Psymon Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 OP, Most people would be like deer in headlights at the thought of approaching strangers. I think you were courageous walking up and talking to 3 random women, and it would be a shame if you lost that bravery because you didn't get the reaction you wanted. The truth of the matter is that you don't really know what was going on with them. They said they were having a private conversation. If they were rude about it or not doesn't really matter. The thing to remember is they are not rejecting you...they don't even know you. There could be something about the situation that makes them uninterested in you (in this case, they were in a conversation;)). I'm curious as to why you talked to them specifically. Out of all the women in the bar, what was special about them TO YOU to make you want to talk to them? Whatever it was, be confident telling them that. It's much more understandable than using a question you care nothing about. One more thing. You will get rejected. A lot. By women who will be much harsher than the 3 you interacted with here. You should always try your best to be kind in that situation. You should be unaffected by their words...you don't even know them. Keep trying, keep talking, keep having cool experiences, and find a way to enjoy it all...the failures as well as the successes.
marsle85 Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 You weren't going to find much success coming up to three girls anyway. Even if one girl was interested, how exactly were you supposed to ask for her number/establish a good report while not ignoring the other girls? It's just weird. One on one is definitely better. Secondly, she's allowed to not want to talk to you. You DID interrupt their conversation (kind of rudely, too) and didn't get the hint. She should have definitely been more kind, but really? Your ultimate comment? You dropped your respect and dignity with that comment, and only FUELED their later comments/gossip.
Green Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 You weren't going to find much success coming up to three girls anyway. Even if one girl was interested, how exactly were you supposed to ask for her number/establish a good report while not ignoring the other girls? It's just weird. One on one is definitely better. You arn't going to find much sucess at bar/night clubs period. But truthfully you are RARELY going to find a girl alone at a bar/nightclub. So, a group of three or more is actualy better then a group of two girls. If it is only two girls then getting one alone is going to be harder. Really I suggest you talk to a girl you like even if she is there with a group of men if you don't think she likes them. Secondly, she's allowed to not want to talk to you. You DID interrupt their conversation (kind of rudely, too) and didn't get the hint. She should have definitely been more kind, but really? Your ultimate comment? You dropped your respect and dignity with that comment, and only FUELED their later comments/gossip. I agree his coment was worse but it really hurts some times. I remember when I was single I tried talking to this pretty girl at a bar/lounge trype thing and she said something like "Don't talk to me loser." It really got to me and I ended up responding with "thats fine you really come off as a BITCH anyways." Suprisingly she didn't instantly get mad she almost seemed to like me for an instant. She asked "Do you really think I come off as a bitch?" I probably could have turned things around for myself at that moment but I was still mad so I was like "Yes you seem like a real bitch" Well after that point she was pissed. Turns out she was a regular and got a bouncer to talk to me. He was like "Did you call her a bitch?" even the bartender was asking me. I was like "Yes I called her a bitch because she called me a loser" and they just kind all dropped it. Not one of my finest moments. Moral of the story people lose their cool. Learn from it and move on. Plus harsh rejections are funny when u look back.
that girl Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 "Don't talk to me loser" is flat out mean unless you had done something pretty bad to deserve it. But "We're having a private conversation" is completely reasonable. Women are allowed to have their own lives. "Listen babe I'm just going ask my question and I'd enjoy an answer".... then ask your question and make it a good one. And this is why I hate the current trend for guys to try to be cocky and funny. This is just rude.
Bangle Posted June 12, 2010 Posted June 12, 2010 I cant understand why a guy would want to chase women in clubs, what's the attraction?
Green Posted June 13, 2010 Posted June 13, 2010 "Don't talk to me loser" is flat out mean unless you had done something pretty bad to deserve it. Yeah I had done nothing to deserve it. I cant understand why a guy would want to chase women in clubs, what's the attraction? Its kinda pointless. I used to enjoy the "chase." I never met a gf in a club so my advice to any one is got to clubs to dance or have fun if you enjoy that kind of thing but don't expect a love connection.
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