The Horniest Man Alive

[Green]

But how does one figure out who they are? How does one be themselves when they haven't taken the time to learn more about themselves? This takes sacrifice, and women are simply a by-product of self knowledge. There is nothing in a woman that is not already in man to begin with. Thus I can disagree with you while agreeing with you at the same time, and you will have no idea what I'm talking about. Right?

 

You JUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE. People are afraid to be who they are, but they KNOW who they are.

 

My issue with the generic advice of, "Meet girls, talk to them, ask them out, kiss them" is that there are tons of holes and missing information.

 

As I said before I'm going to summer school college. There are 4 girls that I'm interested in, two in each class . I have exchanged a few words with all of them and I've had very short conversations with two.

 

Breaking the ice is hard enough and once that's actually accomplished, then I have to know what to say that would get a girl to go on a date with me.

 

Becasue of my height and average looks, most women are not physically attracted to me, I know that my words and actions have to make up the difference.

 

As for the other part of "use your hornieness," I don't have a clue how to actually do that.

 

There are no GAPS that you YOURSELF can't fill in. Look if you screw up and say the wrong thing LEARN FROM it. Just make something up that sounds good to you "Would you mind going over my notes with me"... anything really to get the girl alone and then just FLirt. Look you will learn from your failures but so far you are CLASIC example of some one who is not trying. The sad part is you have CLASS with them so its like you have a shot at them every day that you arn't taking. SCHOOL is a GREAT PLACE to find a date. ASK THEM OUT. ASK all 4 of them out as long as it isn't obviouse... you don't want to come off as a player. GOOD LUCK stop pertending like you don't know what to do. YOU DO KNOW WHAT TO DO, YOUR JUST TO AFRAID TO TRY!

 

OK, let me explain why am I single. Two years ago, I got out from a 4.5-year long relationship of which the last 1.5 years were just hell on earth. In addition, for six months of the year it was a LDR with a 7 hours time difference. It took me a year to recover from that. I've changed a lot and have grown as a person. At the point where I was finally ready to date, I knew I'm gonna be finishing up my PhD and moving so I haven't planned on starting anything. I was more focused on the job applications etc. Well, a wonderful girl came along, we dated and had a really good time together but since I'll be moving to LA and she wants to stay close to her family (and take over her dad's business) we called it quits since it didn't have a future. We still remain close friends.

 

Being in grad school consumed most of the time. Being on a grad student salary and saving for a trip to Europe once a year means you don't want to have a car which makes dating a lot harder . In addition - you're perceived as "still being in school".

 

Right now, I'll be in MN for only two more months so what's the point of getting into a relationship? This is why I am single. As I said - I didn't even plan to get into a relationship last October since I knew I'll be moving. Stupid me thought that it's gonna work out somehow - a lesson well learned now.

 

I go out on casual dates - just to have fun. Better this than sitting at home. I enjoy the company of beautiful girls. I think that I have a lot to offer as a person. Training and racing really has worked wonders for my confidence which combined with the 'philosophy' and world approach of Aikido is a great combination.

 

I'm not really into "picking up" girls at bars, malls, coffee shops, etc. Don't believe in random encounters. Rather than that, I'm a regular at a bunch of places/venues with a relatively high turn-around of people, like the U's RecCenter (same time of day every day), or my running group. If I see a girl that I think I would get along with well, I usually go and talk to her, but since the environment is familiar and it really makes things easier. I don't have a problem with running up to a girl, make eye contact, smile and if she smiles back ask her for instance things like "So, how far do you go today?" or "Are you training for something?", "Do you have any races coming up soon?", introduce myself, ask if I she minds if we run together for a while... It's natural, it's non-invasive, non-interrupting, polite... and from the get-go you have something in common! You just have to have this positive attitude towards life and this is hard to accomplish if you don't like your life - as is my impression of a lot of whiny guys on LS. On the other hand I've been told several times that I've this kinda unique attitude which can be summarized as: "That was aweful! Let's do it again!!! :laugh:"

 

 

 

Yup! It's like sitting on the couch with beer in one hand and a bag of potato chips on your belly and whine that you'll never finish an Ironman. Well, unless you get your a$$ off the couch - YOU WON'T!!! In that sense your advice is GREAT!!!

 

Look I went to Grad school too. I have a Doctor level degree.

 

Never forget romance, but the fact that you have been in seriouse relationships shows you are not in as much of a bind as some of these guys.

 

A relationship is much easier to start then maintain because people change toward eachother not to mention situations change.

 

My advice for you is be more ROMANTIC. So you are moving shortly, what if you meet a girl who also happens to be moving, or you hit it off with a girl and you stay in touch and you convince her to move or vice versa.

 

You really don't need my advice. My advice is more of a REALITY CHECK then anything else. I'm trying to motivate people really, get them to ACT.

[counterman]

Even if the advice is generic, it's meant to be used as a motivator. The rest of it comes from you. You cannot follow tit-for-tat what someone says or does; it wouldn't really be you. Be yourself means, for example, if you don't usually make witty remarks on whatever, don't try to think of some up before hand to impress a girl, don't try to write ballads or talk about something you don't want to talk about, don't try to be James Bond. Be yourself means talk to the girls as though you would talk to your close friends, which is natural.

