White Flower Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I have read two independent studies recently that both said less than 1% of married people ever leave their marriage for their AP. I would like to get my hands on these studies and see how they conducted them because when I look at society all I see is a 50-60% D rate and a whole bunch of remarriages. Then we read that at least 75% of men cheat while at least 50% of women cheat. Do the math and decide for youserlf.
BB07 Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I'd agree with your post for the most part ADF. I just wonder how acurate it is to claim that that MM/MW seldom leave for the OM/OW. I didn't tell my lawyer who I was or wasn't leaving for as I felt that was none of his business. I only wanted a divorce decree from him. Do you believe most clients report their feelings and futures to their lawyers? You brought up an interesting point WF and something I was wondering about myself. If I was betting I'd say there are lots of people who get a divorce who are in an affair, but it's not something that is discussed with the lawyer as most divorces are no fault.
White Flower Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 You brought up an interesting point WF and something I was wondering about myself. If I was betting I'd say there are lots of people who get a divorce who are in an affair, but it's not something that is discussed with the lawyer as most divorces are no fault. Very true. Now, I'm sure some people just spatter off without thinking aobut it but once I learned that my state was no-fault I decided to zip my lip because it didn't matter anyway so why tell my lawyer??? We used him in a non-contested D which meant he would be talking with my exH without me being present. Do you think I was going to trust two men talking about me when I wasn't there? No way José.
jennie-jennie Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 Hi Jennie and Pureinheart!! I'm doing well and it's so nice that you've asked. I'm coping with the situation in my own way and things are generally getting better. And how are the two of you? I hope I'll catch up with what's going on on the board after my absence. ((HUGS)) Oh, and Pureintheheart, you're singature is very wise and happens to be what I've just been finding about myself. Thank for sharing! It is so good to see you back on the board, Ellin. I'm doing fine, struggling along as always with the joys and hardship of being an OW.
Author Ellin Posted June 13, 2010 Author Posted June 13, 2010 I'd agree with your post for the most part ADF. I just wonder how acurate it is to claim that that MM/MW seldom leave for the OM/OW. I didn't tell my lawyer who I was or wasn't leaving for as I felt that was none of his business. I only wanted a divorce decree from him. Do you believe most clients report their feelings and futures to their lawyers? Good point, and also, we need to know how the studies were conducted, if the results such as less than 1% people having an A leave their spouse, are right. They may include wider issues of infidelity, things like one night stands etc.
White Flower Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 I'm just wondering how helpful these studies and statistics can be in a situation when a OW/OM find themselves wanting to have a normal relationship with their AP and are being told it's going to happen, but are not sure if they can really believe it, and are trying to make a difficult decision.. Due to the secret nature of As and having to look to 'the subculture [hi ADF:p] for answers it is difficult to get any clear cut data; therefore, we must look at the overall scenario case by case and derive our truths from those. Good point, and also, we need to know how the studies were conducted, if the results such as less than 1% people having an A leave their spouse, are right. They may include wider issues of infidelity, things like one night stands etc.Exactly.
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