SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Do sluts hang out with other sluts?? Yes, sluts are like the last few Cheerios in the bowl.
Woggle Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 But it really gets * OLD * after awhile . Not all women are the boot licking , soul raping , executive job stealing harlots that you make them out to be. Post one new thread about something positive you have started. Link it here. Not all but they are out there and a man needs to know what to look for. Promiscuity is one of the major factors. I will link my happy marriage thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t230983/
donnamaybe Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I suspect with your HUGE laundry list of what you want from women that you WISH you were more spicy , more jerky with women than you are NOW. You have been reading too many Date Help Sites. Real women don't want spineless wimps NOR do they want total jerkoids. They want a man who is confidant , does not WHINE about what he had / never had/ never wanted/ what he thinks about Whores and Sluts are really insignificant because he is really voicing his distaste and failure as a man in the first place. Guys that want the perfect women put REAL women to sleep.... Perfectly stated! Yes - anyone is free to feel how they feel. But when someone feels the need to paste a label on someone - talk about it at all - it lessens THAT person in my mind. Sure. Think what you want. But do you have to verbally malign people who are doing something that does NOT affect you in any way? It's not like they're having their ONS's on your front porch.
Jersey Shortie Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Very well stated Mary Guys that want the perfect women put REAL women to sleep.... So simple and yet so true.
Woggle Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I know very few men who demand perfection from women. In fact most women who chase perfection become intolerable headcases and miss the big picture.
Mary3 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Not all but they are out there and a man needs to know what to look for. Promiscuity is one of the major factors. I will link my happy marriage thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t230983/ Thank you Woggle for posting that .
Mary3 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Very well stated Mary So simple and yet so true. Thank you
Mary3 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I know very few men who demand perfection from women. In fact most women who chase perfection become intolerable headcases and miss the big picture. There are TONS of men on On-line dating sites that have 6 paragraphs about what they want in a woman. The ones that want the size 3 Barbie Doll Babes with almost impossible attributes that no woman could likely live up to are either very unattractive or over 48 years old confirmed bachelors that you know are TOO late to consider as dating or hubby material ...
Woggle Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Women's profiles are even more nitpicky but people on the internet in general do that. We all want to have the best mate possible but I have rarely known men who have a good and healthy relationship still pick it every tiny little flaw because things are not perfect enough. They don't feel like they settled because they don't have some unattainable level of perfection that only exists in fantasies. Many women do feel this way.
Justice44 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I think the factor has equal weight for a male or female partner. Any man who has sex with tons of different partners is just as likely to have "issues" as a woman who does. But having many different partners does not automatically incriminate one as issue-ridden. I agree. I have seen men who **** around and have issues. I personally know them. This notion that men are just acting like men when they **** around is a bunch of junk. However, this does not imply that there are no women and men who promiscuous and issue free.
Justice44 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 So you're saying that women do have a primal urge to sleep around and because they show restraint you judge them as exempt from harsh labels? And I did read your laundry list of qualities, but the fact that you malign women who do not meet your standards somewhat negates your good qualities. It shows that you have no tolerance for those who do not live according to your standards. If you don't want to date a woman who is sexually active in this fashion, do not date her. But when you berate her, you debase yourself. I agree. By some people's standards 20 partners is too low. Ti
flying Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 They don't feel like they settled because they don't have some unattainable level of perfection that only exists in fantasies. This makes me laugh in a bitter way because you are describing my boyfriend. You don't know what you're talking about at all.
Justice44 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 But then of course you would be labeled a slut by many of the male posters on this forum, don't you know?. It's really sad that women have been labeled sluts even way back when I was in high school and college, and usually if someone was accused of promiscuity the other girls would avoid hanging around with her lest they be judged a slut as well. I would not trust a man who slept around because I would not feel special to him. But I wouldn't label him. It's the labeling that I find most distressing. The promiscuous female is judged as having a pathological mindset when in fact she just might like the surge of excitement with a new partner! Some things never change . . . You make very good points. The same people who have a hard time grasping this can easily grasp women being rappers, race car divers and mathematicians. My point is all of these fields are perceived to be masculine. Yet, we have critics who insist there is virtually no women capable of enjoying sexual variety. I want to be clear. I think having sex with hundreds of complete strangers is equally careless behavior regardless of what gender is doing it. But frankly I do not think that 20 partners in your early 20s is automatically promiscuous.
Mary3 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Women's profiles are even more nitpicky but people on the internet in general do that. We all want to have the best mate possible but I have rarely known men who have a good and healthy relationship still pick it every tiny little flaw because things are not perfect enough. They don't feel like they settled because they don't have some unattainable level of perfection that only exists in fantasies. Many women do feel this way. When someone says they * settled * it suggests they got less than what they wanted. When in reality you are no more perfect than the person you are knocking down.
Mr White Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I also find it funny how the same women who go around touting sexual freedom are the same ones who get mad at men who look at porn, go to strip clubs and use prostitutes. A lot of this stuff is just undercover misandry. You can tell women with this mentality have some serious issues with men but instead of coming out and saying it they dress it as empowerment. re-quoted for telling it like it is. WHat gives?
Mr White Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You make very good points. The same people who have a hard time grasping this can easily grasp women being rappers, race car divers and mathematicians. My point is all of these fields are perceived to be masculine. Yet, we have critics who insist there is virtually no women capable of enjoying sexual variety. I want to be clear. I think having sex with hundreds of complete strangers is equally careless behavior regardless of what gender is doing it. But frankly I do not think that 20 partners in your early 20s is automatically promiscuous. Being rapper or mathematician has no direct relevance to relationship skills and dispositions, while sexual attitudes and behaviors do.
