marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I'm a US Marine went to a graduation party in FLA that was a 6 hour drive from my base and a girl from my homestate CT was there. I met here two years ago and kinda looked at her then but went on with my day. Talked too her sometimes on FB now and then. So when I went to the party I was there to suprise my cousin nothing else. Sat started with with swimming and pool party started and we started flirting a little. Then it went to a little more, she eventally became drunk and I was starting to. Things started moving a little faster we talked about our lives etc what sucks. She stopped drinking becasue she felt like crap. We went to sleep we went all the way and then we got woke up to go from the bed to floor and the area was too small so she was on the couch when i woke up. Sunday We got talked on sat before we went to bed to show a little more respect in the pool, so we did. Sunday came and it was slow going but though out the day there was contact, holding hands, a quick kiss, touching eachother as we passed. I had to get going to base later sunday night, and before i left she and myself talked and she said she knows ill be happy with you etc but I dont want to hurt u or myself and then she was afraid of comminment to such a nice guy. She says she loves that im nice and stuff just afraid that all previous times it didnt go well. So we agreed to take things slowly and go from there. so I told everyone by she walked me out and hunged me and we kissed a couple times before i left great memory. Monday I'm back at base and working, kinda bored so I text her and ask what she prefers she said since shes been down there shes only been txting so i agreed so we start having a convo txting and i get told by my cousin to lay off b/c im being clingy but we were only having a convo txting, and wasnt trying to rush things, just got excited asked things if i came hope for leave in ct would she like to hang out, just got excited talking with her. So I start asking my cousin questions and the girl sees my cousin on the phone with me and ask whats going on. I was just seeing if i messed up and i over reacted really. I get a message from the chick telling my cousin and my uncle where making jokes about her and me and my aunt flipped out on them for doing so, and that she doesnt like to be malled and she was on vascation, and that I was over reacting and just go with the flow and let what happens happen. So I was telling her of the mis understanding in the whole thing and try to fix things instead of just saying I agree with you. I was worried that she tohugh I was mallin her when i was really just having a fun time txting her, and as explaining it she finally says " you need to hear me I cant do long distance relationship even if we ever got further. I realize that im really not your type in anyway. wheter you think otherwise im sorry. But all I want is friends, idk if you can except that. hope you can. I'm going swimming in the pool so ill ttyl. really sry I feel terrible but those are my feelings. So I called my cousin asked to speak with the girl real quick and told her that I would like to be friends etc and wasnt trying to push for anything thing else and she though i was trying to rush things and said she misunderstood that. Said she wouldnt have her phone today and would call when she gets back today i think she said or vacation I cant remember. So from what she told me in the final txt it seems like she does like me still but just wants me to lay off right now and that she cant do a long distance relationship. And she wont have her phone and she will call me later meaning just let her contact me whenever. Is there any recovery in this at all to get closer then friends. My home town is 15 mins away from here and I'm thinking of taking leave from the marines in july for two weeks should I see if she wants to hang out etc when I go home... it will be a month from today. I know there are alot of girls but this is one of the few girls i actually like with my heart not just my head.
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 "you need to hear me I cant do long distance relationship even if we ever got further. I realize that im really not your type in anyway. wheter you think otherwise im sorry. But all I want is friends, idk if you can except that. hope you can. I'm going swimming in the pool so ill ttyl. really sry I feel terrible but those are my feelings" That is all you need to know here bro. Move on and save yourself some hurt. If you have feelings for her being "friends" will be a killer, trust me.
