sr9 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Hi I met this Great Women on a Online Dating Site She is a Britsh Aupair in NYC We tlked online on facebook and on the Phone We both like each other and agreed to met and date. We been on three dates and we are dateing for the rest this month and really like each other but theres a problem she is going Away for 2 months this summer shes going to Spain and going back home to England. She will be busy also and won't have time too see me during those two months and we will not get to have any more dates and see each other. So im afraid that I will lose her For those 2 months. She wants too continue too be single and have no string attached see other people and Have fun but she will not have time to have a long term boyfirend when on her Hoildays and she will not fool around with other guys and she doesn't want to commit to me yet and she wants me too have fun and see other people too and don't wait for her and contiune to date other people But she does say we may hit it off right away again when she gets back and she like me alot too i really like her and i want to be with her only and nobody else. What can I do too keep what we have storng and alive when she is gone? How do I Survive the 2 months? And can we have survive the 2 months and hit it off again went she comes back?
madjac74 Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 2 months???! Can I vomit now? A. This isnt even a relationship and B. 2 months? Maybe read some of the real love stories on here and what they have had to endure.
Green Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 In my mind she isn't that into you if she is saying she wants to be no strings attached lets see what happens and please go date other people while I'm gone. You should go date other people and if you happen to still be interested when she gets back give her a call. But it sounds like she might not be interested in you. If she said this stuff after you told her how you feel then she really must not like you that much.
aerogurl87 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Believe me, if she wants to "have fun" while away she'll hook up with someone while on holiday. She doesn't want to commit to you, so why wait? Go find someone willing to commit to you if that's what you want because she's not going to do that for you. With that said 2 months isn't that long. I waited almost 4 months before I even got to meet my boyfriend whom I had met online. Was faithful the ENTIRE time although we're about 12 hours in travelling time apart. LDRs can be done but only if both people are committed to making it work.
Author sr9 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Posted June 12, 2010 thx for the replies update she is not a girl who sleeps around with other guys she told me she just had one bf who she was with and on her holidays she is not going to have time to have a BF on time and she is not going to date when in england and spain but she said that she told me she just wanted to be free for the summer and enjoy being single over the summer and doesn't want a realionship....
aerogurl87 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 thx for the replies update she is not a girl who sleeps around with other guys she told me she just had one bf who she was with and on her holidays she is not going to have time to have a BF on time and she is not going to date when in england and spain but she said that she told me she just wanted to be free for the summer and enjoy being single over the summer and doesn't want a realionship.... If she's on holiday (and from my understanding the word holiday means vacation) she's going to have lots of free time. Maybe she'll spend it partying, hanging out with friends, or sightseeing. But trust me, if she tells you she wants to enjoy being free and single she's essentially telling you "I want to see what else is out there and keep my options and eyes open for any other guys who may come my way". She may not sleep around, but she'll definitely be flirting with other guys if they come her way.
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 2 months???! Can I vomit now? A. This isnt even a relationship and B. 2 months? Maybe read some of the real love stories on here and what they have had to endure. Who is anyone to judge what kind of pain someone else is experiencing in their given situation. The guy really likes this girl, he's in pain, and he came here for help. A comment like this serves no other pupose than to belittle and minimize a situation that is causing him angst. He deserves the same respect and consideration as anyone else coming here for advice. This is about him and what he is feeling- telling him his feelings are meaningless in comparison to what other people are experiencing isn't helpful.
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 thx for the replies update she is not a girl who sleeps around with other guys she told me she just had one bf who she was with and on her holidays she is not going to have time to have a BF on time and she is not going to date when in england and spain but she said that she told me she just wanted to be free for the summer and enjoy being single over the summer and doesn't want a realionship.... If she's telling you she doesn't want a relationship, It's in your best interest to move on with your life. I think she's being realistic in her outlook as she has a summer of travel planned. At least she is being honest with you instead of stringing you along. It's not realistic to consider jumping into things with someone you just met when you are leaving for a couple of months. If it were me in her shoes, I'd ensure I didn't get attached before embarking on an adventure. Don't take it personally- and don't hault your life waiting for her to come back. Keep her on the backburner, but keep your options open. You have the opportunity to have a great summer yourself- don't waste your summer pining over this girl.
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 s a song for you Let me guess...Kate Perry's "california girls?":cool:
skydiveaddict Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Let me guess...Kate Perry's "california girls?":cool: lol..........no!
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 lol..........no! "California girls We're unforgettable Daisy Dukes Bikinis on top Sun-kissed skin So hot will melt your popsicle Oooooh Oh Oooooh"
Spiritofnow Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Who is anyone to judge what kind of pain someone else is experiencing in their given situation. The guy really likes this girl, he's in pain, and he came here for help. A comment like this serves no other pupose than to belittle and minimize a situation that is causing him angst. He deserves the same respect and consideration as anyone else coming here for advice. This is about him and what he is feeling- telling him his feelings are meaningless in comparison to what other people are experiencing isn't helpful. Nicely said
madjac74 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Who is anyone to judge what kind of pain someone else is experiencing in their given situation. The guy really likes this girl, he's in pain, and he came here for help. A comment like this serves no other pupose than to belittle and minimize a situation that is causing him angst. He deserves the same respect and consideration as anyone else coming here for advice. This is about him and what he is feeling- telling him his feelings are meaningless in comparison to what other people are experiencing isn't helpful. Very true. My apologies. I truely like to help with my own experiences and that was obviously unhelpful. I think I was cranky that day because we had to cancel a visit because of work and its been 5 months. But that doesnt mean my feelings are more important and I shouldnt take it out on someone else. Hopefully I can do more good than bad on here. Thinking before I speak isn't my best quality. Sorry sr9! ~ Mark
Citizen Erased Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Ok...it's been 3 months since I've seen my bf, we've only spent 3 weeks together in person. It has been the easiest thing, something that hasn't even been an effort, to stay committed to him and only him. This girl is very clearly saying to you she can't promise that. It sucks but really, if it's going to happen, in 2 months it will. If you can't handle the thought of her going out and being with other people during that time I suggest you don't make plans on seeing her after the 2 months. If you can, great, go out and date and if in 2 months you're both single and still interested, go from there. There really isn't anything you can do in this point of time to change her mind. At least she has been honest with you, not everyone would be.
Green Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 Ok...it's been 3 months since I've seen my bf, we've only spent 3 weeks together in person. It has been the easiest thing, something that hasn't even been an effort, to stay committed to him and only him. This girl is very clearly saying to you she can't promise that. It sucks but really, if it's going to happen, in 2 months it will. If you can't handle the thought of her going out and being with other people during that time I suggest you don't make plans on seeing her after the 2 months. If you can, great, go out and date and if in 2 months you're both single and still interested, go from there. There really isn't anything you can do in this point of time to change her mind. At least she has been honest with you, not everyone would be. Some one started a fire in your heart.
Author sr9 Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Well thx everyone u really! Helped me This is a good fourm but Is really... sux!!! I gress im going to go back to my old life before i met her Too bad i don't have school and just working becasue it will be hard to find someone else.... I usally go online to find people what can i do????? But she really change my life so far i was fianlly happy i never had a gf before im a first timer..... But if in 2 months we both single and still interested that will be good but who knows life throws alot of change at people and it sux I can try to keep a little contact and hold on to her and hopefully she will still have feelings so im going to enjoy this last two dates and that will be it.... : (
madjac74 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Dont give up! If its meant to be then things will workout. We have all had a first love and its rarely the person you end up with. You will learn from this situation and then move on to better things. Don't try so hard to find "the one" just relax and enjoy your life. The perfect one will pop up when you least expect it!
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