IveGotProblems Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Alright so I've been dating this girl for a couple months. When I met her I was a virgin with not much experience. I have found out I don't have much stamina which is disappointing to me but I try my hardest to make up for it with her, it doesn't seem to bother to much at all, she even called me "exhausting, but amazing" one night. That made me feel pretty good, but the other day she went down on me. This was the first time it ever happened for me and I got very excited, so it didn't last long at all. I got real embarrassed but I just tried to ignore it and it seems like she wasn't bothered too much. I just can't seem to let it go, I just wanted a womens opinion on how big of a deal it is.
bac Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It should get better with your stamina in a while. For an unexperienced guy who is in a relationship it is normal not to be perfect at sex.
that girl Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I don't think most women would be bothered by you coming quickly from a blow job, particularly the first one. It is less work for her if you come quickly. But I hope you are going down on her regularly. If you're worried about stamina during sex, make sure to give her an orgasm before the sex starts.
Author IveGotProblems Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Thanks for the reassurance and advice, it makes me feel a little better
You Go Girl Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Honestly, it's kinda cute in the beginning of a relationship if a guy simply can't hold back, and then that red blush of embarassment! It's a compliment, is it not? No problem unless it persists, because later she is going to like some satisfaction herself. If you're worried about it happening, what if you self-pleasure right before you see her? Would that help your stamina?
Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I had this issue with a new girl recently and it got better after a couple times, and I haven't been a virgin for years. Want to know a good way to improve it? If you masturbate, take a much longer time to do it. Most guys when they do this, do it quickly to get to orgasm. Take like, 20-30 minutes and every time you feel you're about to finish, stop and hold back, then continue and keep stopping yourself. You'll eventually train your body to hold back. Also kegel excercises help, but overall this will get better the more you do it and become less nervous.
cdubs32 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 When you're having sex, you gotta put your mind somwhere else. I know some pornstars say they think about things that are gross or disturbing. I personally used to just think about baseball when I had this problem, but I was younger, and the girl I was with was ULTRA TIGHT.
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Yes, think about your mom or grandmother in the shower covered with soap, will straighten you up just right, you will be able to go far and wide bro, well past her falling asleep...but that is another topic....
Author IveGotProblems Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Haha redrussian, I'm afraid that would go a little too far and I'd instantly go limp......Phineas, it's wierd because sometimes I can stay hard the whole time, but the other night it just wouldn't come back.
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 maybe if you show the little guy a new toy to play with, things will work out just fine between you two
Recommended Posts