as she got into it with you. It happens, though. Still too early to tell, but that's what it looks like. Either that, or she's simply an up/down individual.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 She wants more time herself, so now I only see her once a week. She also says I kiss her too much... Sorry, man. She's not that into you. No woman who is really into a man would ever tell him he's kissing her too much. Your feelings are warranted.
frenchgirl Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Looks like it's going downhill a bit. Being friends with someone who is depressed can be difficult. Being in a relationship with such a person is even more challenging. Only you have the solution to this.
that girl Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 It doesn't sound good, but it doesn't mean it is doomed. The big thing that stands out to me is that you make fun of her friends and she doesn't like it. This is a biggie and it could be fueling everything else. I don't think anyone should try to totally change their personality for a relationship, but no one wants to date someone who is mean to their friends for no good reason. I think you have to think about it. Is this just a mismatch of personalities or could you lay off? Is this coming from your insecurity? The once a week thing could go a couple of ways. You don't mention it, but could she legitimately have other things that are more important (final exam time in school, she's a bridesmaid in a wedding this month, her mom is sick, her job is requiring overtime, something like that)? I'm also curious if you make actual plans with her. A month isn't that long to be going out and you seem to just want her to come over and hang out at your place. And she's cooking you dinner. Do you ever try to make more interesting plans or cook her dinner? You're worried she doesn't like you but are you showing her you like her? It is a two way street.
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