Silly_Girl Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Hi all, not sure where else this should be so apologies if I'm in the wrong place... I met a guy 8 or 9 years ago. Instantly he was my 'type'. I hadn't been out with many of them, but tall guys, with dark hair (and biggish noses?!) and dark eyes used to catch my eye. We got together and it was a pretty poor relationship. But no matter what happened, as soon as things picked up I would feel very attracted to him and although he was overweight and starting to look rough from bad habits, I still thought he was good-looking. In 8 years there was only one other guy I felt a physical attraction to. I have had a short relationship with someone else, he is the physical opposite of my ex. And in the beginning I thought it couldn't work and really had so many stupid thoughts about he and I and the physical (in)compatibility because I'm a size 14 and he's barely taller than me and really quite skinny. It was a cerebral connection that grew very quickly and now I absolutely fancy the pants off him (shame we just split up, ha ha!). But my friends all seemed to find it odd that I don't look around in a pub (or at work where there's 5:1 man/woman ratio) and see men I find attractive. I see men I acknowledge are handsome, or a catch for other women, but rarely for me. I wonder if it's a throwback from having given the physical aspect too much consideration in my rubbish relationship, or if it's a maturity thing now I am into my 30's and looking for something more. Quite interested in other's thoughts
Pacman Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I was in a situation sort of similar. There was the girl in college who everyone just fell for. Everyone thought she was really attractive and stuff. Personally I didn't know her and for some odd reason I didn't see what the fuss was all about. It wasn't till we got paired up in a group together where I saw a different side of her. She was real bubbly, down to earth and was just really fun to be around with. We ended up getting coffee and started hanging a lot more after that. After I truly got to know her, only then was I really attracted to her but saw her in a different light I guess you can say. I thought I'd share a similar story but as for your question, I truly don't have an answer
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