My boyfriend gives his ex more importance...should I break up with him?

[Hood Love]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Ive been dating my Boyfriend for a year and a half now, everything else is fine but we always argue about his ex. They always flirt with each other and she writes 'i love you, i miss you, mwah xxxxx' on his facebook wall and he writes back telling her that he misses her too etc. He said that they are gonna go on a holiday together when he gets a job. This is really making me insecure, I’ve told him this but he tells me they are only friends and he doesn’t love her and that he only loves me and he wants to marry me but he did admit that he flirts with her and that he can’t help it. He knows it hurts me but he still doesn’t stop talking to her, I love him so much that if he ever asks me to stop talking to someone (even if its my best friend) I will stop talking to them. Also, he’s gone abroad for a couple of months (he only told me that he was leaving a day before) and on his last day he didn’t even bother meeting me or calling me because apparently he was too busy 'packing' but he had time to talk to his ex because she wrote 'i will miss you. mwah xxxxxxxxx' on his facebook wall that night. This clearly means that he spoke to her because how else would she know that he was leaving? He had time to talk to her but he couldn't call me when he knew i was waiting for his call and that I would be most affected by him leaving. I’m thinking of breaking up with him when he comes back, but I really love him….any advice please?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[Eeyore79]

Either he cuts contact with her or you break up with him. It's completely unacceptable for him and his ex to be writing stuff like "I love you, I miss you, mwah xx". It's even more unacceptable for him to go on holiday with her! He's already admitted that he flirts with her despite knowing that it hurts you; what more evidence do you need that he doesn't really care about your feelings?

 

It sounds like he isn't really over her, or she isn't really over him... do you know why they broke up and who dumped who? Either way, their behaviour is unacceptable and has to stop, either by him dumping her or you dumping him. You may love him, but he clearly doesn't love you, and has no consideration for your feelings. I think you'd be better off calling it quits and looking for another man who actually respects you and cares about your feelings.

[skydiveaddict]

Either he cuts contact with her or you break up with him.

 

I agree completely. Dont put up w/this from him

[norajane]

he did admit that he flirts with her and that he can’t help it. He knows it hurts me but he still doesn’t stop talking to her

 

1. They may be "exes" but their relationship is far from over. This is a guy you should dump immediately, before he cheats or you find yourself dumped because he and "ex" missed each other so much they decided behind your back to get back together.

 

2. A guy who knows he's hurting you and keeps on doing it anyway, is a guy who is going to continue to hurt you, over and over and over. This is a guy you should dump immediately. Why would you voluntarily stay with someone who has pretty much told you he is going to keep hurting you and keep hurting you and keep hurting you despite how you feel?

[Hogan]

I'd break up with him today and move on long before he ever returned.

[SoundedPlum]

BREAK UP WITH HIM. He's clearly still in love with his ex. It can't be any more clear than that if they keep writing "I love you/I miss you"... They are going to go on a holiday together when he gets a job? Why not you? You're his girlfriend, not her. I don't think he cares much about your relationship. Dump him before he dumps you!