jamal Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Pardon me. Was married 8 years and am now back on the dating scene. A bit rusty since I married at 26. From reading this forum and other websites such as Askmen I realized that there are all these rules and games associated with dating. e.g. Pretend not to be interested, timeline for going exclusive e.t.c If you have already slept with the woman do all these rules still apply or all bets are off? Is there anything wrong with letting a woman you have slept with know that you like her and want to be exclusive, even if you have only known her for 3 weeks.
Engadget Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Went on one date and had sex, so most of the games were long past by that point. Right now we're not official, but keeping it exclusive to each other at the moment. Sex essentially speeds things up, some things still apply but not the preening that goes on in the start.
norajane Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 If you think you need to play games in order to keep some woman interested, she's not worth keeping. You're 34, or thereabouts, and have met someone you like and want an exclusive relationship with. If you are anything but honest about your wants and needs, you are cheating yourself and settling for an unsatisfying relationship based on someone else's rules. I'd think at your age, you should develop your own rules about dating that are meaningful to you.
aerogurl87 Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 If your age does not end in the word "teen" then the word "games" does not need to come into play when it comes to you dating. End of story.
Author jamal Posted June 11, 2010 Author Posted June 11, 2010 (edited) If you think you need to play games in order to keep some woman interested, she's not worth keeping. You're 34, or thereabouts, and have met someone you like and want an exclusive relationship with. If you are anything but honest about your wants and needs, you are cheating yourself and settling for an unsatisfying relationship based on someone else's rules. I'd think at your age, you should develop your own rules about dating that are meaningful to you. Yes, I am going on 34 and she is 46. The thing is we met again the day after our first innocent date and made love. She actually slept over. Initially I was the one initiating contact and she never called me. I thought it was her way of showing me that even though she had sex with me a day after I met her she is still not that easy. Do women act this way. Anyway, now she has started to call me. You are right about the need to develop my own rules. Its only that it has been a while since I dated so its like a baby learning to crawl. Some say that after a divorce your dating age is not your chronological age but the age you were at when you got married. So its like me going back to being a 26 year old. Edited June 11, 2010 by jamal
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