brownowl90 Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 ive been so hurt and angry ive done something totally out of character and got revenge on my dumper! i was so hurt and angry for all the lies hurt n manipulation. my ex knows im well connected and have the ability to find out most things, even though she lives an hour away i used this to my advantage cos i wanted to know if the new man was on coke as i feared and was round my son, i found out bits of information on him and also used bits i found out on facebook ie his favourite sayings, where he drinks, potential exs, when hed been out with the lads! i also knew her shift patterns, etc etc i then started dropping bits of info on her and she couldnt work out how i knew so much, so i invented a full-on affair he was having behind her back, gave times, days, first name, what he had been textin her, well it worked like a dream and without bein big headed i created a very good story that i knew wud fit and lots of little things that i knew wud make sense to her! i know one of her biggest insecurities is jealousy so i played on it to the full. she believed every word and couldnt understand how i knew so much detail as i live in a totally seperate town and dont know anyone from that area. she has dumped D and i know she will never get over the doubts i put in her head about him. Half of me is happy and proud to make her feel like she did me, for revenge on him for tryin to take my family away, for making sure my son isnt near the drugs, half of me knows its completley out of character for me and maybe i should have let karma do the work cos maybe know im goin to get mine!
Author brownowl90 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t232036/ this is the background of the relationship
Author brownowl90 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 have you read my story???? that only tells the half of it, not only has it been lie hurt n manipulation over the last 5 months she has also brought somebody who takes cocaine into my sons life, i went nc for 6 weeks but she continued to text and ring, making sure i was still hurting! the boyfriend has even called calling me names and badgering me, it is totally out of character for me but she just kept pushin n pushin till i snapped, believe me im feelin as much guilt as i am pleasure and know i should have just been the bigger person!
ALombard Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 There's two types of revenge in a break up. First type; You move on or don't but display the image to your ex that you are completely happy without them. That usually starts messing with them, even if they are the one that left you. Be it for another person or just because it wasn't working it always messes with them. Especially when you just cut all life ties from them. Example; change your number, email, delete their FB, etc. Second type; What you're doing. Going out of your way to make their life miserable because you're miserable. This will always backfire because the law can get involved. Restraining orders, etc. I've never done this but I have never seen it work favorably for those who have. It's sadistic and twisted. You need to stop, grow up and just get over it. You obviously have a lot of issues here, with your ex that is. It doesn't matter what your ex did to you in the past, that's why it's called the past. I understand about your son, but if it's that much of a concern file with the courts to get full custody and limit the time your ex can see your son based off the well being of your child. You acting like this will get you nowhere.
Author brownowl90 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 all i can say in my defence is ive never felt in my life like i have for the last 5 months, i was on the verge of suicide twice and still she kept pushing and hurting me, grief and heart ache can do funny things to people, specially ones who r usually so strong, im experienced enough to know that these lies will come back and bite me on my backside twice as hard, but maybe it will put a stop to the games from both sides
romango Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 have you read my story???? Yes, I read your story. That's how I came to my conclusion.
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