Bogo123 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It seems every date I go on we have drinks, whether its after dinner at a lounge, sake with sushi, wine with italian, etc. So as the night progresses, we both have a good buzz going. I know its good for lowering inhibitions, but are there any negative consequences? Will she remember what was talked about? Will we be able to connect on a deeper level as opposed to just having fun?
Green Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Having fun is the deeper level. As long as your not drunk I say enjoy your drinks.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 This is the $64,000 question. I gave up drinking and eating for pleasure. I guess you get the movie and your own pop corn but f$*% the dinner and drinks if you want me to stay in shape.
Morals Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It seems every date I go on we have drinks, whether its after dinner at a lounge, sake with sushi, wine with italian, etc. So as the night progresses, we both have a good buzz going. I know its good for lowering inhibitions, but are there any negative consequences? Will she remember what was talked about? Will we be able to connect on a deeper level as opposed to just having fun? I will say this much, I don't get smashed much anymore. But every single time I've gotten smashed (not just tipsy) I still remember 90% of everything that happened the previous night. YMMV but alcohol really doesn't make people "forget" themselves. The idea behind alcohol lower inhibitions I've come to realize is more of a placebo effect. The idea of just drinking something with alcohol I think is the real effect. That's why some call it "liquid courage".
brainygirl Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I've known men who would only want to date when he'd been drinking that evening.
Choboto Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 as long as you dont get past tipsy. a negative side effect? she thinks your a lush.
D-Lish Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I enjoy going on a date and having a pint or two- but 2 is my limit. I stick to that rule nowadays.
USMCHokie Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I avoid drinking altogether on the first few dates with a woman...either I take her places where alcohol isn't served, or I just get water and let her drink if she chooses... And besides, I have to watch my girlish figure...
Jersey Shortie Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I was never big on drinking but a glass of wine on occassion is nice. OP, try a non-alcholoic date and see what happens.
spookie Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I think it depends on your personal relationship with alcohol. If you view a couple drinks as a harmless way to loosen up a little around people you would like to be around anyway, that's fine imo. If you feel like you "need" to drink something, otherwise you'd rather have stayed home, that's a problem. Due to having done so in the past, I am always wary about falling into a pattern of relying on alcohol. I think I am fortunate in that I have come to a place in my life where I can have just as much fun with or without it. When I first started dating my bf, I was nervous that it would be awkward, and my instinct was to hit the bottle. However, each time, I resisted, reminding myself that I genuinely wanted to find a relationship where we could both enjoy ourselves sober. Luckily, it worked out; after our first date, wherein we both had 2 beers, we quickly settled into a pattern of doing things that didn't alcohol. It helps that we have the same interests, so we don't need to fall back on just going out to dinner all the time. We still drink a fair bit, but we keep it "social", when we're hanging out with other people.
OpenGL Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 This is the $64,000 question. I gave up drinking and eating for pleasure. I guess you get the movie and your own pop corn but f$*% the dinner and drinks if you want me to stay in shape. Sorry but thats bull. I get HAMMERED damn near every weekend and I'm in great shape.
Disillusioned Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Funny how beer goggles work... especially because alcohol consumption lowers testosterone levels. One guy who drinks a lot, also says alkies father more girls because alcohol tends to kill off Y chromosomes. He has 3 daughters and no sons, so I guess the guy knows what he's talking about...
phineas Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Funny how beer goggles work... especially because alcohol consumption lowers testosterone levels. One guy who drinks a lot, also says alkies father more girls because alcohol tends to kill off Y chromosomes. He has 3 daughters and no sons, so I guess the guy knows what he's talking about... I got 2 boys & done having kids. Guess I can up my drinking now.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Sorry but thats bull. I get HAMMERED damn near every weekend and I'm in great shape. I don't care whether you're sorry or not--and I think not. Congratulations on your alcohol consumption prowess. I've been there, done that and as I said chose to give it up in total as well as eating for pleasure. It's how I need to keep myself how I want to stay and I am not about to start losing myself in wining and dining for anyone. Your swipe is unfriendly and uncalled for. I am not you and you are not me. Bottoms up, a$${}ole.
Author Bogo123 Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 I mean I really want a genuine connection, but I always feel the night won't be as fun without alcohol. It makes it so much more fun, plus it facilitates the physical aspect. I have a 3rd date with this girl on monday and so far all of our dates have involved drinking. I might skip the lounge and just take her to a park, hopefully it won't be boring.
spookie Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I mean I really want a genuine connection, but I always feel the night won't be as fun without alcohol. It makes it so much more fun, plus it facilitates the physical aspect. I have a 3rd date with this girl on monday and so far all of our dates have involved drinking. I might skip the lounge and just take her to a park, hopefully it won't be boring. An expert drinker myself, I totally get where you're coming from. Drinking makes everything fun. Heavy drinking can lead to epic adventures you might not remember, but will never forget. However, dead sober dates can be even more magical, when the intellectual/ emotional connection is right. Plus, avoiding alcohol ensures you remember everything in greater clarity, which helps build up your feelings for each other. One of the "defining" dates in my current relationship was a day my bf and I spent together at the zoo. Alcohol-free, rated PG, but the fact that I had so much fun with him anyway made me realize I really liked him.
zengirl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I try not to drink on a first few dated. Maybe 1 glass of wine or a pint. It's not that I've some opposition to drinking (actually I get drunk with friends on occasion; I'm young; that's normal enough to me) ---it's just how can anybody assess anything real if they're drinking?
Author Bogo123 Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Yes, that is what im thinking. I feel like alcohol might be a crutch to have a good time and the connection won't be genuine because its based on our "drunk" personalities. Im gonna try day dates so there won't be as much temptation to drink but its gonna be tough. Plus day dates aren't as intimate and its alot closer to the dreaded friend zone. Hell even a picnic in the park i'd bring a bottle of wine lol.
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