SouthernNC Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 well here is a little short explanation. I am in college and so is my ex. We started dating this time last year and things have been amazing ever since we have gone on trips together i have gone to florida multiple times to see her and her parents she has come to nc multiple times to see me. we both go to school in nc by the way. We have had our ups and downs but the ups defenetly outway the downs. She would always talk about how we would be when we were older and how our family would be. christmas she sat her mom down and told her family that i was the one she would evenchually marry. Now here is what went wrong. things started getting rocky once the summer started and it went to being long distance. she is back in florida and i in nc. it was very hard for her at first because she lived with me all year and no joke probably did not stay in her own place for more than a week in the whole year because she lived with me. the first week or so she said that i didnt talk to her enough or didnt seem to want to talk to her. I did call her everyday and txt her periodicly though the day though. Because she said this i started calling her more and in my opinion almost bugging her all the time. she then started to seem like she wasnt happy. said she had no friends at home and had no life and her cat died last month. and she told me she wasnt happy anymore and we ended up having a small argument because i told her she didnt seem to care as much about me or didnt seem to like me being there for her anymore because she would send me one word answers to txts or not talk to me very long at night anymore. we said we should have some time off and the next day she calls saying that that was not what she wanted and she loved me and never would want to leave me that we would be together forever. so the next week she came to nc to visit me for a week and it was great. It still bothered me that we had somewhat broke up for a day and i kinda bugged her about it a couple times during the week though and kinda poked and prodded that there had to be a reason for it. Once she got home i really missed her so i called her and txted her more because i had thought thats what she wanted. i started getting conversations that were less involved again and she seemed down again. started saying she was depressed about being home (she does have bad exiety and seperation exiety also though). 3 days after she was home i had not talked to her on the phone until 11 other than txts though the day which were not like usual. she would usually try to carry conversations though txt but today it was more like me txting on accasion and getting a small answer an hour later. I called her at about 7 and no answer. she txted me right back about some random small talk about her dad and said she was going to take a quick nap. so i tried txting her that i was also and tried to call her again and she got mad because she said she only had 30 minutes before she had to get ready for dinner. she txted me though out dinner and later that night we talked on the phone at about 11 and she was talking about going out that night which i thought was good because she never does and thats one of the reasons she is so depressed. i told her i was kinda pissed that she wouldnt talk to me earlier in the day because we used to talk and fall asleep all the time and now she wouldnt even answer before a nap. we ended up having and argument about how i thought she didnt feel the same about me and she said that she wasnt happy anymore. i said some mean things and told her to go out and not to bother with talking to me anymore during the summer since i felt she didnt want to anyway and that was that. the next morning i txted her and apoligized for how i was the night before and told her it was just hard not being with her and that i had been to emotional about things. she txted me back later that day and said that she thought we had come to the conclusion that we were over that night and not to call her and i told her that i wasnt going too. that day i wrote a long 4 page letter explaining how i was being needy and emotional the past month since we got back from school and explained why i had been so different latly( family problems and no job) and that things would be ok evenchually and that i loved her and didnt want us to end up like this. i send the letter this monday and left it at that. yesterday i txted her and said "hey i know that you want your space and i respect that becausee the last thing i want to do is show that i am clingy and dont respect your privacy because i fell like that is all i have done latly to make you want to leave but i miss you. and then said that i didnt want to put her in that type of situation again. she txted me back and saidshe was sorry but it was over and there was no hope. I feel like she either got the letter yesterday or sometime she will get it today. usually anytime i f*%# up i would right her and things would be ok she would like the letter. this was a very good one and i dont see how she wouldnt like it so i am hoping she will respond to it. Anyway i got to get this girl back she is the love of my life and i know i have kinda pushed her away because of me just plain being a dumbass but what should i do next. I know i need to live my life and do what i can to move on until something happens but do you think she will come back? what is the next step? waiting for her to respond or decide what she wants? thanks alot for reading this i am sorry for how it is written i kinda just wrote it as i thought about it. it was kinda hard to explain
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