TaurusTerp Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Seriously man, stop following the Game. It's old and outdated. Honestly, by now more women than men have read it and it just makes you seem like a loser, to be brutally honest. Work on your inner confidence first - you shouldn't be getting all worked up over getting rejected to the point that you're picking fights with women.
sweetjasmine Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 They don't know they're dime a dozen meat that are disposable. And I'm sure none of them pick up on that attitude. Seriously, if I were having an important conversation with my friends (and who knows what kind of conversation those girls were having - maybe it was stupid, maybe it was serious, maybe it was important, maybe they were talking about the weather) and some random dude interrupted us with a transparent pick-up attempt and his attitude was clearly the "you're all disposable pieces of meat but maybe one of you will bite", I'd be irritated, too. Especially if he kept trying when we made it clear we wanted to be left alone. I certainly wouldn't feel like making small talk, smiling, and being sweet. And the comment about how we're going to be alone when we're old would've confirmed everything.
Mimolicious Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Becuse they are socially illiterate, self-consumed and probably waiting for MR. Wrong to buy them multiple rounds. They don't know they're dime a dozen meat that are disposable. But always remember, one gave birth to you. Quiet disturbing and type of "Back at the Sand-Box" childish attitude this is. Instead of preying women, why don't you try to befriend some, maybe they can teach you a thing or two on how to be a gentleman.
SilentVoice Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I am not to sure of the environment you are in when you are approaching these girls. But if it is possible to maybe approach a girl while she is away from the group(like coming from the bathroom , or getting a drink , or coming in from a smoke). And then maybe later see her around. And it be like " Hey you".And having a wing man won't hurt.All the luck!
RedRussian Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Instead of preying women, why don't you try to befriend some. He was not "preying" he was trying to mate with the opposite sex in the bar. It's not predatory, but human. Yes maybe for OP to dive in to friend zone first is the way to go! like a "nice guy" and we all know how much tail they get..wa wa woooza! Man should never listen to woman's advice on dating...nuff said
AD1980 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Hell ive had women ignore me just asking her if she wanted a beer as i was getting one for myself at a friends party.. If a Man who a woman deems unattratcive approaches they usually act harshly and act like you have no right in their airspace.. If a good looking guy did what u did at the very least theyd be much more cordial..
Mimolicious Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 So they should listen to those who have no idea of what a woman looks for? Nice! Rejoice in bromance... Now let me ask you Don'twannabe, you go to lounges to look for chicks often? Let me give you a hint (and this is a woman's advice, so hope you can take some of it into consideration): Lounge= drinks+ dozens of other men+ dozens of other women= Not exactly the best place to meet your future GF when you are in such a "hunt" yet feel like you got no game. (I take it from you saying "another" in your subject line) Yes, it happens but the possibilities of getting attention sometimes can be very slim and it sounds like meeting someone is becoming a challenge for you. Try to find a better setting. I don't know, maybe a cafe, something more intimate than a party place. When women go out to party, the last thing that they want to do is take "surveys". (Unless they come with a goodie-bag of make-up) A wing man is a good accessory, it's kinda creepy to see a man roaming around a lounge, with beer in hand alone- that's what I called "preying". May come across as in fact you are looking for "disposable meat". Another for the road- Don't LOOK SO HARD! It will happen when it was meant to happen and when you are not looking.
AD1980 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Another for the road- Don't LOOK SO HARD! It will happen when it was meant to happen and when you are not looking. Such a BS cliche
RedRussian Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 If a Man who a woman deems unattratcive approaches they usually act harshly and act like you have no right in their airspace.. Very true, I bet most guys here would agree. it's kinda creepy to see a man roaming around a lounge, with beer in hand alone Ok Men, here is another dating tip from a woman....if you alone in a bar or lounge you are a creep and a predator and a loser. I mean who is going to bars and lounges alone? only loser creeps, that's who!
Ocktus Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Your post made me cringe OP. Try to be a bit more self aware next time, and sharpen your social skills. Even if they had given you their time, your question would've ruined it for you unless you were a disgustingly good looking guy. Seriously, your best pre-planned question was whether some random movie was a chick flick or not? What would've been your follow up when they had told you they've never seen the movie - or more likely nearly choked on their drinks because the question is pretty out there. To not end the post with such a negative tone, learn from your mistake, get a friend to go with you and just be natural. Also going to the gym and getting jacked might not hurt, then perhaps you'd get away with your conversation openers
VertexSquared Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I said "Fine then. Have a good night. Good luck finding men when you're all 40." And I walked away. Okay, what the hell is this? Saying something like that and walking away is going to basically tell these girls they dodged a bullet, and at this point in time, I'd say they're right. You come across as self-entitled (pestering them after they've given you their cue) and you insult these girls for not breaking their conversation to pander to the whims of a stranger? All these girls probably thought as you walked away was "What a creep!" Your post made me cringe with the fury. Not only was the pickup AND handling of the rejection done in poor taste, but you need to quit relying on PUA crap. "Openers" and tricks like "I only have a minute" while remaining turned away are such obvious ploys for PUA, and it'll turn most girls off if they have brains. Props for approaching women at random, but you'll shoot yourself in the foot and ruin your confidence if you keep trying those approaches.
