Gentlemen_shadow Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I've been wrestling with an issue for a while now. I like sending and getting sexts. I have a girlfriend and she knows about it, is fine with it, and does it too. I'm big on not showing them off unless the woman / women want me to. I find it so much better than just looking up random porn to be able to talk with that person and get ta know them a bit and have it be a bit closer. I would never cheat on my girl but there are a lot of people telling me this is a bad thing when me and my girl both know and like it and are committed to each other. I like to think it's a way to get all the flirting that we young adults have not at days and not have to worry about cheating and what not. Am I wrong on this?
Ihavenoidea Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 from my experience subtle things like this lead to cheating, I know from watching all my friends get cheated on, some of which are married. All I can advise is harmless texting always leads to something bigger...ALWAYS I say always just because thats my experience I cant speak for everyone
Confusedalways Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I consider myself a pretty laid back person... when I'm dating a guy seriously, the only person he better be getting sexts from is me. Porn, whatever. But this? No way. I would be totally uncomfortable receiving them from someone who wasn't my boyfriend, too. That being said, if you and your girlfriend do it and neither of you care, more power to you.
Disintegration Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Personally I would be totally against it! You said you both don't have an issue with it though so it doesn't seem like a problem for you both as a couple. On the other hand, others such as myself would feel it was a form of cheating.
Author Gentlemen_shadow Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 Well I live with my girl and most of these girls are in MO where I lived before I moved so very high doubt they will fly out here just to do me and I'm not the cheating type. But as far as me and my girl go she has introduced me to a few girls she knows and I point boys in her direction as far as live not in state boys and girls just in case
Mimolicious Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Question is, WHO are you sexting? I am assuming that for you to get their number, you had to meet them in person. If it's not a problem with your SO then it possess little threat to your relationship. So you guys are like "swingers" but on text. (What is this world coming to?! LOL!)
Peitho Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I think a lot of people would be bothered by this But if you and your gf are fine with it – who cares what other people think? Why are even asking this question, if you are both ok with the situation?
Green Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 isn't sexting where Highschool girls send you naked pictures of themselves to your cell phone. hmmm For me I would not do this even if I was single... especialy if I had a gf/wife or anything would I not do this.
Author Gentlemen_shadow Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 I think a lot of people would be bothered by this But if you and your gf are fine with it – who cares what other people think? Why are even asking this question, if you are both ok with the situation? I'm a sociologist by hobby and like learning about people including what they think and in America it seems to be okay to discuss racism easier than sex so the aspects of sex in conversation always interests me
ADF Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 You're wrong on this. There is nothing wrong with looking at random porn (although I suggest you do it when your Gf is not around). All guys look at porn. But when you are getting explicit pics from people you know, people you could walk up and talk to, that is crossing the line. It is really opening the door to cheating.
Author Gentlemen_shadow Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 isn't sexting where Highschool girls send you naked pictures of themselves to your cell phone. hmmm For me I would not do this even if I was single... especialy if I had a gf/wife or anything would I not do this. Can be highschool though it's more something that can be shared tween exhibitionist and voyeur so that both can get what they want and not have to be exposed openly and yet not have the closeness of a relationship getting in the way of the thrill they feel from it. or my thoughts at least. Personally I think this is something great in a step for if example a husband is voyeur and wife not a exhibitionist, more so limited being naked and rather shy. As long as there is trust and it's not a secret then the husband can see what he likes and not have to hide that part of himself. Not to say they should not try more together as well but a small problem solved
Author Gentlemen_shadow Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 You're wrong on this. There is nothing wrong with looking at random porn (although I suggest you do it when your Gf is not around). All guys look at porn. But when you are getting explicit pics from people you know, people you could walk up and talk to, that is crossing the line. It is really opening the door to cheating. Why would I do that when my girl is not around? Should I be ashamed of the porn I like? Me and my girl make a point of watching porn together and accept each other even if we're not into what the other is craving to see at the time then we can pay attention to each other instead while the other watched what they want. And from what I've seen I'm one of the few men who can control their dick. I've been around a lot of naked women and not jumped any other them save my girl and exs that were current at the time
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 IMO, as long as everyone is disclosed and affirms, there is very little sexually between *consenting* adults which is 'bad'. Enjoy
ADF Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Why would I do that when my girl is not around? Should I be ashamed of the porn I like? Me and my girl make a point of watching porn together and accept each other even if we're not into what the other is craving to see at the time then we can pay attention to each other instead while the other watched what they want. And from what I've seen I'm one of the few men who can control their dick. I've been around a lot of naked women and not jumped any other them save my girl and exs that were current at the time Oh, well, if your wife is cool with porn, no problem. Do as you like. I said what I did because an awful lot of women detest porn. For them, the least a man can do is not rub their noses in it.
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