Is Porn Bad?

[385]

So my GF is kinda agitated by my porn habits - which I watch frequently. She didn't say she didn't want me to do it, but you could tell she didn't like me doing it. But anyways, here's the deal

 

I watch porn because I get horny all the time. So, unless my GF happens to be right there by my side so that we can have sex, then I don't see why I can't look at porn. I mean we are both busy, so it's not like we have sex all the time.

 

Plus, watching porn relieves stress and allows me to concentrate on other things and not think about girls all the time. I get less grumpy and I become much more productive with whatever I have to do.

 

Maybe I have Tiger Wood's syndrome but I really don't see what the big deal is.

 

Do you girls get upset when your BF watches porn?

[TaraMaiden]

No, we get upset that you don't get why girls get upset when you watch porn.

Girls feel inadequate and compared to, when you guys watch porn to the extent that it becomes addictive.

You watch it too much. You use it as a stopgap and not as a sex enhancer. You're using it as a replacement for your GF and that's insulting.

 

Let's see if you can go without it for a week.

if you can't go without it for a day even - you have a too-strong attachment to it.

[Engadget]

NOT THIS **** AGAIN

[torranceshipman]

OP I agree with your POV on all counts. I couldn't care less if my boyfriend watched porn, which is ironic as he never actually does. It is perfectly normal and natural that you would want to give yourself a little bit of joy when the frustration/boredom/horniness randomly kicks in and of course it doesn't in any way affect your attraction to, or interest in, your girlfriends. I cannot understand why a girl would think otherwise.

 

And saying things like that is why many posters think I am a guy, haha

[385]

No, we get upset that you don't get why girls get upset when you watch porn.

Girls feel inadequate and compared to, when you guys watch porn to the extent that it becomes addictive.

You watch it too much. You use it as a stopgap and not as a sex enhancer. You're using it as a replacement for your GF and that's insulting.

 

Let's see if you can go without it for a week.

if you can't go without it for a day even - you have a too-strong attachment to it.

No no, you got it wrong. Of course I don't get why girls think it's wrong to watch porn. They probably don't get why I watch porn.

 

"You watch it too much."

-eh...arguable

 

"You're using it as a replacement for your GF and that's insulting."

-How's that insulting? It's not a replacement, it's more as a filler. There has never been a time when we are together and she wants to have sex, and I'm like, 'Oh, I actually want to watch porn...' I'm always DTF. Porn is for times we aren't hanging out.

 

"Let's see if you can go without it for a week."

-This is impossible. Tried it once, didn't work. Got super stressed out towards the end of the week.

 

"you have a too-strong attachment to it"

-Not to porn, to sex maybe. I love sex and maybe you can say I'm a sex addict (if that's even a disorder, which I doubt).

 

So basically, there are unlimited benefits to porn and I think girls are just overreacting because they don't watch porn.

[ADF]

All men look at porn. All men.

 

There is nothing wrong with looking at porn. Don't believe anyone who tells you there is. Those are just people who either don't understand the nature of male sexuality, or hate and resent male sexuality because it is different from their own. Don't let some loud-mouthed, know-nothing Andrea Dwokrin disciple shame you.

 

That said, if your GF doesn't like porn--and many women don't--the least you can do is not look at it when she is around. Be willing to give her that much at least. That way, you can pretend not to look at porn out of respect for her feelings, and she can pretend to believe you don't look at porn out of respect for yours.

[385]

All men look at porn. All men.

 

There is nothing wrong with looking at porn. Don't believe anyone who tells you there is. Those are just people who either don't understand the nature of male sexuality, or hate and resent male sexuality because it is different from their own. Don't let some loud-mouthed, know-nothing Andrea Dwokrin disciple shame you.

 

That said, if your GF doesn't like porn--and many women don't--the least you can do is not look at it when she is around. Be willing to give her that much at least. That way, you can pretend not to look at porn out of respect for her feelings, and she can pretend to believe you don't look at porn out of respect for yours.

 

Yeah that's what I thought. Also, I'd never look at porn if my GF was around - porn is only for times when she isn't around.

