BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 "i don't want a relationship with you or anybody else out there right now" after 4 months? is it literal of letting down easy? hmmmmmmm... "right now?" hmmmmmmm... " 4 weeks? "
dyermaker Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 Originally posted by BrainRightHeartWrong "i don't want a relationship with you or anybody else out there right now" To me, that would mean, "Leave me alone, please"
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 I agree dyermaker... why then... i have done your personally recommended no contact rule, since then i get text messages asking to go out on Saturday night, go cycling and go bowling? i get phone calls also to go out with her, i went out with her on Sunday bowling, we had a good time, she then asked when as soon as we can go again as she had a great time? she was the dumper as you well know! weird one my friends tell me, some even tell me she is still interested, guess what my head is fried!
dyermaker Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 since then i get text messages asking to go out on Saturday night, go cycling and go bowling? Is it possible that there is still a friendship, with no romantic intentions?
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 is a friendship ever possible between 2 former lovers? if that is what she has in mind then i really think ultimately it will not happen... unfortunately! i know if i see her with another guy or if she shes me with another girl that will probably be the end of our so called friendship
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 yeah you're probably right dyermaker should i tell her i don't want her friendship? might be good to dump her back even though i don't want to! jesus life sucks, even if we like cetain people we still can't remain with them... WHAT IS THE ANSWER? what about those other opinions though dyermaker? i am not holding onto hope but just being ridiculously objective off course!!!!!!!!!! because you are a man does it make any difference? did you and if you did ... how u get back with your current bunny?
dyermaker Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 I know you've dismissed me in favor of greener pastures, but I have one more thing to add: It's perfectly possible to end a friendship on civil terms, you don't have to DumpMonkey her. You can tell her, "I don't want to see you anymore, because my feelings are mixed, and it's too painful for me right now, thank you for understanding"
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 ah dear god then i may get a hypnotist to erase my memories of her and then maybe become a monk do women like this ever come back? i accept dyermakers view as he is honest but what about hearing from women? and dyermaker u didn't answer the question regarding your girl in the pics! were u always together OR did yous breakup?
dyermaker Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 We've been separated, and there was a time when we didn't get along well, but we worked through it--it took a mutual desire though. Also, you don't WANT to erase memories of her. The experience from this relationship, once your over it, will be invaluable to your future romantic career, I promise. Women like this ALWAYS come back, just in the form of a totally different person, who actually wants a relationship with you. Okay, I concede, talk to women about it
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 Women like this ALWAYS come back, just in the form of a totally different person, who actually wants a relationship with youdyermaker, did your woman come back in the form of a totally different person or am i missing your point totally? no off course i don't want to erase memories but someitimes we have such thoughts to erase the pain even though we know how silly this actually is! The experience from this relationship, once your over it, will be invaluable to your future romantic career, I promise please elaborate Women like this ALWAYS come back, just in the form of a totally different person, who actually wants a relationship with you please elaborate... hmmmmmm u mean a totally different human being? then how come you got your original girl back... what is the difference?
dyermaker Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 The experience from this relationship, once your over it, will be invaluable to your future romantic career, I promise Relationships don't just help one learn about other people, it helps one learn about oneself. When you have a failed relationship 'under your belt', when you meet a new woman, you'll not only look for things in her behavior that you wouldn't have before, but you'd also be modifying your own. The difference between a new woman and this woman, is that she doesn't want what you want, she's learned different things than you. The way you look at it, I didn't "get" my original girl back, I had never lost her. We both wanted each other, and so that's what we pursued, that doesn't mean it was neccesarily easy, and it's honestly still not easy. It's hard having a girl who's your desktop background, you know?
amerikajin Posted January 29, 2004 Posted January 29, 2004 B-man, A general rule with women: once you're out, you're out. Move on.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 29, 2004 Author Posted January 29, 2004 you're probably right although i know of a few reconciliations in the world where e.g. one of my friends dumped him for other 2 years, he wouldn't move on, she would go with other guys right in front of him to get him to take the hint... and last year they got back together and are living together sometimes dumpers do come back to the dumpees and it is supposed to be that most times the dumpees woun't take them back people can sometimes go through periods of their life where they don't want to be in a relationship for whatever reason, i know i probably have been like that in the past although i wasn't with somebody at the time i've even read these facts recently in relationship books
amerikajin Posted January 30, 2004 Posted January 30, 2004 Yes, people do occasionally reconcile, but it's more the exception than the rule. Generally, it's hard to build up a woman's level of interest in you once it's over. You have a history of a successful relationship for some period of time, so you have something to work with at least. I wouldn't hold my breath, though. Sorry to be so negative.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 30, 2004 Author Posted January 30, 2004 i will try and not perform the art of apnea, i swear although funny enough i used to be a crap free diver one time with a 3 minute breath hold i think she is still interested in me otherwise shy would she ask me out? she has plenty of friends she could go out with so that is why i was so shocked at her invites, most people want nothing more to do with their exes, i know this from my past also i don't think it was her becoming disinterested which put her off, it must have been something else, maybe nothing to do with me whatsoever i'll just play it cool, i can't make any moves, i also can't let her call all the shots on when we can meet, it is up to her to make any moves anyway, this girl initially chose me, made the first move then after our first night asked to go out with me ? so what can i do except the above?
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