SouthernNC Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Ok i tried this earlier but my post was ridiculously long so here is a short one. she is 20 and i am 22 she has bad anxiety and separation problems though:( no friends at home and her cat just passed away. she usually tries to push me away when things are bad so that she doesnt pull me down with her depression. ok so heres the deal I have been dating this girl for a year and it was very serious we have talked about getting married after college. since the summer started we just have been a little rocky since we have lived together all year at college and now it is hard doing a long distance relationship. we have seen eachother once but I have messed this up pretty good i think. She was taking it really hard at the beginning not being with me and complained that i didnt talk to her enough. i did however talk to her every night and we txted though out the day. we got into a little fight about our comunication issues and broke up for a day and the next day we got back together. last week she came here and stayed with me for a week. it was great but i have some what nagged her about how much i loved her and all that since i thought she needed it because she said i didnt communicate enough. Once she went home i called her a couple times a day and txted like i thought she wanted but she seemed distant again and conversations were not very long. I got mad at her and said it wasnt right for her to want me to call her more and now that i do she seems to not want to talk. we had pretty good argument on the phone and i said somethings that i shouldnt have and told her not to call me anymore. the next day i txted her that i was sorry for how i was and told her that i just haven't been right because of things that have been happening at home and i missed her so much. and told her that i was so needy and scared because i was afraid of loosing her. she txted me that we had broken up and not to talk to her. I wrote a long letter explaining how i had messed up and how she was the one for me and i would give her space if she needed it and sent it monday, i haven't heard from her since. Do you think i really screwed up? will she come back? what should i do next? i was sup post to go see her for her bday in a month and her rents got me a ticket. should i go see her on her bday if i don't have any contact by then to show her i really want her back?
Author SouthernNC Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 come on i know its not the best write up but would someone give me a little insight
romango Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Do you think i really screwed up? Yes. will she come back? No. what should i do next? Move on. i was sup post to go see her for her bday in a month and her rents got me a ticket. should i go see her on her bday if i don't have any contact by then to show her i really want her back? No. It's over.
S.Tee Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Not very sure of your whole situation but anyway here goes... I gues your ex needs attention.. a lot! She just seems to be creating unnecessary arguments and you did not know what was her expectations actually and ended both of you were not patience enough and broke up. Her changes probably due to certain reason and I feel all these due to lack of self confidence. She seemed to feel down and maybe seeing your life is better than hers made her felt she does not deserve you and you are also not sensitive enough of her dilemma. Since you asked her not to call anymore, it made matters worse. She emotionally cut-off relationship and I am sure until now she remains stubborn and still waiting for you to beg..and beg..and beg for her to reconcile. So, what choice do you have? Follow with the flow, just try to accomodate as what she needed. Try to win her back maybe, remind some nostalgic moment you two had together. She definiely cherish the moments. Remind her that you are not that terrible and how lucky she is to have you and how meaningful she is to you. Simply be humble (but not desperate) and find out her real problem...and be sensitive! Good luck
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