Ihavenoidea Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 "you need to hear me I cant do long distance relationship even if we ever got further. I realize that im really not your type in anyway. wheter you think otherwise im sorry. But all I want is friends, idk if you can except that. hope you can. I'm going swimming in the pool so ill ttyl. really sry I feel terrible but those are my feelings" That is all you need to know here bro. Move on and save yourself some hurt. If you have feelings for her being "friends" will be a killer, trust me. doesnt get any clearer than this. BTW she wont call you she just said that to be nice
Author marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 I know what your getting at but sometimes you fight for something you want for this example wait and see what happens. Personally I think if I back off and see what happens it might work if I dont get a call, I dont get one but if I do, it could work out. Her final message before I called her seems like, yes i like you but you need to back off right now... And then my call she was like I misunderstood what your txt's meant... I'm getting two weeks of leave to go home and some of that I could see if she wants to hangout, and thats in a month from now, we were never together but we acted like it kinda, seems to me we are FWB at that moment and maybe just friends now if she calls me or the same.\ I have meant alot of girls dated alot but personally she is the one for me and I think im going to try to go on this long haul I get out of the marines in a year. Any ideas what I could do now until i go home and maybe ideas for when I go home. I know you guys and ladies are telling me to forget but I cant sorry...
Ihavenoidea Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 (edited) Sorry but she isnt interested. I dont think you will get much replies other than that. She was interested and like most women she thought about it and changed her mind. Problem is you are smittened and you wont listen to anyone elses reason because you are blinded by your lust for her. I doubt she is "the one", you probably jsut have a strong attraction and some infatuation going on. Seriously not to be harsh but what about this do you not understand. you need to hear me I cant do long distance relationship even if we ever got further. I realize that im really not your type in anyway. wheter you think otherwise im sorry. But all I want is friends, idk if you can except that. hope you can. I'm going swimming in the pool so ill ttyl. really sry I feel terrible but those are my feelings. Read the last underline, you clearly arent accepting it at all and just making things worse Edited June 8, 2010 by Ihavenoidea
Author marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 I understand what your getting at and to be honest i know she is the one from experience.
Ihavenoidea Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 A marine and you get out in a year so Im going to stretch and say you are 21? How old are you? she might be the one for you but you certainly arent the one for her and that part is evident
Author marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Yes your right about my age, I might be the one for her if I was closer she has bad that clear. I know she likes me but I'm not close and she doesnt want anything like that she needs someone close. Best thing I can do is Wait hope for a phone call and then go from there and go as friends and maybe something will workout...
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 "Best thing I can do is Wait hope for a phone call" Are you crazy? Your 21 young have so much life to live and you gonna wait for her? a girl who sees you nothing more as a "friend" who "realize that im really not your type in anyway. wheter you think otherwise"
Ihavenoidea Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 (edited) I understand what your getting at and to be honest i know she is the one from experience. Then I would say this is a quote of ignorance as you have relatively low experience. 6 billion people on the planet 50% divorce rate in the US and people single and searching well into their 40's and you think you have it figured out? You are 21 man, barely legal to drink, cant even really rent a car without your military ID. MOVE ON! Edited June 8, 2010 by Ihavenoidea
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 If this is what Marines are these days, we got bigger problems as a nation...yes I'm Russian but US citizen who was in the Army....so go USA!
Author marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 maybe she is pushing me away to be just friends as we have always been... And she then might look for something down the road. When I have leave in July I will see only reason ill wait is the strong feeling I have towards her... If I didn't have that I would let her go
Ihavenoidea Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 maybe she is pushing me away to be just friends as we have always been... And she then might look for something down the road. When I have leave in July I will see only reason ill wait is the strong feeling I have towards her... If I didn't have that I would let her go Just stop man, im starting to feel really bad for you.
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Yes man, it's like watching a puppy get strangled, you feel bad and you tell puppy to bite the hand and flee, but nooooo ....sad sad sad story....
Author marine545 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 That puppy took a chance die or hope to be let go. I will try to be the puppy that gets let go and take my chances... She means a lot to me if I could take yesterday away I would be fine but I can't.
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 But you can't take it away and you know that, you just letting things stretch out to the same end. As a soldier you must know when to have a strategic retreat.
Author marine545 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Yes I do and I have a idea and if it fails i will let her go. I'm on the local FD and they could since what was going on so I told the guys and they agree friday I should send a text saying sry or something for what happened and u want to be friends and go from there build up a friendship before i go home on leave and se if we can become friends like we were down here again... Like I said I will wait as long as I wan if there is progress I wont beat a dead horse. We will know on Friday, what happens
Author marine545 Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 thanks for the posts, I hope everything goes well idk
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