jeffery Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 ok to start out i was with this wonder full girl for 2 and a half years...did everything together etc... loved each other....got on well with both family's. i'd go to football with her bro and dad etc.. she broke it off with me to 'have some fun' got into a rebound as she put it...and is still dating the guy 10months on, however she says he treats her good and bad ....why not dump him...she is clearly missing me or something if she keeps on at me?? she always texts me and friend requests me on facebook in which i ignore and delete as im getting over her. its been 10 months since it happened. last night my ex's best mate text me saying hey sorry to bother you kat my ex wants to know if you still have the scrap book you both made together why would she want to 'know if i still have it' or if so why would she want ti??.....i haven't reply-ed...what is this about?? thanks
LoveLace Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I wouldn't reply to that text. Your Ex should be contacting you HERSELF about anything regarding the 2 of you. If anything, I'd text back that if she wants to talk she has to call me. Aside from that, perhaps she can't make up her mind about weather or not she was right in breaking up with you to date someone else. It's stringing you along, when in the end she may never really want you back. So it's best to cut it off completely; if she wants to be involved with you it should all or nothing (unless you are okay with being "just friends", which it appears you might have a hard time with). Mean time, go on with life as though you don't even know her. If she calls I would keep the convo short and meaningless, as though she's just bothering you...because in fact it IS just bothering you, as it's wasting your time to string you along while she can't decide who she wants to be with. You don't want to be waiting around until you know the answer.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I wouldn't reply to that text. Your Ex should be contacting you HERSELF about anything regarding the 2 of you. If anything, I'd text back that if she wants to talk she has to call me. Aside from that, perhaps she can't make up her mind about weather or not she was right in breaking up with you to date someone else. It's stringing you along, when in the end she may never really want you back. So it's best to cut it off completely; if she wants to be involved with you it should all or nothing (unless you are okay with being "just friends", which it appears you might have a hard time with). Mean time, go on with life as though you don't even know her. If she calls I would keep the convo short and meaningless, as though she's just bothering you...because in fact it IS just bothering you, as it's wasting your time to string you along while she can't decide who she wants to be with. You don't want to be waiting around until you know the answer. Spot on. Your ex seems very immature. She wants her cake and to eat it too. She choose this other guy over you, and is keeping you as a sort of backup. The less you deal with her the less heartache. I'm sure you can find someone else who will want to be with you.
S.Tee Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Hi Jeffery, Obviously she now realize her mistakes & clearly wants you back. She is giving all the impressions how badly she needs you & also trying hard not to show she DESPERATELY needs you, ie: text msg of simply checking on the scrap book is just another excuse. She might also get the encouragement from her family members who obviously like you since you were so close to them. So now it is up to you, yes, of course you are hurt. What was she thinking when she dumped you? Experiment? However, how badly hurt you were, do you still want her back? If deep inside is YES, then why not confront her & express your dissapointment, just let it out! It is not so simple just to make out & continue the romance. Then when whole thing cools off, both are happy couple. But if you are totally sure there is no room in your heart for her, then it is very simple...just ignore or tell her straight, both go separate ways for now. Whatever decision, think wisely & do NOT regret it in future.
LoveLace Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 That's a thought, why not just ask her look are you wanting me back or not? She's had enough time to know that now. Your only acceptable answers to that are yes or no (none of that I don't know stuff). Then you act accordingly. If she makes it clear she wants you back, tell her you only want to be friends for now because she has to earn your trust back again. If you make it too easy for her to come back, she will always think it's okay to "have fun" and come back.
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