Nikki Sahagin Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Now I know I have an anxiety problem and so I don't expect everyone to be able to relate to my level of anxiety, but am I the only one who finds their ex a source of stress, irritation and anxiety? I don't know whether its a stage or a permanant change but my ex if I even hear him brought up just makes me feel anxious and irritated, I don't feel 'good things' about him anymore. I think this is overall a good step for me!
paleblue Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Nope! you certainly are not alone. I find that my ex annoys the ever living everything out of me. I work with mine. its an extra special treat. Some weeks I am just fine and dont care, other times the thought or sight of her face makes me feel sick sick sick! she emails me once every two or three months. everytime i see her i hear that song play in my head, i pray your brakes go out runnin' down a hill i pray a flower pot falls from a window sill And knocks you in the head like id like too.
WTRanger Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Actually, the best step for you is when you hear his name and feel nothing at all. In due time, hopefully you will feel the sweet bliss of indifference. Yes, what you are going through is all part of the process. Just don't let the anger, irritation, stress and other bad ju-ju dwell inside of you.
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 my ex is a HUGE source of anxiety so much so ive told a lot of my friends to not talk about him. I usually refer to him as 'the ex' or 'that man'I even told my mother that I wanted her to say my ex ex was my ex.) if that makes sense)in an attempt to try and forget him God knows what he says about me Truthfully though deep down he cant hurt me I would be VERY surprised if i saw him again and if I did I wouldnt be happy to see him!
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 If i've ever had to refer to him, I call him 'bumface' - mature I know.
supersub Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Hi Nikki, Yes I think its pretty normal really. Its just those neurological paths that you are trying to sever, and every time that person gets bought up it kind of knocks you a little. But as already stated it will come good over time. Sup. PS The phrase 'Bum-face' is class and had me laughing!
Melrapuo Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 If i've ever had to refer to him, I call him 'bumface' - mature I know. lol a friend taught me that kinda trick years ago too. She said that, like the above poster stated, if you refer to someone as a different name you eventually sever any emotional ties with there name. I called my ex Gorilla that week (we were just picking random animals), but eventually "stupid" became her name. And some other choice words... : ) Just as mature as your name I guess.
This Hurts Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Yes, yes, and yes. It sucks. So bad. It's better than feeling like crying every time something reminds you of them, though.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 yeaaaaaaaaa thats me right there..its like id be watching tv and someone mentions him or his name i start getting this knot in my throat and i start getting shaky. if someone starts talking or asking me things about him i get stressed out and talk with so much anger. it like ruins my day!..sometimes i hate when im at curch because his name is always mentioned since his name is in the bible. i cant even be in piece or calm when im at church..ugh!
Cantcope Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 I hate the anxiety. I realized that when I was in NC, it subsided. Now we're speaking again and I'm back to not sleeping, checking my phone constantly and my general mood can be best defined as just plain annoyed. This sucks.
cdt76 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 If i've ever had to refer to him, I call him 'bumface' - mature I know. hahaha. This is awesome. I thought I was the only one to do this! She is "Whore" and her boyfriend/my co-worker, is S$$tface. I can't bring myself to say their names and it's makes me viciously evil when I actually hear others talk about them or say them. So I made up my own names for them that make me feel happy! Hhahahaha
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