Fun vs. Romantic Dates

[xRJ85x]

I was trying to think of date ideas the other day, and I thought of an interesting concept, mainly for the ladies to answer. What's your thoughts on attraction building with fun vs. romantic dates, or better yet, the combination of the two? Obviously you want someone you can have fun with. But while your partner has to be one of your best friends, you're not supposed to be one of his guy buddies in female form. And on the other hand, you obviously want someone who is romantic, but not to the point where it's cheesy and lame.

 

So ladies, do you prefer one over the other, or one holding more weight than the other when it comes to building your feelings? Or just a solid 50/50 mix? Any examples would be great. I ask cuz I feel like I've pushed a little too far in one aspect or the other in past attempts, and it came out being a problem. Plus Googling some date ideas, they seem a little too unbalanced (doing something really active vs. the cliche romantic dinner).

[torranceshipman]

Hmm, well my fiance took me to a picnic in the park, to a historic little place for coffee, and to the theatre, boating on a lake, and to dinner, and that kinda stuff for our first few dates...I guess it was all a bit on the romantic side but it worked for us! We always got on great so we were always laughing and having a good time throughout. I guess it worked so well because our chemistry was great, and also because his thoughtfulness was really evident in everything that he did. I think that is the key - showing your consideration for what she might like (then even if she isnt crazy about the actual activity she will appreciate that you went out of her way to organize something cool for her).

[Confusedalways]

In the getting to know you phases I love walking, talking and exploring my city. Dinner to me is nice, but there's other things I'd rather do.

 

Ideally, I love things like going mini golfing then getting ice cream, or having sandwiches in a small delicious deli that nobody knows about, or going to the aquarium!

 

It should probably be noted that I'm super easy going. I do love to be romanced but I think that should come a little later in dating, for me personally. The whole 'romantic dinner and a bottle of wine' really stifles my personality. I'd much rather discuss how I should be a professional golfer because I'm able to hit par on half the holes . But really, I think people's personality comes through so much better doing 'active' type things.

[Sivok]

Hey confused,

 

Let's go mini golfing, walk around the city a bit, and have sandwiches at this discreet deli i know .

 

For a first date... I like the idea of grabbing coffee, a quick lunch and walking around a bit. It's a more casual environment and I think it eases the original getting to know you phase by a strong degree. I noticed both the girl and I on dates are more at ease in this setting.

[USMCHokie]

It should probably be noted that I'm super easy going. I do love to be romanced but I think that should come a little later in dating, for me personally. The whole 'romantic dinner and a bottle of wine' really stifles my personality. I'd much rather discuss how I should be a professional golfer because I'm able to hit par on half the holes . But really, I think people's personality comes through so much better doing 'active' type things.

 

 

You're a golfer?! :love:

[Lakeside_runner]

I'm a guy so I don't know if you want my perspective on this, but...

 

It depends on the girl. I prefer girls who are a little tom-boys and don't mind a little adrenaline rush. Last GF, we went out to play paintball (dirty, awesome!, lots of adrenaline, nice memories). We had a lot to talk about later on over a romantic dinner afterwards .

 

Nothing tops picking up on little hints. She said that she likes India - well take her out next time to an Indian restaurant for lunch/dinner. She said that she's been to Africa with her dad when she was a kid and she likes the movie "The Ghost and the Darkness" but she hasn't seen it for a while - next time you stay in and cook for her, rent out this movie! I think it's all about listening to her and seeing if what she likes is compatible with you.

[Confusedalways]

Hey confused,

 

Let's go mini golfing, walk around the city a bit, and have sandwiches at this discreet deli i know .

 

For a first date... I like the idea of grabbing coffee, a quick lunch and walking around a bit. It's a more casual environment and I think it eases the original getting to know you phase by a strong degree. I noticed both the girl and I on dates are more at ease in this setting.

 

Why sure! And you better disclose where the good ones are because I feel like I'm missing so many . Let's people watch in Quincy Market while we're at it.

 

Lakeside offers great advice on picking up on little hints, too. There's nothing nicer than realizing that men actually ARE listening and can take little things you say and turn them into fun date ideas!

[sally4sara]

It is highly dependent of what someone considers romantic.

 

Like the movie True Romance.

[Sivok]

Why sure! And you better disclose where the good ones are because I feel like I'm missing so many . Let's people watch in Quincy Market while we're at it.

Haha I love Fanuel Hall. I'm there almost every weekend. Good food, street performances, plenty of people watching opportunities (I usually eat my food sitting on the steps near the stalls and just observe), and a romantic view of the harbor right nearby . Let's do this! Check your PMs

[spookie]

Fun that winds down to romantic. Doing something active that gets us both sweaty, then, when we're ravaged and exhausted, going out to eat, and ending the night with a movie, cuddled up on the couch.

 

Ex: last weekend bf and I went jet-skiing. It began to pour just as we were getting done, so we ran to a bbq place near the beach to get ribs. Then he made me watch "The Sand Lot" (his favorite childhood movie) back at his place.

[sagetalk]

It should probably be noted that I'm super easy going. I do love to be romanced but I think that should come a little later in dating, for me personally. The whole 'romantic dinner and a bottle of wine' really stifles my personality. I'd much rather discuss how I should be a professional golfer because I'm able to hit par on half the holes . But really, I think people's personality comes through so much better doing 'active' type things.

 

After writing this paragraph, your attractiveness to all males increased about 1000x times. Don't ever change .

[Confusedalways]

After writing this paragraph, your attractiveness to all males increased about 1000x times. Don't ever change .

 

That was nice, thanks!!

 

OP did you decide on what the next date is going to consist of yet?!

[xRJ85x]

That was nice, thanks!!

 

OP did you decide on what the next date is going to consist of yet?!

 

Oh, I had already decided. Our first one I took her ice skating because I'm an ice hockey player, and I told her I'd teach her how to skate. I figured something not so active, still fun but more romantic would be good for a second date. So I told her I wanted to take her to a comedy club (and obviously out to dinner before). The only problem is I've been to one's where none of the standups were funny so it can really drag. So I was also gonna suggest the zoo or museum.

 

Unfortunately, if you remember my other thread, she can't get together this weekend so I have to try and maintain her attraction until next week AND figure out when to try and re-ask her...