longerfellows Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 O.K. here we go - I work with a girl that started about 4 months ago and I can not stop thinking about her. Let me try to bring you up to date. We started working together and our job requires us to be out to visit clients together and we drive together - we have had lunch almost everyday together and we get along great. we bitch about other people in the company and share our life stories and have a great time together - It seems like she is so upbeat when she is around me and I just love being around her. Now I do have to tell you that I am her boss and I know the response I am going to get I know I know about the workplace thing. I am so bad at reading people and just want to know if she is being flirty and nice only becouse I am her boss. She always laughs at my jokes and always treats me with respect. Well today I was joking around and asked her if she would ever date a guy like me (the context of the question came after we were discussing our quirks) and I said you have knowned more for awhile now would you date me? She replied - you are kind of high maintenance in a joking way - I said its o.k. to say no im not going to be heartbroken (lie) and It totally sounded like I was fishing - I know I have lost the playing it cool. Any way she laughed at the reply and never answered the question - She did say in a joking manner that I think that question was inapropreiate. We both laughed. I don't know what to take of all of this. Part of me says she does not like me like that and the part of me that wants to believe she does says she never said no - But I am affraid that she did with her response. See it took me 4 months to have the courage to even bring up that question in the right context and I do not know what to do? When we do go out to lunch I always offer to pay and she accepts 90% of the time - I feel like we have a cool vibe between us and I feel like she treats me different than others in the company - Is it becouse I am her boss or becouse she likes me - It is driving me crazy I just wish I knew. She blows me away in every way and I cant stop thinking about her 20 hours a day. Sorry for the rant - I know its hard to tell based on my brief explenation of the last 4 months. I will reply with any questions. Thank You all for your help and replies.
Serenitynow Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I hope you spell better at work than you do on here. Always amazes me how people get management positions and cant spell. My opinion, I would not even worry about it. But since you are a typical guy, willing to throw your job away to have a relationship with a person that you are the boss of, then does it really matter what we say here? I will not entertain your idea of wanting to know what to do. IF you are really her boss than you SHOULD know what to do and put it to rest. PS the "friend zone" has nothing to do with your situation at all
skydiveaddict Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 It's really hard to say. If I had to guess I'd say you're in the deadly friendzone. But I could be wrong. I think the only way to know is to straight up ask her out
Author longerfellows Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 I can appreciate the reply - But it is not crazy to dfind love at work and alot of people find love in these situations - our company has a dating policy as long as we let HR know. As far as the spelling I know! I do appreciate the reply however.
Serenitynow Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I think the only way to know is to straight up ask her out Are you kidding ? There would be no reason for forums if people did that. We would all have to find something else to do if people didnt come on here to speculate over things they could just figure out on their own
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Try to sooth her heart with music and cheer for the masses of the working class.
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