Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Poll for guys and girls: 1) bride/bridesmaids wear cute tshirts that are fitted that say bride, maid of honor, bridesmaids 2) slutty little tank tops Which would you rather wear or see a girl wearing?
Citizen Erased Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Depends on the outing. Unless they have giant boobs I fail to see how a tank top can be slutty.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 Depends on the outing. Unless they have giant boobs I fail to see how a tank top can be slutty. Dinner, party, then club later that night. Exactly to the big boob opinion!!!
Citizen Erased Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Dinner, party, then club later that night. Exactly to the big boob opinion!!! If it's a club, a t-shirt may not cut it.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 If it's a club, a t-shirt may not cut it. Thank you...
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 If it's a club, a t-shirt may not cut it. If you were attending a bachelorette party and the bride and everyone else in the wedding party wanted to wear cute little tshirts, would you complain and try to get everyone to change their mind and refuse to wear a tshirt? Or would you go with the flow and just agree to it...
Citizen Erased Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 If you were attending a bachelorette party and the bride and everyone else in the wedding party wanted to wear cute little tshirts, would you complain and try to get everyone to change their mind and refuse to wear a tshirt? Or would you go with the flow and just agree to it... I'd go with the flow, it's a bachelorette party, majority rules. Heck, what the bride wants rules. And it's pretty traditional to wear something that tells everyone around you, loud and clear, that it's a bachelorette party. All a part of the fun. Take it one of your girls is kicking up a fuss?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 I'd go with the flow, it's a bachelorette party, majority rules. Heck, what the bride wants rules. And it's pretty traditional to wear something that tells everyone around you, loud and clear, that it's a bachelorette party. All a part of the fun. Take it one of your girls is kicking up a fuss? Yes. And it's annoying/ironic because 3 years ago SHE had a bachelorette party and wanted us to wear tight little tank tops and short skirts. I was more overweight so I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable and self consiouse. But I did not say one word to her because I knew she would not stand for it. And now she is doing the same thing again, except it's MY bachelorette party. She already talked to my sister (MOH) and she already told my friend that we were wearing the tshirts. But then my friend went over her head and biatched at ME about it, trying to pressure me to change my mind. Im frustrated.
quankanne Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 ah, but YOU are the bride, therefore YOU get to set the guidelines. Friend or no, this girl overstepped her boundaries, IMO
Citizen Erased Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Tell her if she has a problem to take it up with your MOH, it's her responsibility to arrange the BP. Worse comes to worse, if she has that much of a problem, tell her she has two options. Wear the damn shirt and stop being a drama queen or not to come if she can't get into the spirit. And seriously, tank top with short skirt? Is she a cheerleader?
norajane Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Really? This is a thing people do? Dress their bridesmaids in the same clothes for a bachelorette party? I'm too old for this stuff! I would find it highly annoying. The bride gets a day where she gets to be the center of attention and force people to dress the way she wants them to. Why is it now extended to everything? I've seen bachelorettes out in clubs and bars, but it's just the bride who is decked out in flowers and balloons or whatever, not the other girls.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 Tell her if she has a problem to take it up with your MOH, it's her responsibility to arrange the BP. Worse comes to worse, if she has that much of a problem, tell her she has two options. Wear the damn shirt and stop being a drama queen or not to come if she can't get into the spirit. And seriously, tank top with short skirt? Is she a cheerleader? Yeah, she loves to dress like she is in high school with reveiling little outfits. It's dumb, I'm almost 28, why would I want to dress that way? My MOH has already told her what is going on and she just doesn't care...but my sister said she would talk to her and take care of it for me. Norajane: We won't be all dressed the exact same way..the tshirts are different colors and say different things on them..they are just all tshirts. Everyone can wear whatever bottoms they want. I just like shirts that identify the bridal party..I think it's cute. I will be decked out of course!
Crazy Magnet Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 I think the t-shirts are cute! I love it when I see big groups out like that all dressed up! Tell this girl to either get with the program or don't bother to come. It's not HER day anymore. She had it, needs to let go of it, and realize that it's your day now.
norajane Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 What's the big deal about letting the bridesmaid where what she wants? Is it really going to spoil the whole thing for you if one of them is dressed differently?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 What's the big deal about letting the bridesmaid where what she wants? Is it really going to spoil the whole thing for you if one of them is dressed differently? No, it just bothers me the way she is going about this. If it's that huge of a deal for her then she can wear a tank top..but it's rude of her to give me and everyone else a hard time about it. This isn't her party, but I definately won't let her spoil it for me.
allina Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 I'm soooooo confused. If you're going out to dinner then a club why don't all the girls dress appropriately for a club outing, be it a sexy dress, or whatever. I think trying to dictate what your friends wear to your bachelorette party is lame, and the t-shirt idea childish. Why don't you wear a nice dress? If you have to have everyone know that it's your bachelorette party, you can wear something that says bride or wear a veil. If a friend was making me wear a t-shirt to a restaurant or club I would be annoyed and very uncomfortable going to a nice restaurant and club in a t-shirt.
make me believe Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Allina makes good points, so I think it depends on where you're going. If it's you're going to a nice or nice-ish restaurant/bar/club then you want to look appropriate and a t-shirt or tanktop won't cut it. If it's somewhere casual then I like the matching "bridesmaid" shirts. If the t-shirts are appropriate for where you're going then I think it's weird that your friend refuses to wear one. I mean, it's a fun silly thing, just go with it!
