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[mlh5046]

Alright I know what I did was wrong and it was an invasion of privacy. But my gf left her facebook stored on my laptop. When I went to go on, it went right to hers. I checked her inboxes (wrong I know) but I found things that bothered me like a lot of ones from guys. Like flirty inboxes, nothing stating relations except one guy asked her to sleepover she didnt respond. I want to keep this short though.

 

When i call her I have no idea how to approach this. I don;t want to admit I snooped but i want to be able to make a proper decision of whether to break up with her or not. Should I just straight up confront her? godddd

[Ihavenoidea]

If it bothers you then ask her not confront her about it, but it might not end well.

 

If she cares for you she will be comfortable talking about it. If she is hiding something she will be evasive and defensive, or try and spin it on you.

 

Just be casual and express your concern.

[ADF]

How can you "confront" her? You found some things that bothered you, but nothing incriminating her. It sounds like guys were just sort of randomly hitting on her. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.

 

Frankly, I think if you try and confront her, you'll end up getting the worst of it. YOU snooped, found nothing, and now you want to give HER a hard time? Break ups have happened for less.

[mlh5046]

It just seemed like a lot of guys inboxed her in the past 7 or 8 months, ive been with her for 5. I dunno like should I have expected her to not respond to the messages> no idea just wondering what action to take.

[Ihavenoidea]

if she hasnt responded then let it go,

 

theres nothing you can really do, if shes gonna cheat shes gonna cheat, just let it go.

[mlh5046]

do girls get facebook inboxes from men a lot? like i dunno man it just seems fishy to me that guys would be that comfortable sending these creepy messages to her

[Cracker Jack]

^Yes.

 

I'm not a female, but plenty of my female friends complain about receiving a ton of inbox messages from guys; some they barely even know. If you found nothing major, seriously, just forget you even stumbled across it.

 

Facebook ruins a lot of relationships/marriages with stuff like this, so don't become apart of the epidemic.

 

Good luck.

[lofi_tokyo]

do girls get facebook inboxes from men a lot? like i dunno man it just seems fishy to me that guys would be that comfortable sending these creepy messages to her

 

I get them ALL THE TIME. So do lots of my friends. I don't think I do anything in particular to invite it, nor do my friends, it just happens. In some cases it is messages from people not on my friend list, but more often than not it is from people I know, and I'd feel rude not replying. I do not invite more flirtatious messages through my reply, I keep things friendly.

 

Honestly, unless you think she's cheating, I wouldn't say much. I have lots of silly texts I send my female friends and lots of random messages in my inbox that could potentially upset an my boyfriend if he was feeling insecure and saw them, but that are not indicative of how I feel towards the him in any way whatsoever. I suspect he has some of the same things on his computer.

 

Unless she is blatantly doing something wrong, I feel as though the mistake is yours for snooping! Likewise, if I snooped on my boyfriend's computer and found questionable things, it would be my mistake for invading his personal belongings. I dunno, just my opinion.

[phineas]

It comes down to who the guy is that asked her to sleep over & what his relationship is to her.

 

Perosnally, after experienceing similiar things with my cheating wife I wont have anything to do with a woman that doesn't put a stop to men sending her texts or messages like that.