climbergirl Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 And how long was the vacation and what did you do? Vacationing too soon a bad idea? I ask because we are now cementing our plans (camping for a week) and seemed like a great idea at the time, but...a week?...and camping? I'm not sure is this is too much 'togetherness', but if it's gone well for others---I'd love to hear.
jen_r Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 I was with my bf for 2 years and we never went on a vacation, despite my pleading. He had to take yearly vacations with his family...used up all his vaca time. I don't think it's too soon! I think it brings people together!
Author climbergirl Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 But, Jen, we've only been together 3 months...
USMCHokie Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 My ex and I went on a 7-day cruise about one month into dating...it brought us a lot closer together sooner...I personally don't think it's a bad idea... I miss her...
Author climbergirl Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 I'm sorry, USMCH. The thing is this...no other social interaction but each other. And camping is...well...can be a bit personal, if you know what i mean. A cruise would be awesome at this stage, but camping is what we thought up. Would you guys be apprehensive at all with this circumstance? My ex and I went on a 7-day cruise about one month into dating...it brought us a lot closer together sooner...I personally don't think it's a bad idea... I miss her...
USMCHokie Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Would you guys be apprehensive at all with this circumstance? I wouldn't be apprehensive at all. Yes, camping is definitely a more personal experience, but I think it will either bring you two a lot closer together or drive you apart...so either way, it will be beneficial...
laRubiaBonita Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 i think it's a fine idea! camping can be trying even for people that "love" each other- like family .... but seriously, go with an open mind and no expectations other than having a good time. actually i think camping is better because it is relatively lower cost than staying a hotel- which if you want to look at $$ spent as time you have to stay in a relationship (some people do) then it works fine.
Pleco Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 My boyfriend and I were gonna go on a 1.5 week long camping trip all over Florida, about 2 months into dating. As it got closer to time to go, we opted to get hotels for all but one night. The one night we camped was...interesting. We camped on an island off the coast of FL. Long story short: we forgot bug spray, our tent broke, and we ended up floating out to sea, naked, on an air mattress in the middle of the night. The rest of the trip was amazing, and I don't think it was too soon at all. We didn't get tired of each other and it was never awkward.
USMCHokie Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 The one night we camped was...interesting. We camped on an island off the coast of FL. Long story short: we forgot bug spray, our tent broke, and we ended up floating out to sea, naked, on an air mattress in the middle of the night. Hahah, awesome story...but it's these times of adversity that bring two people even closer together...and have a great story to tell afterwards...
carhill Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Stbx and I went camping about two months after we started dating. I borrowed a bigger tent since my little backpack tent was too small (for her). It rained. The tent leaked. She was annoyed. I should have listened IMO, it's how you *feel* about it. Go with that. Stbx and I had a lot of really good times during that period, memories I wouldn't trade for anything. I was cleaning out the result of those memories, our RV, just yesterday and had the chance to reflect upon those years. A bit sad but still positive. Hope that helps
jen_r Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 But, Jen, we've only been together 3 months... Hmmm. I would have vaca'd with my bf @ 3 months. I see what you mean about camping though, theres going to be alot of talking going on haha. I'd say camp for a weekend! A week is longgg.
t0ri Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I don't think it's a bad idea! My boyfriend and I went on our first little vacation when we'd been officially together for 2 months, had known each other for 3. We drove with another couple, our friends, to a large city in a state near to ours, and stayed for 3 nights. I was already really comfortable with him by then, so I didn't have much apprehension, although I think having the friends there was a bit comforting. Will it just be the two of you camping? Maybe you can suggest shortening it a bit?
alphamale Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 if i've been dating a chick for a month or two i'll go on vacation with her...usually some type of road trip
Author climbergirl Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Love all the input...I'm a bit freaked out. This isn't 'on site' camping but remote. No showers, no fire pit--- just us and our gear. We wouldn't do the hotel thing-I know he would be way opposed to it. I'd agree but 1 week w/o a shower? How attractive is that? 6 + months in I wouldn't give a crap, but this soon? So maybe this is a hygiene thing.
Laugher Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 First time I went away for the weekend with my ex was about 3 months into it. I made him turn the TV up full volume when I needed to use the bathroom because I didnt want him hearing. Other than that though we had a great time!
