NeverEverAgain Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 So this is what happened I dated this girl for a couple of months everything was going good and all of a sudden her ex(who cheated on her) comes back in the picture and she leaves me for him she's 23 im 20 OK i think it will only make sense if i tell it from the beginning so here is my story bare with me it may seem like a crappy novel. We both were in a college class and sat at the same table that seats four, during the semester i never really paid attention to her,we talked occasionally mostly about school work.So one day with about a month remaining of school,I came into class like i always do,sat down and began to pull out my books from my bag when she pretty much asked me out in front of other people,she first asked if i had a gf, I said no, she then asked if she could have my number and if we could hang out sometime,at first i was kind of shocked and didn't know what to say because it was unexpected(I've had girls ask for my number before but not like that)first i didn't wan to turn her down and make her feel embarrassed because i wasn't exactly "feeling" her at the time.but i thought hey if she's got the guts to ask me out why not give her a chance,so we exchanged numbers and she said she would text me later that night.five minutes out of class i get a text from her saying she couldn't believe she asked me out and that she's been wanting to do so all semester and already setting up a day for us to get together, that's when i told her i wasn't completely honest about having a gf,i said that i don't have one but i am seeing someone,she didn't seem to care. So we start talking on the phone getting to know each other,and started hanging out, she hinted several times in her text and in our conversations on the phone early on about sex, so i knew that's what she wanted,so at that point that's all I wanted from her.before we had sex it was a couple days left of class,she said a couple times that she hopes that i won't forget about her after were done with school and after we have sex(because then i wouldnt have to see her anymore cause school is over) I never said anything back about it,so after we did it,i kind of wanted to cut it off between us,she said she wanted to b more than friends,(stupidly)I said ok,how much more?she said she wanted to be my girl,i said i wasnt ready for a relationship yet,she said she wanted to be someone im close to(pretty much like a gf)so we left it at that and never really talked about our relationship status again. we still went out places and talked(thats where i messed up)we talked on the phone for hrs at night sometimes until the sun came up or until one of us fell asleep on the other,and slowly i started catching feelings for her.she started calling me baby and boo,she let me know that she wanted to be the only girl i had sex with,she said she didn't want to be just another girl to me that i slept with,so she said if she doesn't mess with other guys while with me then i shouldn't with other girls, so i said ok and cut it off with the other girl since then everything was going good,but one time in the middle of sex she asked me if she was the only girl im having sex with, i said yes she asked if i was sure,then i said why are you questioning me?(this was on a Wednesday)that night was the last time i physically saw her. we were suppose to go out that friday but thats when everything started to fall apart, she texted me saying she couldn't make it cause her grandma had been taken to the hospital she said that she was sorry and that she would call me the next day and that she hopes that i still wanted to her again,i said it was ok family comes first,i didn't get a text or a call all weekend, so i waited until Monday morning to send her a text message saying i hope everything was ok and to call me soon because i was getting worried(that's when my feelings began to grow for her,the more i didn't see her the more i wanted her) she text me later that night saying her grandma was ok back at home and that she was feeling sick. after a couple more failed attempts of trying to take her out somewhere because of other exuses like im(really sick, her friend cancelled on her ect)one night were on the phone and she says her ex is back in town for school and he wanted to see his dog(she has his dog he bought for her)and she took it to him for a visit and i guess he saw my "love bites" i left around her neck and he supposedly got angry and she said he shoved her and that it got a little physical,and started saying something about possibly getting back with him. at the time i didn't pay close attention to what she was saying,it was late at night i was kind of tired,so i didn't say anything back about it. so a couple days later were texting and i was kind of being mean to her but i was just joking or whatever and she says "yeah well even if my ex and i work things out i don't want you not being my friend" that's when i knew something was up, i asked why do you keep talking about getting back with him, she says cause he was "in her face" and he was really angry when she told him about us,and she goes on to say she didn't know where i stood with her,she some how thought i still had something going on with the other girl, i said for the last time that she was the only one. so i said what happens now she said about three times "im with you" so we were good at that point,i still did not see her yet,so she always wanted to skype we did that for a while but our communication began to fade. then the morning comes when i wake up to a text saying that she had worked things out with her ex and that we should just be friends "for now" and hope that we could still go out and do things together i wasnt happy with that idea because i felt like she wanted to keep me around in case he cheats again so she has me to fall back on. she seemed confused saying she didnt know i wanted to be with her(i thought i showed that i did when i let the other girl go for her) and she left the situation by saying she was going out of town for memorial weekend and that when she gets back we could get together if i wanted, i said ok, a week passes i didnt hear from her so i decided to text her to find out where we stood(because i was confused about what was going on,still kind of am)she says she thought i didnt want to be friends which i didnt say,for the next two days she would only reply once to the text i sent her with very brief words like "i said we could be friends" "but you said no,"and "i said we could be friends","i want to be friends" (i felt like i was texting an automatic response phone)and she wouldn't answer back in a decent time it took about 10 hrs to get a reply back each time well we had finally came to the conclusion that we would be friends, i then asked when could we talk in person(it had been at least three weeks since i had seen her) she said next week(this was on a thursday) i was a little paused by why that long. i tried calling her twice that night an hour apart she didnt answer, so then i just told myself that i dont care anymore and that im done trying and im going to move on. the next morning she text me saying. it wouldn't be fair to her (ex)bf and then an hour later "what do you want? Im respecting myself and i think its best if we don't see each other.So please don't even text me back,im with him and that's that.being friends wont even work im sorry.Bye"(i feel like she only said that to try to get me to be mad at her and not want to talk to her she doesn't seem to be like that kind of person,thats why i dont think she was in the right mind frame) After she said that i kind of felt relieved because the whole time all i wanted was a solid answer so i can move on. it just doesn't add up to me why she would say certain things like she's "so happy to have me in her life" to" i still want to be friends and hope nothing changes between us", and all of a sudden she says the complete opposite? i dont feel like that was her talking its like he was brain washing her or something, shes lost and confused i told myself that i was happy and was moving on but i still wanted an answer or some sort of explanation as to why, so i called her the next day to find out her number had been changed... another thing is when we were doing fine in the beginning she requested me as a friend on fb but i told her i don't really go on there much so recently i started going back on there i saw she has a picture up of the two of them kissing, do i accept the friend request? that would be the only way of communication now im not sure what to do, Ive been moving on, but its hard not to think about it as some days go by. any type of opinions are welcomed...
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