[samspade]

Wow - finally a fresh new topic!

 

Porn isn't bad, but if your GF doesn't like it, you have to make a decision - her or the porn. There's nothing wrong with choosing either, but grab your balls and figure it out.

 

At the very least you should keep it out of her sight and knowledge, but I recommend you find a woman who shares more of your sexual priorities.

 

SS

 

PS - Get ready for some opinionated womyn to answer your question in much harsher terms...

[TaraMaiden]

NOT THIS **** AGAIN

 

Redundant link. Doesn't work.

[TaraMaiden]

So my GF is kinda agitated by my porn habits - which I watch frequently. She didn't say she didn't want me to do it, but you could tell she didn't like me doing it.

And this isn't enough for you to consider addressing your habit?

Don't you care that she gets upset? isn't rhere something you could do to compromise with her?

 

I watch porn because I get horny all the time.

And you get horny all the time, because you watch porn....

 

So, unless my GF happens to be right there by my side so that we can have sex, then I don't see why I can't look at porn. I mean we are both busy, so it's not like we have sex all the time.

This is why I think it's moved from 'healthy' to 'obsessive'. if she was with you all the time, you'd want sex all the time....?

 

Plus, watching porn relieves stress and allows me to concentrate on other things and not think about girls all the time.

 

So you never think of watching porn while you're busy doing something else? in other words, you're not looking forward to the next time you could watch porn?

I get less grumpy and I become much more productive with whatever I have to do.

What do you do? As a job, I mean....

 

Maybe I have Tiger Wood's syndrome but I really don't see what the big deal is.

Yeah. He thought that way too, until he got pulled up on it.

You don't see the big deal, because you're investing in you only. Consider the investment it's creating for your GF. Are you sure you want to carry on this way, even though you know it's upsetting for her?

What compromise could you make? What has she asked of you, that is reasonable/unreasonable?

 

 

No no, you got it wrong. Of course I don't get why girls think it's wrong to watch porn. They probably don't get why I watch porn.

Oh, I get it.

The trouble is, do you see beyond it, to what your actions are doing?

 

"You watch it too much."

-eh...arguable

Isn't that why you began this thread?

 

"You're using it as a replacement for your GF and that's insulting."

-How's that insulting? It's not a replacement, it's more as a filler.

ERxactly the same thing. She's not there, so it's a replacement.

She's not there, so it's a filler.

That's my point. Why would you want to 'replace' her? Don't you see how inadequate that might make her feel?

"I'm not enough for him, that he has to look at other women to keep him satisfied. is he thinking about how hot they are, while he has sex with me? Is he having sex with me because he loves me - or loves sex?"

See? you say it stops you thinking of girls all the time. Not 'your girl'. GirlS. Plural. That's enough to make any GF feel a leeeetle bit insecure about what she means to you.....

 

Don't you get this, at all?

 

There has never been a time when we are together and she wants to have sex, and I'm like, 'Oh, I actually want to watch porn...' I'm always DTF. Porn is for times we aren't hanging out.

Why not try going without it, when you're not hanging out? see if that makes a difference to the quality and excitement of your sex when you DO hang out.....

 

"Let's see if you can go without it for a week."

-This is impossible. Tried it once, didn't work. Got super stressed out towards the end of the week.

 

And that tells me you're addicted to it.

 

"you have a too-strong attachment to it"

-Not to porn, to sex maybe. I love sex and maybe you can say I'm a sex addict (if that's even a disorder, which I doubt).

me too. I still say it's the porn that is the problem. Same with on-line poker, or forum-cruising. You need to wean yourself off it, gradually. Cold-turkey didn't work, did it?

 

So basically, there are unlimited benefits to porn and I think girls are just overreacting because they don't watch porn.

There are also limited benefits to porn. Only an addict thinks the benefits are unlimited. Your GF obviously sees a down-side.

Many women love watching porn. Many women get turned on by it.

This is an issue for your GF, and you don't see it as a problem.

THERE's the problem.

[Engadget]

Redundant link. Doesn't work.