Author climbergirl Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 And Tori, it's just the two of us. It would be great if I could point out that someone was just as smelly as I was!
carhill Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Presuming you've been naked together already, I don't see an issue. Stbx and I would do tent PTA's or, when I was solo, bicycle camping, I'd hang a hot water bag in a tree and do a primitive shower. So much for hygiene issues A week is a long time with someone one doesn't know real well, especially in a remote area, even if you've been dating and have had sex. I'd probably want to start with a weekend, like a quickie backpack trip with one or two nights, and work up from there. Go with your gut instincts. Good luck
Author climbergirl Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Haha! Compound that with asking for a shovel. That's the reality of remote camping. I'm glad that the girls are relating. Being naked isn't an issue, but a week is a loooong time. I'm relieved to hear the advice from all...especially from men. Hygiene and whatever doesn't seem to be a problem with you guys? I would shorten it but he took the week off and so did I. I don't want to seem like an insecure pansy. First time I went away for the weekend with my ex was about 3 months into it. I made him turn the TV up full volume when I needed to use the bathroom because I didnt want him hearing. Other than that though we had a great time!
nothappyjan Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 just went away with new guy for 3 nights on a road trip but stayed in hotels. We were dating for a month and known each other about 7wks. We are very close though and a lot closer than people ive dated for that time frame in the past. Actually we are booking a europe trip together for the end of the year and its only been 2months...... just feels right this time I would suggest 3 days is enough for something like camping though, if u have no showers and no distractions or places to visit.
spookie Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 CG... I'm with ya. It took about 4 months for me to stop being nervous about spending a whole day together, just the two of us. I can't imagine having taken a camping trip just 2 months in. Don't let anyone make you believe you need to be comfortable with it at this point or else there's something wrong with you/ your relationship! Everyone goes at different speeds. That said, we took a weekend-long ski trip with 2 friends after a couple weeks of dating. It was a blast.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Haha! Compound that with asking for a shovel. That's the reality of remote camping. I'm glad that the girls are relating. Being naked isn't an issue, but a week is a loooong time. I'm relieved to hear the advice from all...especially from men. Hygiene and whatever doesn't seem to be a problem with you guys? I would shorten it but he took the week off and so did I. I don't want to seem like an insecure pansy. the hygeine thing shouldn't bug you too much- hahaha- it may even help keep the bugs away! you can bring some wetnap things with you, or as CH suggested an outdoor shower bag. how will y'all get water? that will be alot to haul if you are carrying all your water for a week. the only major issue i might have is if were on my period- and that would just be an annoyance. remember if things suck, y'all can always break camp early and head home- no biggie.
carhill Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I usually camped by a stream and boiled the water on my backpack stove, heating it for shower use and also adding purifying tablets for domestic use. If totally dry camping, I'd put water in the panniers and do PTA's instead of showers. A little hot water (and soap) goes a long way towards keeping clean and fresh. In the OP's scenario, I'd stick to primitive campgrounds which at least have potable water and pit toilets. Those usually have sheltered flat tent sites and trash pickup, so one doesn't have to pack out the trash. They also generally have fire rings, since back-country fires are tightly regulated now, at least in Cali. Love a campfire at night under the stars
make me believe Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 You seem really concerned about the fact that it's for a week (which is understandable, I agree with Spookie that you do NOT have to convince yourself to be ok with it if you're not really!), so why not just make it a 3-day or weekend camping trip? That seems like the most obvious solution to me.
Shakz Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 My boyfriend and I were gonna go on a 1.5 week long camping trip all over Florida, about 2 months into dating. As it got closer to time to go, we opted to get hotels for all but one night. The one night we camped was...interesting. We camped on an island off the coast of FL. Long story short: we forgot bug spray, our tent broke, and we ended up floating out to sea, naked, on an air mattress in the middle of the night. The rest of the trip was amazing, and I don't think it was too soon at all. We didn't get tired of each other and it was never awkward. Oh come on, teaser, you've got to elaborate! I want details! As for me the earliest I ever went on a vacation with a new girlfriend was after two months. Went to Cancun, learned to dive, and had a blast. She was a little too flirtatious with other guys at times, but I put it down to the tequila.
Mary3 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 if i've been dating a chick for a month or two i'll go on vacation with her...usually some type of road trip Your so romantic
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