Mary3 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I also find it funny how the same women who go around touting sexual freedom are the same ones who get mad at men who look at porn, go to strip clubs and use prostitutes. A lot of this stuff is just undercover misandry. You can tell women with this mentality have some serious issues with men but instead of coming out and saying it they dress it as empowerment. Woah ....I don't know how this one slipped by.... I don't get mad at men watching porn. I watch it alone and I watch it with bf . We find a movie we like and we watch it. Strip Clubs. I personally don't get off watching naked men dance but I understand men are visual and they like watching naked women dance. Would I dance naked in front of strange men ? No. I have seen what these girls do with their bodies on stage and I could never do that. So it's a toss up on Strip Clubs. They are NOT going to close down legal strip clubs just because someone doesn't like having them around. They are NOT going to stop porn production either for the same reason.. Prostitution is degrading to me . Spread your legs and makes some dollar bills...But legalized Prostitution will REMAIN as long as men keep having a penis between their legs.. I don't think you can stop any of the 3.
Justice44 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Hafta disagree a bit. The biggest man slut I've known in my life had major issues. He's now 42 and is just cleaning up from years of heroin and anything else addiction. I watched his downward spiral slowly developing for years. He had a few near death experiences, spent time on Riker's Island and was generally an emotional mess too. He also had more girls than anyone else I know. Many he dated were just all around beautiful and awesome women... who he usually cheated on and used. My experience agrees with yours. I know a ton of guys who sleep around and have issues. I also know a ton of guys who do not have issues but sleep around.
Justice44 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) Being rapper or mathematician has no direct relevance to relationship skills and dispositions, while sexual attitudes and behaviors do. According to Charles Darwin, men's innate desire to provide for their families was one of the reasons why men desired to pursue these careers SIGNIFICANTLY more than women. He would contend that men pursue careers outside of the home in order to provide for his family. If Darwin heard such a response from you, he would ask you, "What purpose does a woman have in pursuing a career in the field of science when her evolutionary role is to be a housewife and child raiser?" Darwin believed that the male primate's evolutionary role was that of a provider. He used his hunting skills to provide for his mate. Thus, he would contend that the modern human male has only evolved in how he provides for his family. Pursuing any CAREER outside of the home was viewed as being masculine because it was a means of providing for a man's family. Women who pursued any field dominated by men were viewed as violating their evolutionary role. From a sexual standpoint, Darwin believed intelligence was one of the male traits females sexually desired in a male sex partner. Obviously, I think this theory is absurd, but I simply want to expose to you the totality of the view that you seem to agree with. This is why when I keep hearing this non-sense that promiscuous women are acting like men, it sounds the same as saying women who want to work outside the home are acting like men. [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] Edited June 25, 2010 by Justice44
Justice44 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Maybe those people who think women don't have sex for the mere pleasure of it have never actually pleasured a woman, therefore, they never come back for seconds. Oh, they've probably had sex, but pleasing a woman takes something extra. I agree. This type of attitude is similar to the 19th Century attitude toward women who became professors. They were seen as unhealthy because this was a man's domain.
Justice44 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Being rapper or mathematician has no direct relevance to relationship skills and dispositions, while sexual attitudes and behaviors do. Do you believe that the men pursuit of career has nothing to do with opposite sex relationships? According to evolutionist theory, men pursue careers in music and even math in order attract women. Thus, their careers do have direct relvance to relationship skills and dispositions.
A O Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Thus, their careers do have direct relvance to relationship skills and dispositions. There is no direct correlation between a person's career and their ability to seek and maintain healthy relationships. A few other points: Birds of a feather flock together, an answer to the title Some men "do" fear women who sleep around. The link between sleeping around and the ability to cheat is very real, but should be seen in overall context that its most unlikely to actually happen. Insecure men, like all insecure people - fail to see proper context. Women also fear women who sleep around. The ability to discriminate - one of thee major differences between men and women - is threatened in the presence of promiscuous women. Women who sleep around are more than likely to have issues relative to women who don't sleep around. The male equivalent of this is not men who sleep around, but commitment phobic men. .
lovelawyer30 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I think you need to wake up. A 20-year-old woman who's already slept with 20 guys is likely to be a helava lot better in bed than a 20-year-old who's only slept with a couple. Not only shouldn't you call her a slut, you should write every other guy she's been with a thank you note. You see alot of cats cant appreciate what you said because they really cant handle a real woman thats a slut they are really only fascinated with all the sluttery goin on! I like when a fly slut thats been around the town lets me punish that sweetness some more!! I love and respect the institute of sluttery, matter fact let me go find some new slut!
dispatch3d Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Views like these are the reason women never really express their total sexuality and come off as prudes/bitches/etc. I wish you guys could see the light and stop caring about how many guys she's been with. Somehow this is correlated to psychological problems? I mean, even if statistics show that it's just a CORRELATION it doesn't prove A causes B. It just means they are more LIKELY, not certain.
threebyfate Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Views like these are the reason women never really express their total sexuality and come off as prudes/bitches/etc. I wish you guys could see the light and stop caring about how many guys she's been with. Somehow this is correlated to psychological problems? I mean, even if statistics show that it's just a CORRELATION it doesn't prove A causes B. It just means they are more LIKELY, not certain.I'm a woman and view 20/20 in EITHER gender as someone with serious emotional issues that they need to address.
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