 

Yeah because Love Shack doesn't allow for swearing, which is bull****.

[TaurusTerp]

Why are you telling her, fool? From the sounds of it you're watching porn in private, so why does she even know? Keep it to yourself, duh.

[Green]

Yes Porn is "bad"

1) for your computer

2) for your mind

3) for your relationships

[TaraMaiden]

Oh yeah...cool idea! Let's add subterfuge and deceit to the scenario!

Like she's not going to guess....?

Puh-leese!

[Ross PK]

Nothing wrong with porn at all, in fact it's a really good positive thing since a lot of guys can't get women, so at least they can rely on porn.

[TaraMaiden]

That's the point though Ross, isn't it?

he's got a woman.

So you'd think that with the fact that she's uneasy about it, he'd be able to level out his need for frequency, and cut down, rather than up the ante.....

[Green]

Nothing wrong with porn at all, in fact it's a really good positive thing since a lot of guys can't get women, so at least they can rely on porn.

 

Porn is one of the reasons they can't get women.

[Cracker Jack]

I don't see the big deal with Porn, honestly. I liked it when I was teen, but now it just seems...meh.

[Engadget]

Porn is one of the reasons they can't get women.

 

I get women and I watch porn. What now?

[Green]

I get women and I watch porn. What now?

 

look back at what I quoted. He said porn is good for guys who can't get women... and I said that "for them" thats one of there flaws.

 

Being a horny man has true power to it. Makes you hungry. True hornyness can't be satisfied by porn and you will go out and get a woman.

[Engadget]

look back at what I quoted. He said porn is good for guys who can't get women... and I said that "for them" thats one of there flaws.

 

Being a horny man has true power to it. Makes you hungry. True hornyness can't be satisfied by porn and you will go out and get a woman.

 

No but it fills the gap slightly in between. If I don't see my girl today, I'll watch porn for a bit. If I see her, I don't watch porn.

[Feelin Frisky]

Why are you telling her, fool? From the sounds of it you're watching porn in private, so why does she even know? Keep it to yourself, duh.

 

Truer words were never spoken.

[TaraMaiden]

Listen guys, I don't think the issue is that he watches porn. Many women watch porn with their guys, and share, and enjoy. Many guys with GF's watch porn, and it's not a bad thing.

 

I personally feel that this specific situation is the issue:

His GF objects and feels uncomfortable.

He watches it a lot - A LOT - and uses it as a filler, says he might have "Tiger Woods" syndrome (whatever that is) and hangs onto porn and can't do without it. Yet he believes his GF is being unreasonable, and that it's no big deal.

Really - honestly - don't you think there might be a problem here? Specifically?

[Engadget]

Truthfully, LS is sick of porn threads.

[Gentlemen_shadow]

Why are you telling her, fool? From the sounds of it you're watching porn in private, so why does she even know? Keep it to yourself, duh.

 

Yes Porn is "bad"

1) for your computer

2) for your mind

3) for your relationships

 

Wow - finally a fresh new topic!

 

Porn isn't bad, but if your GF doesn't like it, you have to make a decision - her or the porn. There's nothing wrong with choosing either, but grab your balls and figure it out.

 

At the very least you should keep it out of her sight and knowledge, but I recommend you find a woman who shares more of your sexual priorities.

 

SS

 

PS - Get ready for some opinionated womyn to answer your question in much harsher terms...

 

 

Sad to say I disagree with all three of these deeply, no offense meant to those who posted them.

 

Try sharing that time with your girl. To her it may seem you're more interested in what's on the screen than her. Me and my girl watch porn together at least once a week usually a lot more than that. It can start out very softcore and acceptable. WE watch what ever we find and either enjoy it or make constant jokes about it.

 

Even if you just ask her to be a part of it then you're opening a door for her to be part of it. Maybe even have her pick the porn the first time. Who knows maybe form all this you'll find out she's into something you've always wanted to try and your girl will the be the one that all your friends say you suck cause you're so lucky to have her

and if she says it's a dumb idea... blame it on me lol