He doesn't think this is cheating...I don't either, I guess?

[Sunsetlove]

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months, and we are absolutely head over heels in love. We go to the same college, and he's been away on a trip for about two weeks now, and says that he misses me a lot, and I know he'd never do anything to compromise our relationship. Anyway, he says that he often finds himself looking at porn, and openly admits this to me, because I'm not there and he only uses it when he wants to get off. I admit, this at first made me uncomfortable and I even considered it as possible cheating, but I know that his intentions are harmless in the sense that he doesn't watch it to look at particular girls; only to get himself off. I know this is a questionable topic because some consider it cheating, while others do not. I've dismissed it since then, told him it was alright, and am starting to understand his perspective, by putting myself in his shoes. I guess it soley depends on the person's intentions, right? If I could just get some advice about this, I'd really appreciate it.

[Parlanchina]

Don't have to worry OP! First because I think a little bit of porn is just as normal. It IS meant to be a little tittilating. And secondly, because he has admitted it to you.

 

I also was in your position before, worried over porn and how he might like how the girls do it and I can't for the life of me do much!

 

But I am sure that he loves you because he opened it up to you, he didn't want you to think badly of him!

 

Cheer up Sunset!

[Sunsetlove]

Thank you! Right, that's what I was thinking...the fact that he admitted it to me meant as if he didn't have any other intentions, which did make it plausable in my eyes.

[forevertoday]

Aw come on how can you even for a second take that as cheating. Every guy does that. With _very_ few exceptions, regardless of their relationship status. Admitting it over the phone to his girlfriend is kinda weird though.

[ADF]

Here's some advice: ALL MEN LOOK AT PORN.

 

Back in the 1940s, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey said, "90% of men masturbate, and the other 10% are liars."

 

That's kind of how it works with guys and porn, too.

[CandyGirlXO]

I can relate! I used to get mad when my ex would look at it. It would hurt my feelings and I didn't understand.

 

Then I was single and I started watching it!

 

Now I'm in a relationship and I still watch porn!

 

It's seriously NO big deal! Trust me. It just helps me get in the mood when I'm all alone.

 

Try it...honestly

 

You will see.