Arbitrariness Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Alright, In the past I've had a few female friends that have fallen for me when it was not my intention. I treat all my mates the same, that is that I respect them and make time to see them. I didn't see it coming either, just one day boom. Its kind of screwed a few of these relationships. I think I must be part of the problem by sending the wrong messages or something. Is it okay for guys to hang out with chick mates? Any tips for keeping things in friendly territory?
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Just tell them all that you are Gay, case closed. Next Thread?
Sivok Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Jealousy's a bitch. Especially if your friends are one of two things: 1 - are more attractive than your girlfriend 2 - are giving hints (body language/etc) that they're interested in you that your gf picks up on girls are much better at reading other girls than guys are. It all depends on how secure your gf is. Yeah, cutting off all your female friends will solve this issue in the future, but I doubt that's the solution you want to take. Do what girls do to guys. When you're hanging out with them, make it clear that 'im glad to have you as a friend, you're like a sister to me' etc... to get the message across you aren't interested in anything romantic
sally4sara Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It is perfectly okay for you to have female friends. There are some things you can do to minimize romantic confusion. Don't share tidbits about your sex life. That is a big one. I avoid talking about sex at all with my platonic male friends. Don't put yourself at odds with whomever they are dating by calling the guy names if the girl brings a relationship problem to you. It can make you seem like you're competing with their SO. Don't compliment their looks. "that's a cool dress" is way different than "that dress looks awesome ON YOU". If they ask your opinion on what clothes or hairstyle looks best on them - focus on the negative like you would a guy friend. Instead of "I think you look great with your hair down", say something more like "It looks school marmish when you wear it up". Don't say "the black jean show off your ass", say "the blue ones look messy". Be careful how you use them as wing agents because if they are even a little interested - you might stir up their competitive nature. Ask about their single female friends. No curling up on the couch together to watch movies. Be happy and encouraging to them when they meet someone new. When you meet someone new, make sure to introduce that new person with pride. Treat them exactly as you would one of your guy friends. Do you take your guy friends out to nice dinners? Buy them gifts? Put your hand at the small of your guy friend's back when walking through a crowd? Embrace them as a greeting or goodbye without a hearty slap on the back?
Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I friend-zoned a girl who is attracted to me, and just recently met a new girl and told her. She wanted to meet her right away, and the new girl is very suspicious. I've had girls get catty over me before, and I have a feeling the same thing could happen here.
Author Arbitrariness Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Cheers Sally that was the gold i was looking for, Russian not so much. You mentioned not talking about sex, is it a good idea to bring up other girls i'm interested in?
sally4sara Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Cheers Sally that was the gold i was looking for, Russian not so much. You mentioned not talking about sex, is it a good idea to bring up other girls i'm interested in? That should be okay as long as you've refrained from sharing your sex life with the female friend. If the friend starts bad mouthing the girl you're interested in without foundation (speaking of second hand rumors rather than fact)- take it as a clue that they are interested and maybe let some time pass before hanging out with them again.
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