 

Seriously, anyone can give advice but it all comes down to you acting. If you didn't do so well, then that's fine. Shrug it off, learn from it and go at it again. Sooner or later, you're gonna have to say "screw this" and go in head first and not care what the result is. Just go for it. Plus, rejection shouldn't be taken personally. There's going to be girls that are interested in you and girls that aren't. You know what's the best way to find out if their interested? That's right.

 

You're in the same boat as a lot of people that don't try. When you don't try you have failed already. If you do, at least you have a chance and wouldn't regret not giving it a go. Most importantly, it doesn't have to be that stressful. It's meant to be fun! Laugh in the face of rejection, seriously, it throws people off.

[espec10001]

Theres nothing wrong with taking a break from dating or women. I wouldn't be on this break for this long if I didn't have so many bad experiences with them in the first place. It's all ME and what I do and what I don't, not them. But during this break I've gained a lot of new abilities that I would have never gained had I been in a relationship and focused on them instead.

 

That's why I'm grateful for all the bad dating experiences I had in the past because now nothing will stop me.

[Pyro]

That's why I'm grateful for all the bad dating experiences I had in the past because now nothing will stop me.

 

Exactly. You learn from the past to better the present.

 

What good is just being yourself if you don't learn from past mistakes? It takes both.

[soyou]

@GREEN: I AM DEVELOPING AN ONLINE CRUSH ON YOU RIGHT NOW :cool:

 

Regardless of what people say, I find you cool!

[Engadget]

*Finds Green having a doctorate fishy because of his bad typing skills and misspellings

[Green]

@GREEN: I AM DEVELOPING AN ONLINE CRUSH ON YOU RIGHT NOW :cool:

 

Regardless of what people say, I find you cool!

 

My ego says thank you

 

*Finds Green having a doctorate fishy because of his bad typing skills and misspellings

 

Well it isn’t literature based, and that’s what secretaries are for!

[USMCHokie]

*Finds Green having a doctorate fishy because of his bad typing skills and misspellings

 

 

It goes beyond typos and misspellings, but also includes sentence structure, grammar, punctuation, and word choice...but I've seen people with doctorate degrees that are complete morons when it comes to written English...and you're left wondering how the hell they finished a coherent dissertation.

 

I believe you, Green. And your prose isn't that bad...a lot of times we simply write as we speak, so it doesn't translate quite as nicely to the written word.

[Engadget]

It goes beyond typos and misspellings, but also includes sentence structure, grammar, punctuation, and word choice...but I've seen people with doctorate degrees that are complete morons when it comes to written English...and you're left wondering how the hell they finished a coherent dissertation.

 

I believe you, Green. And your prose isn't that bad...a lot of times we simply write as we speak, so it doesn't translate quite as nicely to the written word.

 

Well that and his rather...strange outlook on some things. I'm skeptical on this site because we had nearly a dozen people say they're in Ivy League schools or have high level degrees, which seems a bit odd to me.

[Lakeside_runner]

It goes beyond typos and misspellings, but also includes sentence structure, grammar, punctuation, and word choice...but I've seen people with doctorate degrees that are complete morons when it comes to written English...and you're left wondering how the hell they finished a coherent dissertation.

 

I believe you, Green. And your prose isn't that bad...a lot of times we simply write as we speak, so it doesn't translate quite as nicely to the written word.

 

When it comes to the US, many of the doctorate diploma holders are not native speakers of english. I myself am not a native speaker...

[USMCHokie]

When it comes to the US, many of the doctorate diploma holders are not native speakers of english. I myself am not a native speaker...

 

 

And I am specfically referring to those who are native English speakers...

[Green]

When it comes to the US, many of the doctorate diploma holders are not native speakers of english. I myself am not a native speaker...

 

Professors who I could barely understand because their English was so poor were not a rare thing.

 

I’m neither native born nor English speaking from birth. I do speak pretty much perfect English now but my spelling and grammar have always been poor and really I’m lazy about it.

 

I do a decent job of spell checking, and sentence structure when it counts. I just don’t seem to care enough to do it all the time like here on LS.

 

 

And I am specfically referring to those who are native English speakers...

 

I’ve had the privilege of knowing some pretty well educated people who are CEO’s ect. And even if they are native born they some times have crap spelling/writing skills. That’s what secretaries are for.

 

I’ve also seen well educated people who write perfect and it is impressive.

[You'reasian]

Professors who I could barely understand because their English was so poor were not a rare thing.

 

I’m neither native born nor English speaking from birth. I do speak pretty much perfect English now but my spelling and grammar have always been poor and really I’m lazy about it.

 

I do a decent job of spell checking, and sentence structure when it counts. I just don’t seem to care enough to do it all the time like here on LS.

 

 

 

 

I’ve had the privilege of knowing some pretty well educated people who are CEO’s ect. And even if they are native born they some times have crap spelling/writing skills. That’s what secretaries are for.

 

I’ve also seen well educated people who write perfect and it is impressive.

 

Most folks on LS seem to have the ability to write complete sentences with minimal spelling errors but the internet culture has created internet speak, which is filled with improper English.

 

Internet speak is a form of short hand writing and demonstrated bad spelling and grammar. Also if you write like you speak, you may use slang which is considered bad grammar.

[florence of suburbia]

Wow Green, the Horniest Man Alive has been hosed down. Sprayed with cold recriminations from the grammar police.