lucy9216 Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Been really close friends with this guy since january of this year, I met him through some mutual friends when he came back from being at sea for about 8 months, he is in the navy. I did feel a connection with him when I first met him and I know he did with me! he asked me out at first but I told him no because I have a lot of fears of getting hurt and having 2 small kids I don't want them to get attached to anyone and if it doesn’t work out I don't want them to get hurt either. We also hang out at the same country night club on the weekends cause we both enjoy dancing a lot and I didn't want there to be any weirdness with an ex hanging around if it didn't work out. So there are the reasons why I pushed him away until about 2 months ago. I had been thinking a little about it and decided one night to give it a shot but I wanted to go slow, he started moving really fast! Told me he loved me within the first week of dating that really scared me. After a month I broke things off he didn't say much except that he would wait for me if I needed time cause he had waited for me before and he hopes things could work out in the future. I said okay but we just have to be friends for now. A few weeks go by and we talk sometimes and I start to miss him but I know I am not ready for what he wants but one night I drank a bit much and he took me home, things went far and I had to break things off again. I told him I just have so many fears about a relationship that I still need more time and I don't want to hurt him again! Again he said he would wait for me and give me time... So, during the next week we are talking every night till about 1 am... It finally hit me that I am a total idiot! And I love him too, I needed to fix this! I asked him if he was going out on sat. Cause I wanted to tell him in person, he texted me sat. Afternoon and told me he would be there. When he got there I pulled him aside and poured my whole heart out to him and apologized for anything I did to hurt him and I was wrong but I love him and he said well I need to know that you are sure and I said yes I am sure! He said okay I need some time to think about this. About half hour later I find out he is there with someone else and was on a date =( so I proceeded to get drunk and later tell him off in front of everyone, it was a really bad night! He wouldn't talk to me of course after that so I gave him a few days and texted him saying I would like to talk with him if he would talk with me he said he would later. Later came and he never called... I really wanted to apologize for my behavior so I sent him a private message on facebook apologizing. He responded saying that he has been very confused with me for the last month and he doesn’t know how to approach the situation. I told him that I understand how I confused him and I am sorry for that but I do love him and I think we both need a lot of space from each other for the time being anyways. A week went by haven't spoken to each other at all and I know he has still been seeing this girl. She is 10 years younger than him and from what I am told by those who have met her that she is very annoying and is also seeing 2 other guys that I don't think he knows about. On Sunday a mutual friend was having a bday party that I wanted to go too, I found out he would be there but without her. He got drunk! And he eventually started talking with me for a while and telling me that he is leaving in a month and won’t be back till Feb. It was so nice to talk with him again! I really missed that a lot!!! I had to leave early and he was in the living room playing the guitar at this point with some other guys and oh one part I forgot to mention is since we broke up another guy has been kind of hitting on me... he hasn't asked me out or for my number but he has kissed me once in the last week, very casual nothing serious. so both of them were sitting next to each other on the couch when I left and the one I started talking too recently waved me over to give him a hug so I did and he kissed me in front of my ex too!!! I looked at my ex and said by but he just gave me the most evil look ever!!!! It just broke my heart!!! But what am I supposed to do? He won’t talk to me at all! And has been seeing this other girl. So now this really sucks and I don't know what to do if I should try and talk with him or wait for him to talk to me? If he thinks I am with this guy he won’t talk to me!!! The only thing I see happening is he leaves in a month; this girl he is seeing isn't going to stick around for long after he leaves, she is young and wants to party! So I will just have to wait till he gets back in feb. And hopefully that will be enough time for both of us to forgive each other? Any thoughts please? I really need help with this one!
Author lucy9216 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 I know its long but I really need some help with this one!!! please
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