Author xRJ85x Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Dlish, one last question, since this all appears to be coming to a close I guess. Since you're really busy during the week yourself, about how long would you say I should be waiting for a call back until I consider it a failure? Been two days now, not to mention going into the second half of the week, and I've heard nothing. I'm just really confused because of all the highly interested signs she gave me last week, plus answering a text the day before I called, and now nothing. Do you think she just trusts that I'm laid back enough to not worry about her calling back for a few days or did she somehow lose interest overnight?
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Dlish, one last question, since this all appears to be coming to a close I guess. Since you're really busy during the week yourself, about how long would you say I should be waiting for a call back until I consider it a failure? Been two days now, not to mention going into the second half of the week, and I've heard nothing. I'm just really confused because of all the highly interested signs she gave me last week, plus answering a text the day before I called, and now nothing. Do you think she just trusts that I'm laid back enough to not worry about her calling back for a few days or did she somehow lose interest overnight? I know you asked D this question, but I'll throw in my 2 cents...I consider it a "failure" the moment I leave the voicemail...and then I go about my life and continue seeing other people until she returns the call, if ever...keep in mind this is only for the early stages of dating...if I was in a relationship, this obviously wouldn't apply...
Author xRJ85x Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) I know you asked D this question, but I'll throw in my 2 cents...I consider it a "failure" the moment I leave the voicemail...and then I go about my life and continue seeing other people until she returns the call, if ever...keep in mind this is only for the early stages of dating...if I was in a relationship, this obviously wouldn't apply... Nah I get that from a guy's perspective. Especially if its for the first date call. The only reason I'm really confused is because, as I mentioned, I went from her texting me back 30 mins after she missed my call with "Sorry I missed you call! This weekend is crammed but I really do wanna hang out again!" plus her answering my funny text a day before I call, to nothing as of tonight. I can understand if I looked desperate if she never responded after the first date, but this is a literally drop of interest overnight. I mean I got no problem waiting. Take all the time she wants cuz I know she's really busy. But if I hear nothing, I just don't get why this keeps happening when I haven't done anything to trigger it, you know? You'd think she'd at least text me again saying the same thing as last week. Edited June 17, 2010 by xRJ85x
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I mean I got no problem waiting. Take all the time she wants cuz I know she's really busy. But if I hear nothing, I just don't get why this keeps happening when I haven't done anything to trigger it, you know? You'd think she'd at least text me again saying the same thing as last week. And this is exactly what happens when you start all this texting nonsense so early in the dating stages...you create an expectation of constant communication...you two aren't in a relationship yet...but somehow you're expecting to always hear from her...? Keep texting to a minimum and call only to set up the next date...as the pseudo-relationship matures, you'll be able to figure out how much correspondence is appropriate...if you find them you're texting all the time and only getting responses to 10% of them, then there's a disconnect somewhere...
Author xRJ85x Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 And this is exactly what happens when you start all this texting nonsense so early in the dating stages...you create an expectation of constant communication...you two aren't in a relationship yet...but somehow you're expecting to always hear from her...? Keep texting to a minimum and call only to set up the next date...as the pseudo-relationship matures, you'll be able to figure out how much correspondence is appropriate...if you find them you're texting all the time and only getting responses to 10% of them, then there's a disconnect somewhere... Yea, I was following that. It was only text, just something to keep me on her mind and it was actually joking about something related to her. She laughed at it. As I said before, I'd figure I'd save the rest for quick small talk before I asked her out again the next night. She actually texted me the week before the same way. That was actually Wednesday, where I responded a couple hours later by calling, getting no answer, and getting a text back from her that she would call me tomorrow about the text and about not being able to hang out that weekend. So I got the call Thursday, we talked about it, and that was from there.
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