Els Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I'm sorry, but I'm honestly surprised one of the girls didn't give him a slap after that. Gosh.
bayouboi Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 When they said they were trying to have a private conversation that was your cue that you were being a nuisance to them. At that point you should have had fun with it and became a further nuisance by replying, "Oh goody! I like conversations about privates!" real enthusiastically and grabbed a seat.
Els Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 When they said they were trying to have a private conversation that was your cue that you were being a nuisance to them. At that point you should have had fun with it and became a further nuisance by replying, "Oh goody! I like conversations about privates!" real enthusiastically and grabbed a seat. LOL! That would've been hilarious, I'll admit.
Mimolicious Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Ok Men, here is another dating tip from a woman....if you alone in a bar or lounge you are a creep and a predator and a loser. I mean who is going to bars and lounges alone? only loser creeps, that's who! Not exactly always the case but most likely displays a desperate attempt. People go out "alone" to search for _______. (you fill in the blank with whatever suits you) Whoever doesn't want to be filling that blank for you, has the option to turn you down. Why should I entertain a dude at a bar that is obviously there looking for a gal, when I have don't have an interest of being someone's chick? These girls were probably NOT there to find a man. Therefore, even if someone "very attractive" approached them with a bottle of Crystal, the result would have beeen the same. Yeah, they would have drank your bottle and entertained you, but at the end you were just herbed! Doesn't mean you are taking anyone home or getting one's number. If you came across someone that is out looking for the same then maybe, *maybe* your chances increase.
someotherguy Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 OP, does it matter? You're obviously not good looking enough to warrant their attention, and they're too shallow and rude to deserve yours. Case closed.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 What's with the "good looking" and "not good looking"... If a group of girls is in the middle of a conversation it probably doesn't matter how good looking the guy is. It's just plain rude to interrupt and then plan this whole stupid approach "Now - I only have a minute but I was wondering what you think of this movie." My thought would be: "If you only have a minute - why do you even bother talking to me?" The whole setup is wrong. If they'd be sitting there and looking around kinda bored and not having anything to do - the outcome may have been probably different...
Els Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 What's with the "good looking" and "not good looking"... If a group of girls is in the middle of a conversation it probably doesn't matter how good looking the guy is. It's just plain rude to interrupt and then plan this whole stupid approach "Now - I only have a minute but I was wondering what you think of this movie." My thought would be: "If you only have a minute - why do you even bother talking to me?" The whole setup is wrong. If they'd be sitting there and looking around kinda bored and not having anything to do - the outcome may have been probably different... It wouldn't even have been half so bad if he'd had the common sense to back off when they said 'we're having a private conversation'. Geez.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 So - here is my question to the OP and I would like an honest answer: WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR? ONS? LTR?
AD1980 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 What's with the "good looking" and "not good looking"... If a group of girls is in the middle of a conversation it probably doesn't matter how good looking the guy is. It's just plain rude to interrupt and then plan this whole stupid approach "Now - I only have a minute but I was wondering what you think of this movie." My thought would be: "If you only have a minute - why do you even bother talking to me?" The whole setup is wrong. If they'd be sitting there and looking around kinda bored and not having anything to do - the outcome may have been probably different... I didnt read the whole thing at first he should have been more aware of the setting and what was happening I was just responding to a situation in general where if a Man approaches a women who she thinks is not attractive the reactions could be pretty harsh..
Lakeside_runner Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I didnt read the whole thing at first he should have been more aware of the setting and what was happening I was just responding to a situation in general where if a Man approaches a women who she thinks is not attractive the reactions could be pretty harsh.. True, but I think it also depends on how he approaches her. If he's simply striking up a conversation without any ulterior motive, I don't see any reason for a harsh rejection. If he's drooling all over her and she doesn't find him attractive - yup! Ef off creep! Theoretically, the best way is to start a conversation in a situation where there is nothing else to do, like waiting for a bus on a bus stop, or say there is a girl alone in a museum - you can walk up to her and ask her what she thinks about a particular piece of art. Approaching random girls at random places may work for some people. Is it a good way to find a reliable long term partner? I don't think so. As I recall - this is the second time where the OP's post gave me a "creeper vibe". The first one was when he chatted up this girl who came out from the hair styling salon and his "Save the $40.00 and join me for a Martini!".
Beerme Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 You blew it. You just told 3 women that they would die alone because they wouldn't answer your lame survey...honestly, you acted like a baby. Yup, totally agree. I give kudos to the OP for the initial attempt, but once they said they were having a private conversation, he should have just smiled and said sorry for interrupting them, and then walked away. By making that last comment to them, he became exactly the reason why they blew him off. In their minds now, he's that ******* loser (which he probably isn't), that makes them want to stay home on a Friday night, and play Scrabble. (No offense to Scrabble since I love that game.) Heck, for all we know, they ACTUALLY were having a serious discussion, and didn't want to be disturbed. God forbid they might have actually been telling the truth.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted June 11, 2010 Author Posted June 11, 2010 Another for the road- Don't LOOK SO HARD! It will happen when it was meant to happen and when you are not looking. I don't believe in fate.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I don't believe in fate. I take you don't believe in "karma" either? Do nice things = nice things are gonna happen to you? I'm just gonna translate my signature: "Relay on Aiki to activate all manifest powers (don't have to know what that means). Pacify your environment and create a beautiful world!"
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