nolagurl07 Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Ok so last night I went on a 3rd date with this guy..we went to dinner and then went back to his place to watch a movie. We kept it very casual he showed me a bunch of cool stuff he had and pics etc. We each had a beer and just watched the movie. He ended up kissing me just like pecks on the lips nothing overly done. We ended up sitting in his bed talking while watching an episode of sex and the city. He didnt try to take it any further we just layed next to each talking and a kiss every few minutes. It felt very fine with me and he seemed comfortable yet he then proceeded to ask me if i get in bed with just any guy and i think he was joking but i felt really weird after that. I wasnt like going to have sex with him and even anything more than a kiss. So i left his place around 1 and he texted me on my way home saying hope u had a good time. I texted bak i did and thanks 4 dinner. I even told him sry if i got too personal laying in ur bed and he said u were fine trust me..I prolly have nothing to worry about but i just feel like i did something wrong like I took it too far but i mean all we did was kiss and it wasnt like it was this big makeout session. I just dont want to mess this up any advice? Do you think I blew it?
guitar23 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 . So i left his place around 1 and he texted me on my way home saying hope u had a good time. That says it all. You didn't screw ANYTHING up. If anything, maybe you left him wanting more, but any decent guy respects a woman who doesn't rush into things, whether we like to admit it or not. If he's texting you before you even get home, than means you were still on his mind, and if you like him, that's a good thing.
Feanor23x Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Just got back from my third date as well. We met online, and chatted for a few days (3 hours or so every few nights). First date was a meet and dinner. We were out for 4 1/2 hours. Second date was meet at a bookstore, talk, and dinner. We talked in the parking lot of the restaurant, and had our first kiss - one single kiss. Third date was at the Art Institute and lunch. We held hands at the Art Institute, and had some short kissing sessions in her car after lunch. There was some light groping by me in her car. I was worried that I was moving too fast - she has been divorced for 2 1/2 years, and has not been intimate since then. I called her afterward to tell her how much I enjoyed the entire day, and apologized for the groping, explaining that she was really turning me on. She said that it was ok, and that it is the natural progression of things. She later sent me a text saying that she liked the kissing and groping, and to not worry, she'd let me know if it ever made her uncomfortable. That last part is the key. If things are progressing naturally over a few dates, you'll know if it is alright to go further or not. The other party will also let you know if you're going too far.
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