mike1988 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 My sister told my that, despite being a tall, decent looking, 21 year old guy...I come across "like I'm 40 years old" and speak so "articulately" that it turns off younger girls, thus making me more appealing to women 30 years old and above. I don't know how much I should or even can change myself to appeal to younger girls. I've always been "overly" mature for my age...and my photographic memory goes back to 1990, which...considering I was born in 1988...gives me a lot more "memory" than most people my age, and that may also contribute to my coming across "older". As far as the way I look...I'm about 6 ft tall, 165 lbs, I like to wear button down shirts with jeans...I really don't know why that would be strange.... http://hphotos-snc3.fbcdn.net/hs451.snc3/25839_10150163822740035_809565034_11939595_6334760_n.jpg Is there something wrong with the way I look?
espec10001 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Dude don't change anything about yourself for a chick. Change something because YOU want to change it. If a chick or chicks you see don't like you for who you are NOW, then f*** them and move on. Simple as that.
noirx Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Your sister is just spinnin you up, man. I was in the same boat as you are when I was 21. I was more interested in a career, listening to music that was before my time, spending time having intelligent conversations with people that were older than me, etc. than acting 21, going out drinking, acting like a jackass, comparing how many women I'd slept with, blah, blah, blah... My sister-in-law used to always tell me I was, "22 going on retirement". I dated older (30s being 'older', relative to me being 22) women and had a good time doing it. It always made me laugh when I'd talk to my younger friends complaining about all the irrelevant drama that their early-20 year-old chicks would cause them...I definitely don't look back and say, "man, I sure missed the boat there"...
Shakz Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 You're not going to have any troubles attacting women, I don't imagine. You don't sound like the kind of guy is interested in attracting "girls" anyway.
ADF Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 You look just fine. Don't worry about that. Your sister may be onto something, however. Sort of. People in their 20s--male and female--tend to like people for all the wrong reasons. Men ignore all the charming, witty, warm-hearted women around them and go after the bubbleheads with giant breasts; women ignore the decent, throughtful, intelligent guys around them and go after lying, cheating "bad boys." There are exceptions to this, of course, but it is often true. That means that for people like you, your 20s--and especially your early 20s--might be a relative dating desert. But if you can slog through it, you'll have many more choices on the other end.
Author mike1988 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 You look just fine. Don't worry about that. Your sister may be onto something, however. Sort of. People in their 20s--male and female--tend to like people for all the wrong reasons. Men ignore all the charming, witty, warm-hearted women around them and go after the bubbleheads with giant breasts; women ignore the decent, throughtful, intelligent guys around them and go after lying, cheating "bad boys." There are exceptions to this, of course, but it is often true. That means that for people like you, your 20s--and especially your early 20s--might be a relative dating desert. But if you can slog through it, you'll have many more choices on the other end. Yeah I'd say goodbye to a future of a wife and kids though for sure if that's the case.
someotherguy Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Stop being so self-conscious and just develop some interesting hobbies and meet someone awesome while doing one of them. Problem solved.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Stop being so self-conscious and just develop some interesting hobbies and meet someone awesome while doing one of them. Problem solved. Go, sign up for a triathlon!
Author mike1988 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 You're not going to have any troubles attacting women, I don't imagine. You don't sound like the kind of guy is interested in attracting "girls" anyway. I've been a "milf" hunter for too long and the lack of A. More younger and even more attractive girls and B. A relationship is beginning to bug me.
Engadget Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Sadly if you speak like an intelligent person, young girls are going to be confused. Do you hear how young girls talk today? It makes my goddamn head hurt. "OMG like I totally texted Brian and he was like, you're sooooooooo hot and O M G he's so hottttttttttt" Makes me want to commit homicide.
noirx Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Man, you are putting WAY too much emphasis at being in a relationship. There's no "time limit" to being involved with someone. The comment "the lack of being in a relationship is begging to bug me" seems slightly co-dependent IMHO. @Endgaget - LOL...on the mark, but you need more of the word "like" in your example sentence. It needs to be in between EVERY OTHER WORD to be completely accurate
CaliGuy Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Naw, you aren't too old. I'm 41 and I don't see my age as being an issue. Might bother some women but if that is the case, they aren't for me either
Green Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 There is no trick to getting girls. 1) you spot a pretty girl 2) you go talk to her for about a minute or two. "Hi" "hey" "We should start a band" "blahalabla" so you just say random crap, and be sure to listen to their responses 3) YOU ASK THEM OUT.. don't chicken out and just walk away after going through all the trouble of talking. 4) YOU GET CONTACT INFO preferably a number. Get this even if she turns you down when you ask her out... this way you can ASK HER OUT AGAIN. 5) you take them on a date and you KISS THEM... even if they don't kiss on a first date the fact that you just went in an tried shows to them that you have BALLS and that you WANT THEM... they like to know that you WANT THEM. oh and never listen to your SISTER especialy when she is putting u down.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 My niece was just thrown an expensive sweet 16 party by my sister and her husband (about $2K). She's cute but rather exceptionally intelligent and into reading and playing real music on guitar and bass. Ten people showed and the poor thing was embarrassed. One of the reasons? Text chatter from her trailer trash class mates who resent her for indulging her intellect. She told me she saw messages that said "she's always like reading and stuff, I don't know what her problem is". Her problem was probably foolish parents who should have been hip to how ignorant and socially illiterate most 16 year olds are these days. They can like work a text phone but like do nothing much more than gossip and push themselves up by pushing others down. Sophisticated technology enabling a decling culture. Your sister is an a$$ and she'll probably wind up with Mr. Wrong on course to medocrity. Keep your chin up and ignore the kids and their immature opinions.
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