CAChick1873 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 How do you know when things are "real"? My boyfriend is wonderful. He treats me like a princess. He never stops telling me he loves me, or how special I am to him.. he always wants to talk or be with me. We have been together for almost 7 months now. He tells me where he goes, even though I tell him he doesn't have to.. he even texts me nonstop when he's hanging out with his female friends so I don't feel uncomfortable, which I really don't anyway. Heres the thing.. I just got out of a 9 year marriage the same month I met him. The man I was with treated me horribly,never talked to me, we didn't go anywhere..he cheated, and eventually left to be with another female. I trust my boyfriend. THATs not the problem. I am just having a hard time believing his feelings are real. Its not him, it's my thoughts, because of my ex husband... How do you tell when a man is being real? How od you believe it, when it feels too good to be true.
Shakz Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 I can't answer that, because it really just comes down to trust. I would be a little suspicious of someone so effusive as your boyfriend seems to be, but I am suspicious by nature. How can we test someone's love for us? Should we? I think all we can do is look for signs of that love. If he talks the talk and walks the walk, consider yourself lucky. My question would be, how does the way he treats you compare with the way your ex treated you when you first dated him? Considering that might give you some insight into your own feelings and tendencies, and might go some distance in helping you understand your current situation.
ADF Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 You need to trust this man until he gives you a reason not to. It sounds to me like you've lucked. Don't ruin it by making him pay for someone else's sins.
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