D-Lish Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Poll for guys and girls: 1) bride/bridesmaids wear cute tshirts that are fitted that say bride, maid of honor, bridesmaids 2) slutty little tank tops Which would you rather wear or see a girl wearing? They wear what they want- what makes them feel sexy- you wear what you want with a little tiara if you want to draw attention to yourself. Don't be a bridezilla and tell them they need to wear a frumpy T to a bar. Allow everyone to wear what they want, otherwise it's a circus sideshow.
Crazy Magnet Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I think what I find annoying is this particular girl's attitude is bringing negativity to the whole atmosphere. If she can't be happy about it then she needs to excuse herself rather than ruin everyone's fun. She needs to put her big girl panties on and come talk to the bride rather than going around to other people planning the party.
Green Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 THis reminds of the time my gf made me watch bride wars with anne hathaway and kate hudson....
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 I'm soooooo confused. If you're going out to dinner then a club why don't all the girls dress appropriately for a club outing, be it a sexy dress, or whatever. I think trying to dictate what your friends wear to your bachelorette party is lame, and the t-shirt idea childish. Why don't you wear a nice dress? If you have to have everyone know that it's your bachelorette party, you can wear something that says bride or wear a veil. If a friend was making me wear a t-shirt to a restaurant or club I would be annoyed and very uncomfortable going to a nice restaurant and club in a t-shirt. Right, but it's my party. Plus, I was under the impression that bachelorette parties included shirts that identified the bridal party. I suppose not everyone does that, but I want to. Maybe that sounds "bridezillish" but oh well. I see your point, but we aren't going anywhere extremely fancy so who cares if we don't look sexy! None of us are going to meet guys, we aren't single... Allina makes good points, so I think it depends on where you're going. If it's you're going to a nice or nice-ish restaurant/bar/club then you want to look appropriate and a t-shirt or tanktop won't cut it. If it's somewhere casual then I like the matching "bridesmaid" shirts. If the t-shirts are appropriate for where you're going then I think it's weird that your friend refuses to wear one. I mean, it's a fun silly thing, just go with it! We are going to a casual restaurant and just a regular dance club that is not fancy at all, people wear jeans to it. My friend likes to dress up like it's a nice, formal club, I'm not sure why. They aren't even going to be frumpy tshirts, my sister plans on making them "sexier" for us. The tank tops would be just as casual (we wore casual tank tops that said "bridesmaid, bride, ect. to my friend's bachelorette party) my friend just wants to look sexy and hot..maybe so guys will stare at her? I don't know why, I mean she's married! I am I really too much of a brat about this? It's just one night!
melodymatters Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 You are going to get answers all across the board on this one. I, personally, find it hokey and think it's likely practiced by the young, naive, and under educated. But, on the other hand, who cares, it's one night out of my/her life, and I would wear just about anything, anywhere for a goof or for a friend. If it's that important to you, just do it, and if SHE looks like a tag along instead of part of the party then she'll be the one who feels left out.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I think you should make them all wear full bondage regalia.
allina Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Right, but it's my party. Plus, I was under the impression that bachelorette parties included shirts that identified the bridal party. I suppose not everyone does that, but I want to. Maybe that sounds "bridezillish" but oh well. I see your point, but we aren't going anywhere extremely fancy so who cares if we don't look sexy! None of us are going to meet guys, we aren't single... We are going to a casual restaurant and just a regular dance club that is not fancy at all, people wear jeans to it. My friend likes to dress up like it's a nice, formal club, I'm not sure why. They aren't even going to be frumpy tshirts, my sister plans on making them "sexier" for us. The tank tops would be just as casual (we wore casual tank tops that said "bridesmaid, bride, ect. to my friend's bachelorette party) my friend just wants to look sexy and hot..maybe so guys will stare at her? I don't know why, I mean she's married! I am I really too much of a brat about this? It's just one night! Yes, it's a party to celebrate your upcoming marriage with you. However dictating what your friends wear to the party is out of line and bratty. I get that this is special party, and I would wear the tank top for my friends but I would feel soooooo tacky.
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