cdubs32 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I go out with a girl that I meet on a dating site, 3-5 dates in, things seem to be going well, or at least ok, I don't have any serious relationship talks, just go out and have fun dates. The women will show interest in me like making out, flirty, ask me to go out with their friends, etc. And then the FALL OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH. Just no response. Nothing. Don't hear from them, won't return my call, can't even return a text. This has happened to me now 4 times in the last year. I don't get it. What is going on? Is this the standard way of rejection nowadays? I'm familiar with reasons why women want to avoid the confrontation of rejection, but seriously, can't even text me back? It has to be something I'm doing wrong. Does this happen to anyone else all the time??
Sivok Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Happened to me once before. Alot of people take the selfish way out of breaking things off - what's easier for them; aka no contact. She felt comfortable around you to the point of physical affection, but probably was not into you/attracted to you enough to keep pursuing. I've had that done to me before, I've done it before.
Confusedalways Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I've had that happen to me too! I hate it! It sucks. I'd never do that to anyone, it's a crappy feeling on the receiving end. But no, you're not alone.
utterer of lies Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I go out with a girl that I meet on a dating site, 3-5 dates in, things seem to be going well, or at least ok, I don't have any serious relationship talks, just go out and have fun dates. The women will show interest in me like making out, flirty, ask me to go out with their friends, etc. And then the FALL OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH. Just no response. Nothing. Don't hear from them, won't return my call, can't even return a text. This has happened to me now 4 times in the last year. I don't get it. What is going on? Is this the standard way of rejection nowadays? I'm familiar with reasons why women want to avoid the confrontation of rejection, but seriously, can't even text me back? It has to be something I'm doing wrong. Does this happen to anyone else all the time?? Why should she text you back? She wants nothing from you, and experience taught her that any sign will be misinterpreted... or she gets requests to explain herself or something like this. Ignoring is zero effort, everything else is some effort with a potential for a lot more, and stress.
Mimolicious Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I go out with a girl that I meet on a dating site, 3-5 dates in, things seem to be going well, or at least ok, I don't have any serious relationship talks, just go out and have fun dates. The women will show interest in me like making out, flirty, ask me to go out with their friends, etc. And then the FALL OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH. Just no response. Nothing. Don't hear from them, won't return my call, can't even return a text. This has happened to me now 4 times in the last year. I don't get it. What is going on? Is this the standard way of rejection nowadays? I'm familiar with reasons why women want to avoid the confrontation of rejection, but seriously, can't even text me back? It has to be something I'm doing wrong. Does this happen to anyone else all the time?? Doesn't happen to me but happens to the few guys that I have done it to. LMAO! I kidd... I kidd... (not really) I guess this is the new form of cutting someone off. Yet, I also think is the whole "Online Dating" dynamics. You can make contact with 10 prospects in one single hour and start chatting away so it may give too much lead to go on to the next. The "interested in you" wagon gets loaded fast and it unloads even faster...
Billzebub Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Are you calling/texting/emailing too soon or too frequently looking for a follow-up date? If so, you come off desperate and that turns them off. I used to do that when I didn't know what I was doing.
DollWelch Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 These women get bored with you. There is nothing wrong with you; it's them!
Author cdubs32 Posted June 11, 2010 Author Posted June 11, 2010 Are you calling/texting/emailing too soon or too frequently looking for a follow-up date? If so, you come off desperate and that turns them off. I used to do that when I didn't know what I was doing. After date #1 I called 2 days after. She waited a full 24 hours to call me back and we set up date #2. After date #2, I waited another 3 days, she was busy that week, but a week and a half later we went on date #3. She texted ME after date #3, which is where I kinda joked about another date, she said she would let me take her out again, but she was a slow dater. That's the last I heard, that was 11 days ago. Since then I waited 5 days after date #3 to call as I knew she was busy that full week. Then no call back. I texted 4 days after that to say hey how ya been. That was yesterday.
tkgirl Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 After date #1 I called 2 days after. She waited a full 24 hours to call me back and we set up date #2. After date #2, I waited another 3 days, she was busy that week, but a week and a half later we went on date #3. She texted ME after date #3, which is where I kinda joked about another date, she said she would let me take her out again, but she was a slow dater. That's the last I heard, that was 11 days ago. Since then I waited 5 days after date #3 to call as I knew she was busy that full week. Then no call back. I texted 4 days after that to say hey how ya been. That was yesterday. I dunno... sounds like a lot of BS games to me... if two people are into each other they don't wait days to call to set up another date.. they want to see each other and that's that! but that's me.. if I feel like a guy is waiting too long to call me I read that as not interested and even if I was interested in the beginning, it can wane pretty quickly...
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