fran_lebowitz Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Hi everyone This is the first time I write on this forum but I need some way of coping and this after reading some forums, I thought it would be a good idea. I had been with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half and we broke up two weeks ago exactly. We broke up as friends because we knew it hadn't been working for the last 4 months. We kept sleeping together for the next couple of days but otherwise, everything was purely friendship. Finally, 11 days after we broke up, he told me he had a new girlfriend. I flipped out and I'm having a real hard time to cope. Can I ever be friends with him? Can I ever fall out of love with him? Please help!
skydiveaddict Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Can I ever be friends with him? Can I ever fall out of love with him? Please help! Question 1: eventually, but it might take years Question 2: I don't know. I still havent figured that one out yet
Author fran_lebowitz Posted June 11, 2010 Author Posted June 11, 2010 Now i don't know what to do. He knows I'm super sad about the new girlfriend and he wants to break up with her to make it easier on me. If I tell him go for it, he will. I don't want to be the reason the break up. Not that way anyways. HELP
Alain Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 I don't understand how people can just move on to a new relationship after a break up. It makes the old relationship seem meaningless and not special. Can they really not wait a few months to be with someone else? When my ex did that to me she really didn't respect me or our relationship. For your case at least your BF is considering your feelings. I would tell him not rush into another relationship not just for his sake but for yours as well. Beware though even if he says he will stop seeing the new girl, it doesn't mean he will. He may just hide it from you to "protect" you. As for being friends, I agree with the other post that it will probably take years for it to happen. A friendship really wouldn't work when there are too many old feelings and jealousy involved. I pretty much vowed not to have any contact with my ex for at least 2 years and I know it will take much more before I would consider having any type of relationship with her. Falling out of love is tricky. If the love was real, I think it will always be part of you. You just learn to deal and live with it.
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