Author tigressA Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 I found in online dating the matches were better when I pursued as well. I'm the one who suggested my now BF and I meet up first although he tells me he wrote it in his first email but didn't want to freak me out and deleted it. ha! I figure I know what I want so I might as well go after it! It's awesome that you've figured that out so young! I hope some sparks fly with this new guy! I have little doubt sparks will fly, he's exactly my type...I'm a little freaked, actually, because I had a naughty dream last night with him in it! I haven't been laid in almost a week...too long for me...:lmao: Aero, that would've totally annoyed me too. I hate when people are playing around on their phones when they've got company. SAC, you should totally go for it! The worst that can happen is that they don't respond! I've had guys not respond to messages I've sent and it's not the end of the world, it's on to the next!
aerogurl87 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Really? I singed up for online dating yesterday and have been waiting for guys to approach me (so far one actually e-mailed and seems keen). But I have see a few that seem cute maybe I should send them a "flirt"? Go for it SAC! Sometimes it's best to be proactive, especially for guys on those sites. They email tons of girls and barely get any emails themselves (well initial ones anyway) and I'm sure a change could maybe give you the upper hand.
Author tigressA Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) Go for it SAC! Sometimes it's best to be proactive, especially for guys on those sites. They email tons of girls and barely get any emails themselves (well initial ones anyway) and I'm sure a change could maybe give you the upper hand. That's exactly how I approached it, Aero. I figured since most chicks are so passive and expect the guy to make the first move, they'd be surprised--and pleased--by an attractive woman messaging them first. Men, just as much as women, like to know that someone is interested in them. Many women do not consider this. Also, I think a big reason why women are generally not a fan of being assertive in this way is because they're convinced that if they are, they'll have to wear the pants all the time in the relationship. That's not true at all. If you express interest, and then the man reciprocates interest, they will usually take over and be the ones to pursue. Edited June 12, 2010 by tigressA
Crazy Magnet Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 That's exactly how I approached it, Aero. I figured since most chicks are so passive and expect the guy to make the first move, they'd be surprised--and pleased--by an attractive woman messaging them first. Men, just as much as women, like to know that someone is interested in them. Many women do not consider this. Also, I think a big reason why women are generally not a fan of being assertive in this way is because they're convinced that if they are, they'll have to wear the pants all the time in the relationship. That's not true at all. If you express interest, and then the man reciprocates interest, they will usually take over and be the ones to pursue. Yep. That's how it worked for me. I went after my BF but he was interested too and took over and pursued me after that. You should go after whomever you think is cute! The most horrible thing that happens is they don't write you back, but the best thing that happens is they do, and it works out and you live happily ever after. I'd say the risk is worth it for sure!
Author tigressA Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 Yeah CM, the risk is definitely worth it. Question: Since so many here have attributed that comment to trying to determine if there's anyone else in the picture...if that comes up again, either on the first date or the 5th...how should I answer to it? I feel like I haven't handled it too well in the past, maybe given up a little too much detail. I'm thinking of just saying "There is someone, but it's strictly casual." Then again, that could come off like I'm a bit of a floozy or something.
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