BoSoxEA Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Background: I am 24 years old and I have been in one serious relationship previous (lasted almost two years) to the one I am in now. That relationship ended when I found concrete evidence of him declaring his love for another woman. This relationship had left me jaded and cynical. I told myself it would be awhile before I could be in another relationship. I have been with my current boyfriend now for a year and a half and it has been the most wonderful time of my life. We never fight, everyone I know loves him, (even my closest friends who were always extremely wary of my ex's motives.) My best friend has even told me that she is jealous that I am "with such a good person" and that I "deserve it after everything." My boyfriend has been around my circle of friends for the past 6 years and no one has had an ounce of anything bad to say about him. The only things that I have heard from people are about his good character. He has brought up marriage with me and asked me to move down south with him within the next year or two. I have spent just about every weekend with him for the past two years and see him during the week at least once. Let me preface this by saying, I know that I was in the wrong for snooping around his e-mail, but I logged onto my computer to find that my his email was still logged on from when he checked it a few days ago. I found an email of him posting a casual encounter ad on craig's list looking to hang out with women who are interested in partaking in outdoor activities together. He states in this ad that he would get along with women who "like getting off in the outdoors" but that he "has a girlfriend and doesn't want anything serious." He has expressed to me that he has been single for four years, but that when I came along, he made an exception and couldn't see himself with anyone else. I also found an email of him replying to a woman about meeting up. Now I don't know what to do next. I am completely at a loss for words, humiliated, and completely crushed. Help?
Pleco Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Honestly? I'd set up a new email address and respond to his ad. Once you get UNDENIABLE proof of his intent to cheat, show it to him. Otherwise, you are going to confront him and he is going to find a way to spin it, and you are going to believe him and waste another year and a half until he stupidly fails, again, to cover his tracks. Just sayin'
Author BoSoxEA Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 Honestly? I'd set up a new email address and respond to his ad. Once you get UNDENIABLE proof of his intent to cheat, show it to him. Otherwise, you are going to confront him and he is going to find a way to spin it, and you are going to believe him and waste another year and a half until he stupidly fails, again, to cover his tracks. Just sayin' Already made up a new email and responded to his ad, let's see if I get a reply. If he replies, you better believe that I will arrange a fake meeting and punch him in the face. I never thought my life would become this trashy.
RedRussian Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I never thought my life would become this trashy. Karma is a beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeach!
Confusedalways Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Already made up a new email and responded to his ad, let's see if I get a reply. If he replies, you better believe that I will arrange a fake meeting and punch him in the face. I never thought my life would become this trashy. Good for you-- that's AWESOME that you're going to "out" him like this. I'm so sorry this is happening to you Keep us updated!
Sivok Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Yeah, this method is fairly effective. A friend of mine's gf made a fake facebook account and started hitting on him; he started reciprocating saying how he has a gf but was about to breakup with her (unknown to the gf at all ofcourse). Her suspicions regarding the female 'friends' he had came true.
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